Lateefah Torrence

Still No Name For Baby, But A Heartfelt Thank You To The NPR Community

A cake for Lateefah's nameless and gender-unknown baby

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Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond to my naming post. It was a nearly overwhelming experience, but Frank and I read each and every comment.

As Laura Wattenberg mentioned on All Things Considered, although I have the common yearning for our child's name to be somewhat different than the current top picks, I have similar tastes to my NPR audience peers. Many names Frank and I have considered popped up in the responses. When I read commenter Greg Jackson's suggestion of Corva, inspired by NPR's own Korva Coleman, I laughed, as I had been scheming to add Mandalit del Barco's gorgeous name to our list.

I loved how much I learned from reading the comments. Cora Ann J. suggested her own name. Not only has she had many touching experiences with strangers reminiscing over the Coras of their pasts, she also mentioned that Cora is another name for Persephone.

About Lateefah

Lateefah Torrence, 38, is a writer who lives in New York, N.Y. She and her husband, Frank, welcomed Dalia Joule on July 17.

For my first Communion, one of my grandmothers gave me a copy of the classic D'Aulaires Book of Greek Myths, and I have been fascinated by Greek names and mythology ever since. Many commenters suggested using a family name, and I think choosing a name from Greek mythology would be a novel way to honor family ties and values.

I was flummoxed by the number of respondents who mentioned having trouble with what many would consider to be perfectly "normal" names. Joy Natwick touchingly shared her story of being ridiculed on the playground for her "weird" name. Classmates even accused her of having made her name up. Joy's story illustrates what many others wrote: Bullies will be bullies, and we shouldn't pick a name from a place of fear.

With all of the last-minute getting ready, family visits and multitude of doctor visits for pokes and prods, Frank and I haven't had much time to revisit the name issue. I'm hoping the baby will give us a bit more time to apply what we've learned from reading the many stories shared on the blog of naming children, and living with the names our parents gave us.

When we meet our newborn and try to decide which name fits the wrinkly and wailing new life in our arms, we will unquestionably take heed of the advice from commenter Adlai New, who reminded us that after all of our Sturm und Drang over this baby's name, she or he may grow up and change it anyway.

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