Sarah Crossman thinks she's picked up the basics of parenting in the 8 weeks Finnley James has been around. Among those lessons: How to forgive herself for not having all the answers.
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Sarah Crossman gained around 50 pounds during her pregnancy. For a woman who was always slender without really trying, she says, she was ashamed of her pregnant body.
New mom Sarah Crossman asks for suggestions on how to help her colicky baby, Finn, who has bouts of inconsolable crying.
For Sarah Crossman, breast-feeding is an intense experience — so intense, she says, she wasn't quite prepared to step aside and give others the satisfaction of feeding her son, Finn.
When she was pregnant, Sarah Crossman and her husband talked at length about their child-rearing philosophy and read countless books on the topic. But now, less than a month into parenthood, she's looking back and laughing at the pregnant chick she used to be — that is, when she's not crying inconsolably.
Sarah Crossman is raising her newborn son, Finn, on a tiny island in Maine. Everyone in town, it seems, goes out of their way to ask the new mom how she and Finn are doing.
Even while she was pregnant, Sarah Crossman was the woman who said that her kid would never run her life. Now that little Finn is here — think again.
So much for best laid plans. Finnley James came into the world not at home, as planned, but in a hospital. Here he is, says mom Sarah Crossman: "6 pounds, 12 ounces, 19.5 inches, 3 weeks early, and totally perfect."
Sarah Crossman says she wants to teach her child to believe in equality and to question authority. "But then I look at myself and wonder what I want to be when I grow up," she says, "and worry that I am completely and utterly unqualified to do this job."
Sarah Crossman looks forward to a time when she's not defined by the little bundle in her belly.