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GLYNN WASHINGTON, HOST:
Now then, sometimes we call SNAP JUDGEMENT's Jamie DeWolf the love doctor, and you're about to find out why.
NATASHA DEWOLF: When I first met Jamie I was really closed off to a lot of people. I had seen that all the relationships that I had before took away from my sense of self and took away from my purpose. And when I met Jamie was really wary of that, but also very interested in him.
JAMIE DEWOLF, BYLINE: I was incredibly cynical when I met Natasha, but she was a filmmaker and an artist who had this huge, big heart. And I started to believe that there was maybe hope - maybe. Maybe love could work.
NATASHA DEWOLF: The whole first year went by so quick. I worked on this project to give to him on our one year anniversary, in secret and in my room, and I hid it under the bed.
JAMIE DEWOLF: And our first-year anniversary, and she gives me this huge book that she's made by hand.
NATASHA DEWOLF: And as soon as he looks at, it seemed like he lost his breath.
JAMIE DEWOLF: Just completely speechless.
NATASHA DEWOLF: The front opens in the middle. It's got two doors that close in.
JAMIE DEWOLF: It had its own padlock on the front of it.
NATASHA DEWOLF: And each page is textured with painted papier-mâché, and there's hidden pockets.
JAMIE DEWOLF: So that was of our entire relationship. It was amazing. Nobody had ever given me anything like that before. So I'm flipping through this book. I get to the last page, and she has a special surprise - four envelopes. Her idea is that we're going to write a letter to ourselves, and then a letter to each other that's going to be opened in exactly one year on that day.
NATASHA DEWOLF: I write a letter to myself. My letter was pretty encouraging, but also a little threatening.
JAMIE DEWOLF: It's like you're coaching the future you.
NATASHA DEWOLF: The letter I wrote to him was very thankful. It was full of gratitude.
JAMIE DEWOLF: And then, I have to write my letter to her. So I decided to take the biggest gamble that I've ever taken in my life, and try to be really hopeful that my future self would agree with me, otherwise I was going to have a problem.
NATASHA DEWOLF: The deal is that we padlock it, set it aside, and we won't open it up for a year.
JAMIE DEWOLF: Our second year was harder than our first year, and over the entire year I kept thinking of the letter. I never forgot what I wrote. It was this countdown to the day when the me of the past is now going to have to reconcile with the me of the future.
NATASHA DEWOLF: A year from that day we're in the same room at the same place.
JAMIE DEWOLF: We have the key, we unlock it, and then we unseal the envelopes. First we read the letters that we wrote to ourselves.
NATASHA DEWOLF: I kind of felt sorry for him a little bit because it seemed like the Jamie from a year before was being a jerk.
JAMIE DEWOLF: I was like, you had better get your act together. You know, this long sort of fatherly checklist of all the things I should have done by this time.
NATASHA DEWOLF: When I read the one to myself, it was almost as if, like, my best friend time traveled. It was inspiring but also kind of frantic and pushy.
JAMIE DEWOLF: And then we get to the letter that we wrote each other.
NATASHA DEWOLF: I was thanking him for the whole year. I was thanking him for all the changes we've made together.
JAMIE DEWOLF: And then she opened up her letter.
NATASHA DEWOLF: Break the seal, take out the piece of paper - for a split second I'm a bit disappointed because it's a really short note, and it wasn't even a full page. It was like a ripped up half a page. It says, close your eyes and count to ten. And I did and I'm thinking, alright well, it better be a bigger note. But then I'm counting down...
JAMIE DEWOLF: ...And when she opened her eyes...
NATASHA DEWOLF: ...He's on one knee, and he's got a ring, and asks if I will marry him.(Laughing) I say yes. He knew he wanted to marry me a year ago. That is very flattering.
JAMIE DEWOLF: I've had male friends of mine say, how did you know you were going to be together in a year? I didn't. You know, I wanted to be brave and take a leap. I'm just glad we landed where we did.
WASHINGTON: Jamie DeWolf and Natasha DeWolf still make art for each other and are partners in shows and films all over the bay area. That piece was produced by Mark Ristich.
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