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by Carrie Brownstein

 
 

Curbed

Sunday night was the season finale (and possible series finale?) of one of my favorite shows, Curb Your Enthusiasm. This was the harshest of seasons. Even for a show so adept and influential in the realms of provocation and discomfort, no other season has been so raw. Larry David all but undressed in front of his viewers, letting us see past his misanthropic acumen to a sprawling vulnerability. This was the season of remorse and of self-loathing. Earlier this year, David separated from his wife of fourteen years. And in Curb's fictionalized version of the event, Cheryl (played by Cheryl Hines) walks out on him as well. In one of the bleaker episodes, Larry's friends choose sides, and all but Jeff -- his manager -- choose Cheryl.

The most difficult aspect of Curb's sixth season is that those of us who identify with Larry (I include myself in this group) are now forced to wonder if we too are really this intolerable. Previously, it always helped to have Cheryl there as the sympathetic and arguably more stable partner. As the audience's translator, Cheryl reconfigured even Larry's most egregious foibles into excusable, or at least forgivable, misunderstandings. As long as Cheryl tolerated and loved Larry, then we Larrys of the world were worthy of love as well; all we needed was an understanding boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, who got us and even appreciated our OCD, hypochondriacal, chaos-courting ways. But this season, Cheryl finally had enough. When she called on an Airfone from a harrowing plane ride, Larry hung up. The TiVo guy was there, and we all know how hard it is to get one-on-one time with any customer service rep. Couldn't Cheryl's needs be deferred until a more convenient time? Didn't she understand? Of course she didn't, and really, why should she have? Watching this season, I actually wanted Cheryl to leave, to find someone better, to move from a role of comedic triage nurse to a character in charge of her own disasters.

What I love about this show is that it's as sinister as any TV drama. As Alessandra Stanley wrote about the fictional Davids' relationship clashes in The New York Times, "that they are played for laughs on this faux cinema verite comedy only makes them sharper-edged." Agreed. Not every show is willing to go, or has a character that allows them to go, towards peaks of hysteria--that place where sad and happy merge in a tremor that resembles crying as much as it does laughter.

The character of Larry David has always extracted the absurd from situations as if it were a rotten tooth. What he pulls out is ugly to look at, but it's also an indication of an underlying sickness. David drags the mundane kicking and screaming towards the insane. And in a time when what we've come to accept as mundane is really quite insane, it's good to remember what we can learn about ourselves when we acknowledge all that is unhinged--both within us and in the world at large.

Thanks to Curb Your Enthusiasm, some of my own outbursts and mishaps feel validated. Like when my car door nicked a sedan in an airport loading zone, and I found myself daring its driver--an eighty-year-old man in a leg cast--to come out and punch me. It wasn't my finest moment, but it was a Larry David moment. And, sometimes, those are nearly as good.

12:29 AM ET | 11-13-2007 | permalink

 

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"Hey, I may loathe myself, but it has nothing to do with the fact that I'm Jewish."

Sent by tim | 9:34 AM ET | 11-13-2007

Understood.
{While we tend to judge [& even despise] those who share our quirks in "real life," somehow it's rather comforting to see one's own neuroses reflected in the affable quirkiness of a TV and/or movie personality. It strokes the ego quite satisfyingly. And renders insanity innocuous and even desirable.}

I recently had a related experience while my roommate was watching Me and You and Everyone We Know for the first time. In my frenzied anticipation of her judgment, I had inflated the movie to elephantine proportions. So of course her reaction was apt to diverge from that which I had desired for it to elicit. Right before she began watching, I made some sort of doom-sealing comment about how I loved all of the characters. By the halfway point, she pushed pause simply to tell me that she couldn't find much reason to like any of them. I blinked in disbelief.
"Especially the main character. She has some severe issues to resolve."
I was offended because Christine was me. In all of her romantic delusions and self-flagellation. [Until that point, I had assumed that everyone projects imagined conversations onto couples seen from afar.]
My roommate had not just insulted the film, but she had also sucker-punched my poor palsied ego.
But perhaps this was for the best an indirect critique of my personality flaws is [likely] slightly less damaging than a head-on confrontation.

