A True Goodbye

 
“As I shook hands with them and said goodbye, I said what cancer patients always say to each other in those situations: 'Good luck. I hope I don't see you again.'”
 
 

I hit the bell today in the hospital corridor. It's one of those chimes made out of an oxygen bottle or something like that, and when you whack it with a mallet, it gives out a nice clear tone. My newest friends, who were standing with me, all cheered, and you could hear applause coming from the waiting rooms. That's what you do when you've completed your last radiation treatment. You hit the bell.

It had been a long day. We arrived to find that the machine was down, and it would be five hours before I would finally lie down on that table for the last time. But in the last couple of weeks we all became friends as we waited together each day, so the time actually passed pretty quickly. Some of the other patients are getting chemo at the same time as radiation. That's a tough load. They went off to chemo and then made their way back to radiation, each now with the telltale blue tape around a wrist.

As I shook hands with them and said goodbye, I said what cancer patients always say to each other in those situations: "Good luck. I hope I don't see you again." That's not being rude. It's saying that you hope they make it, that there won't be more treatment, that we won't run into each other waiting for some other form of therapy.

And it's true. I genuinely like the members of our temporary group. I will miss them. But I truly hope we never see each other again.

 

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Congratulations on finishing you radiation. Completing those milestones is always satisfying.

Sent by Lisa | 8:04 AM ET | 04-15-2008

It's interesting, that strong but temporary bond you build with other patients, nurses and hospital staff as you go through treatment. I had to go to the UNC hospitals yesterday for something completely unrelated to cancer, and passed right by the cancer clinic. I briefly thought about going in to say hi to some of the nurses on the chemo floor but decided I just didn't want to be reminded of it all, even 2 years later. It was enough just being back in the parking garage!

And congratulations on completing that last radiation treatment, Leroy - sorry you had to wait so dang long for it. Now, let the healing begin (again)!

Sent by Gretchen Hoag | 8:09 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Congratulations on your last radiation treatment Leroy!

I wish I had had a bell to ring on my last day. I did get some flowers from this sweet older man who volunteered there as someone to just hang out with people while they wait.

Sent by Jenn | 8:19 AM ET | 04-15-2008

It's so true. I remember saying those exact same words to my physical therapist when I was completed with my rehab. We both got a big laugh out of it, but she reminded me that it would be ok to see each other again "on the outside".

Sent by jen barad | 8:24 AM ET | 04-15-2008

RING THAT BELL AND CONGRATULATIONS, Leroy!

I hope and pray that is the last time you have to endure having radiation.

When my sister completed her treatments 2 years ago, she received a "diploma" and I received a call from the doctor thanking dad and I for making sure she got to all of her appointments no matter what the weather was. This week, starts the what might be the final every three month visits. We hit the magic number of 2 years in March. I do hope that is the case. If it isn't I will be on my on because dad is not here now to help. And I know he would if we needed him, because that is what dad's do.

Sent by Sue Chap | 8:30 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Am so glad that it was time to ring the bell! Pray that the radiation was effective and that you will continue to get stronger. Thanks for helping me to be a better support person-your insight has been invaluable to me.

Sent by Jen | 8:42 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy, another mile stone.I am glad that you have finished your last treatment. Now just keep that therapy going. I am sure those involved in your group are happy to see you finish but will miss you also.

You and Laurie have a good day. Hopefully some sun shine in your day.

Sent by dorothy in oregon | 8:43 AM ET | 04-15-2008

CONGRATULATIONS Leroy!!We surely hope that the treatments had their desired effect and you will be able to heal and resume your life. That is the wonderful/sad thing about time - it does go by so swiftly when you look back on it but seems so long when you look ahead to it. Strange.
Now what will you have? Your PT will continue, naturally, but now will there be more X rays to determine what the radiation has done? Will you get back to your writing?
My eyesight has not improved, only changed, since my little stroke a year ago. I think I will try driving once again to find out how I do. Other factors are affecting my sight and the Doctor's seem reluctant to tackle them. Strange, and sad, that when you reach a certain age, they seem to "give up" on you and just allow you to fade away instead of improving the quality any longer. You are young yet Leroy, so keep after them to help you restore yourself, not simply maintain your body.

Sent by J C R | 8:50 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy, You did it! That bell signals the end of one boxing round that Ed Steger described so well yesterday. You will win that round on points at the very least, although we are all hoping for a KO.

To Teri who posted the other day, I'm so very sorry about your loss. There is an eloquence in your anger, which we all have in common. Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time.

Eileen, thanks for your good wishes. And, wishing you the best outcome in your clinical trial. For those of us with few standard options, pressing forward with the latest research offerings is positive progress.

Sent by Sheara | 8:53 AM ET | 04-15-2008

That bell must have sounded so good! Congrats on completion of that part of this journey. I believe better days are ahead.