Sent by Zia | 10:33 AM ET | 11-13-2007

I'm in graduate school right now, and my program is populated by a lot of people who take themselves far too seriously. In this setting, I find the temptation to behave as inappropriately as Larry David does both constant and overwhelming.

Sent by jamie | 10:51 AM ET | 11-13-2007

I'm reaching the end of my current TV on DVD cycle of Entourage, which I'm not particularly proud or fond of. But like any one-way relationship, I like to drag it out as long as possible. I was near despair at nothing left to watch (I refuse to get cable because I have no self-control and nothing but CBC comes through on regular TV here). I've even descended to the depths of 24.

Thank you for giving me a new direction. Hopefully the relationship will be even more fulfilling than that with Vinnie Chase.

Sent by Elizabeth | 10:58 AM ET | 11-13-2007

the last minute and a half of the curb finale were pure perfection.

I know! I watched it again last night just for the ending. -CB

Sent by paulb | 11:44 AM ET | 11-13-2007

I agree with you Jamie. I just finished graduate school and it was hard not to have a Larry David moment from time to time.

Sent by SAB | 12:16 PM ET | 11-13-2007

I can't watch Curb Your Enthusiasm, it gets to me too much. I always wind up actually yelling at my tv, "No, don't say that! It wont end up well!" But he never listens, and humiliating misunderstandings ensue for my own discomfort.

Sent by Ben | 12:17 PM ET | 11-13-2007

I thought this blog was supposed to be about music. There are a LOT of people writing about TV.

Please see the FAQ. There are a LOT of people writing about music as well. However, more music posts to come soon. -CB

Sent by Eve | 12:52 PM ET | 11-13-2007

You did what to an 80-year-old man? HA HA!
I agree. My relationship ended, because among other things, my inner Larry David. The funny thing is, that i've actually become less Larry!

Sent by Alex R | 12:54 PM ET | 11-13-2007

i have a rather annoying habit of sing-humming the tune when the (in)appropriate moment arises. carrie, this blog is good, good stuff. hello from new york.

Sent by mary | 12:58 PM ET | 11-13-2007

i can't believe you didn't go in after the old man

Sent by jacob | 12:59 PM ET | 11-13-2007

The inanity of other people is unavoidable. Some feel it stronger than others, and can't let it pass. The scenes where Larry is trying to let it go and change are some of the hardest ones to watch. I wanted him to be able to change for his relationship, yet I felt like it was causing him to suffer. I guess it is a choice of how you are going to suffer. Buddhist truths suck.

Sent by mikeyj | 1:13 PM ET | 11-13-2007

that was the most hilarious ending ever! that family fits larry perfectly. it made up for the awkwardness that was the rest of the season. some of it was pretty painful and hit a little too close to home. it just makes you see that people really are crazy- other people, not me.

Sent by Lauren | 1:15 PM ET | 11-13-2007

"We Are All Larry David" -- From the New Yorker, and worth a read I imagine...

http://www.newyorker.com/talk/2007/10/29/071029ta_talk_ward

Sent by Ewilensky | 1:28 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Curbed!!? Well my philosophy would be to jump it, and ease back on track. Don't jerk the wheel, but ease your motion and attention back to the road. Sure the ride may be a bit bumpy afterwards, but at least you're still going forward. Oh.., this is about a tele show. I have no point of reference for the topic de jour, as I haven't watched an epi. So, well then, why am I replying? I can't side with Cheryl, or Larry here. I don't know their neuroses, so I can't complete the picture. I will say Larry was off for hanging up on anyone let alone to get back to a Tivo representative. That insensitive prick. Hey, que sera sera, eh. He'll find someone to buy it again, and go with his flow, or maybe even help to make his synapses spark a little bit differently. My vote is for Cheryl to go and stop picking up his pieces. But, that may very well shake the storyline.