Sent by jcmoyer | 8:54 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy,
I like saying..."Hope the next time I see you, it's at the grocery store!!!"
Congrats on this milestone...keep on trucking!

Sent by bethann | 9:13 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy, congratulations on reaching another milestone! That is so HUGE!
Continued prayers for all of you!

Sent by Laurie Hirth | 9:34 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Congratulations Leroy. I'm so glad you are finished with the radiation.

Prayers to all.

Sent by Sasha | 9:40 AM ET | 04-15-2008

I believe so strongly in celebrating every milestone. Congratulation! However, with Cancer it is almost like, "Okay, what next?" Start working on rebuilding your strength for whatever is next. Remember, as long as they are doing something -- that's good.

Sent by Dona | 9:41 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Hip Hip Hooray!!! Congratulations Leroy. I too believe in celebrating all milestones. So, today I celebrate you. I lift my cup of tea in honor of you and all that you have accomplished. This evening I look forward to lifting my glass of wine. Today I celebrate you.

Sent by Penny Coeur d'Alene, Idaho | 10:03 AM ET | 04-15-2008

RING....Leroy, I heard the bell all the way out here in Illinois. A really sweet sound. Thanks for sharing its ringing with me.

Sent by Townie7890 | 10:09 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Congratulations Leroy-it's great to have finished radiation. David, my husband, finished his about a month ago and said exactly the same thing to the nurses and technicians and other patients-and we thought we were being original!!!!! David has a PET scan and MRI next month, so we are praying for good news. I think and pray for all of us who are going through this strange and turbulent journey. It's good being part of LA as Sue Chap describes us!

Sent by Tina from Alton IL | 10:18 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Dear Leroy,

Congratulations! Bells should be ringing everywhere!

Lianne

Sent by Lianne Friedman | 10:19 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Hi Leroy, AND YOU MADE ME CRY AGAIN. SO SO SO THRILLED THAT YOU ARE THROUGH WITH YOUR RADIATION AND YOU KNOW THAT WE HOPE AND PRAY THAT IT DID WHAT IT HAD TO DO! Please take care of Leroy and let Laurie help with that. You know taht our thoughts and prayers are always with you. G-d bless you.

Jan White

Sent by Janice Goldberg White | 10:35 AM ET | 04-15-2008

So happy for you, Leroy! That bell must have sounded VERY sweet. It was a tough go this time, but you persisted, and in doing so, gave hope to so many others. All the best to you, my friend.

Sent by Susan Crawford | 10:39 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy, Those special, short-term friends you make under those rather unpleasant circumstances can be the friends that you never forget. You will probably never exchange numbers or even consider doing so, yet, there is often a bond that is deeper than you may have with someone you have known for years.
I love the part about ringing the bell and the waiting room applauding. Good for you, Leroy, you have made it through another part of your treatments. May the effects of this one last and may any pain be managed well.

Sent by NancyGM | 10:42 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Love the image of you ringing that bell. Continuing to wish you well, and very grateful that you have chosen to share your journey with so many of us.

Sent by Dorothy | 10:46 AM ET | 04-15-2008

I am really happy for you. I hope and pray it works for a good long time and you don't have to endure the table again. But Leroy, you cannot title your posts with things like "A Real Goodbye" - scared the heck out of me!!

Sent by keri | 10:59 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Ring out the old and ring in the new. I would of helped you ring that bell if I had been there. I also have to agree with Keri, that "A Real Goodbye" scared the heck out of me also. Have a great day Leroy. Love and Prayers to all.

Sent by Teresa in WV | 11:16 AM ET | 04-15-2008

I rang the gong at my treatment center 2 and a half years ago and the relief I felt is still with me. My whack made heads turn throughout the department. I only wish I could have hit it a little harder.

Congratulations!!!!!

Sent by Chris | 11:31 AM ET | 04-15-2008

For those who don't know, ringing the bell is symbolic of an old sea-faring custom when returning ships would ring the bell as they came in to signal the end of a long journey. (at least that's what they told us at M.D. Anderson). It is indeed an end to part of the long journey. I wish you many many good travels ahead.

Sent by Carole | 11:34 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy,

"The bells are ringing, for me and my gal..." Hope you and Laurie can now enjoy some good time together. Another treatment down and may there be no need for others.

Blessings.

Sent by Diana Kitch | 11:36 AM ET | 04-15-2008

Congrats on ringing the bell. I remember my last day as well. Gifts were given to the friends I had made and gifts were received. Some I never saw again and others I've stayed in touch with on the outside. We all meet people for a reason. All experiences have meaning.

Ring-ring Leroy!

Sent by Lori | 11:41 AM ET | 04-15-2008

May I say, that "sounds" good!

Seriously, it was also nice to hear you on NPR the other day.

Take care.