Anyways, you've already said it best, "And in a time when what we've come to accept as mundane is really quite insane, it's good to remember what we can learn about ourselves when we acknowledge all that is unhinged--both within us and in the world at large." Glad to hear that you processed the outcome of your own little situation right quickly, and realized that it might take a lot of effort for that old man to even stand up, yet hobble on over to that "maniacal woman with the fire in her eyes..." What a headline, Carrie B. sparks road rage on the way to the tarmac. Old man states, he's tired of all of these punky whipper snappers.

News at 11.

Sent by Brian | 1:31 PM ET | 11-13-2007

thank god no one has spoiled the ending for me, as I don't have cable and depend on the kindness of others for my curb fix...I was recently on vacation and when getting back into my rental car, my door bumped into the car next to me and the woman who was sitting in the passenger seat shot me a dirty look that I ignored. She proceeded to roll down her window and exclaim "at least give me the courtesy of a sorry or a look that says 'I'm sorry'"...I wasn't sorry - I tapped her car, there was no damage, there's no need for an apology - and it's a car fer christ sakes, not a baby...I continued to say nothing and she rolled her window up and I drove off. I can't help but wonder how it would have gone if I'd said something as equally insane...we're a strange animal.

I too appreciate the non-music topics, your blog is well-rounded!

Sent by Jason | 2:45 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Eighty year-old men in leg casts shouldn't be driving anyway.

Sent by Celeste | 2:45 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Granted I live in a remote region of America (at least when it comes to free thought), but for years I felt that Larry was the only character on television with whom I could relate. I was proud of my Larryism, until I started flirting with a woman who told me that association was despicable. Even since then I've been ashamed of my inner Larry. Thank you, Carrie. You've freed him once and for all. Now I know I'm not alone. I'm not afraid anymore!

Sent by Sally | 3:38 PM ET | 11-13-2007

I just laughed so hard picturing you yelling at that old man. Hahaha.

Sent by Karissa | 4:31 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Word to the non-music topic appreciation. Even though I don't watch the tele much.

Sent by Jaime | 4:56 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Did you know that when you click on the tiny picture of your face on the right side of the page it takes you to the biography of Susan Stamberg. I guess this comment would have been more apppropriate a few days ago but I only found out about this blog today.

Sent by jl | 4:57 PM ET | 11-13-2007

I am still trying to work my way up to "Curb Your Enthusiasm". I made it through the brilliantly underrated "The Comeback" with many breaks for recovery from being stressed out and emotionally side-swiped by the show. Maybe 2008 will be the year I try to watch "Curb"!

Sent by Chriso | 6:18 PM ET | 11-13-2007

that was totally your chance to punch someone, afterwards you could have healed them.

Sent by RZ | 6:33 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Part of me wants to watch "Curb" but I am afraid I will like it more than Arrested Development. A lame excuse, I know... but not if you know how much I love Arrested Development. The day I like something more than AD will be a sad day for me.

Sent by Carla | 9:46 PM ET | 11-13-2007

Wow, I am so glad you wrote about Curb Your Enthusiasm. I love that show. I think we all have a little bit of Larry inside us- your quote at the end completely says it all.

Sent by Dan G | 10:05 PM ET | 11-13-2007

What a strange and shocking show. Strange and shocking in the best sense, I should add - in the same way I found Flannery O'Connor's best stuff (like The Violent Bear It Away) strange and shocking. I've only seen four episodes from this season, but they've all haunted me a little. I was talking with a friend, and we agreed that Larry David himself isn't so bad, but when you combine him with all of his friends and the world he inhabits, that's where it gets too much. I love the show because it's totally unapologetic about being based on wealthy and priviledged people, but I could see anyone who's an outsider getting fed up. Basically, I don't find Larry intolerable, taken in isolation - but when you take his OCD and odd petty concerns, and combine them with the strange petty concerns of his entertainment industry friends, that's when a well meaning girlfriend or boyfriend should run away screaming.

I guess what I'm saying is, people with Larry David traits should cultivate a wide circle of friends.

And I totally second the opinion that 80 year old men in casts shouldn't be driving. I think one almost hit me on my bike this morning. Taunting them makes America safer...er, maybe.

Sent by Brendan | 11:21 PM ET | 11-13-2007

"You gotta get in that ass Larry. Write "Larry was here, wash me, all that shit.' It's my favorite show too.

Sent by Val | 3:47 AM ET | 11-14-2007

"I found myself daring its driver--an eighty-year-old man in a leg cast--to come out and punch me."

Chicks like you are scary. My dad has told me that when he's driving, the most intimidating, agressive drivers are young women in their 20's. What's up with that. Something to prove? Ick, I am so over this "too cool for school attitude". Grow up, you're not special.

Sent by Mark | 5:56 AM ET | 11-14-2007

i always have "seinfeld" moments where something happens to me that is odd and i can't call it out because it would be even odder for me to do so...like when george bought a salad for a lady and elaine gave it to her so she was thanked for buying the salad, taking all the credit. i have these moments often but not in that context.

Sent by trish | 12:30 PM ET | 11-14-2007

You're dead on about this season being more personal and painful. This show is excruciating sometimes, but most of the time, it's something Larry causes like accusing a cancer patient of being a skinhead, or stealing memorial flowers. His friends choosing sides was harsh justice, but his selfish nature persisted despite that.

The beauty of the show is its enormous dynamic comic range. One moment you have the most ridiculous, selfish, vindictive sight like Larry telling his therapist that he's out of time during a prison visit, then you have Cheryl's facial expression as she hears the whole story. Plus, it's punctuated with some brilliant improvisations between characters, like the "Ben Laden" riff between Richard Lewis and Larry. In between, there's actual drama and angst, made more stark by Larry's usually inappropriate, unfiltered reactions.

I sure hope there's another season, but I'm just happy that his brilliant comic mind has given us 6 seasons so far...

Sent by Drew | 2:26 PM ET | 11-14-2007

Why are women even out driving? Who let them out of the house?!

Sent by Jaime | 7:36 PM ET | 11-14-2007

THANKS for not given away TOO much... (no HBO means I must wait till the DVD's appear on)

Ive often wondered if you were a fan of Curb / Seinfeld... as I have a bootleg somewhere where you dedicated "Modern Girl" to Larry David... and I often wondered if it was THAT Larry David... or just someone else with the name...

and considering my last name...
I shall now make a Cosmo KRAMER exit from the door of your blog...

Sent by MadTIGERmaN | 9:43 PM ET | 11-14-2007

SPOILER

So, what's the opinion of everyone? Was the last minute and a half real? Or just a fantasy? Hopefully we'll get another season and find out. For now I guess i'll just deal with this tickle in my anus...

Sent by TJ W. | 9:54 PM ET | 11-14-2007

trish ~ 'i always have "seinfeld" moments where something happens to me that is odd and i can't call it out because it would be even odder for me to do so...like when george bought a salad for a lady and elaine gave it to her so she was thanked for buying the salad, taking all the credit. i have these moments often but not in that context.'

"WORLD'S ARE COLLIDING!"

Sent by Brian | 11:59 AM ET | 11-15-2007

yes..curb is (was?) one of the best shows, but i have a feeling it'll be back..hopefully?

Sent by azin | 6:56 PM ET | 11-15-2007

"Albrecht said that as far as returning shows go, Curb Your Enthusiasm will return for a sixth and final season sometime in 2007, and polygamy drama Big Love will come back for its second season next June".

Sent by tinkle | 3:17 AM ET | 11-24-2007

Thank you! I've been watching Season 2 of Curb while I work out at home lately and I was beginning to feel guilty saying to myself "but that's what I would have done" about something terrible Larry does. I thought I was the only one.

Sent by Stacia | 5:50 PM ET | 11-30-2007

we're all 1/2 vampire asshole - it doesn't show in the mirror

(love your blog)

Sent by sharon | 8:47 AM ET | 12-02-2007

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Carrie Brownstein is a writer and musician. She was a member of the critically acclaimed rock band Sleater-Kinney. Her writing has appeared in 'The New York Times,' 'The Believer,' 'Pitchfork,' and various book anthologies on music and culture. Read Carrie's F.A.Q.

 

 


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