Sent by Dave Utrata | 12:05 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Ring that bell! Congrats Leroy. When I finished my "33" I received a certificate of appreciation and merit signed by all the staff. It was a nice touch. looking back I can't believe I did it!

Sent by Dianne (DC) | 12:14 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy, It is a load off to know you will not have to lie down on that awful table yet again. Did you leave your helmet on the ground next to the bell. That is what happens when you ring the bell in Marine Recon training. What you are going through has been tougher, hang in there Marine. Stan

Sent by Stan Wozniak | 12:17 PM ET | 04-15-2008

I read today's email with tears in my eyes. I hope you hit the bell REALLY hard! How wonderful to hear the cheers from your friends going through this, too! Hope you celebrated once you were home!

Sent by Barbara Langan | 12:20 PM ET | 04-15-2008

QUOTE: But Leroy, you cannot title your posts with things like "A Real Goodbye" - scared the heck out of me!! UNQUOTE

I AGREE!! My heart is still out of sync!! SMILE

Congrats on ringing the bell!! Must have sounded so sweet...

God bless...

Sent by Patsy Elmore | 12:43 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Great this part is over, have a cookies and cream milkshake and a deep breath for good measure. Always keep moving ahead even at turtle speed. May the Lords grace shine on us all.

Sent by Hal | 1:08 PM ET | 04-15-2008

YAY!

:)
hope the bell was rung LOUD and CLEAR!

Sent by Krupali Tejura MD | 1:23 PM ET | 04-15-2008

p.s. Leroy PBS is showing a documentary tomorrow night (April 16th) about cancer entitled the Truth about Cancer:

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/takeonestep/cancer/about.html

Vinay is one of the stories represented...as some of you may remember, he is the orthopedic surgery resident who came down with leukemia last year... huge bone marrow drives were done in the South Asian population as the registry only has a limited amount of potential donors. The drives were successful, however, he is still battling a relapse.

Sent by Krupali Tejura MD | 1:26 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy, congratulations on ringing the bell. I've never commented or posted before but I must say to you, Thanks. I had a driveway moment way back when I heard you say " My doctor is trying to kill me." I thought what a brave, courageous man. And brilliant the way he can articulate these feelings and apprehensions so many of us are having.
This guy deserves a pulitzer or an oscar or a medal of honor or a world series ring or something for how meaningful and wonderful his sharing with us is. After 2 some odd years I still feel that way. Again Leroy, Thank you - Dave

Sent by Dave Somers | 1:31 PM ET | 04-15-2008

We are waiting room comrads; the ill-fitted flimsy gown brigade; reporting for duty.

Sent by Bob A. | 3:14 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Diane - Please suggest a few alkaline treats.

Sent by Bob A. | 3:32 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Congratulations Leroy! This is your day - the first of many sunnier ones to come, we hope.

Sent by Patte | 3:36 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Conga-rats and loads of well wishes for you Leroy :o)

I've no doubt your chime was clear and loud and long.

Sent by Teri Thomas | 4:09 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Congratulations Leroy!

Sent by Marcy in NJ | 4:27 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Thank you for your frank and helpful radio talks and written reports. You have helped so many, including me, to get through some really scary times.
Congratulations on ringing the bell! There was no bell at my radiation facility, but lots of hugs. And, I peeled my name tag off the cubby that held my robe!

Sent by Deborah Henderson | 4:45 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Thank you Krupali for the heads up on the PBS. Alaska will have it too, I hope. And "good one, Leroy", as always.

Sent by Lucy | 6:38 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Congratulations Leroy - I hope you rang it loud!!!!

Sent by Deb from Michigan | 7:09 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Hi Leroy,
I'm a huge fan. Your blog is incredibly moving and direct. I linked to it on mine today: http://www.caring.com/blogs/caring-currents/telling-our-stories-the-importance-of-personal-cancer-blogs
Caring.com is a site for those caring for others, parents or partners, and I handle the cancer section. Thanks so much for continuing to share your story, and congratulations on saying goodbye to the radiology lab.
Be well,
Melanie Haiken

Sent by Melanie Haiken | 8:23 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Dear Leroy, thank you for inspiring so many others going through this disease. Ilost my beautiful wife Bella to cancer 8-3-07,she loved your daily messages and prayed for your health. God Bless you. kenny williams

Sent by kenny williams | 9:03 PM ET | 04-15-2008

What a beautiful vivid experience you've described. I can hear the bell all the way down here in Florida too.

Sent by Nichole | 9:10 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy,

I woke up feeling like a boneless chicken - sixth chemo regime in two years and the side effects are getting to me.

Then I read your Blog and something about you ringing that bell made me break out into a silly smile before I could even think about it.

Thanks for giving me such a happy start to the day, boneless or not. I hope somebody does that for you.

Sent by Shin | 9:20 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Hi Leroy,
I always get to this post late but congratulations just the same. I hope you enjoyed your day of celebration.

Sent by Paulette | 10:48 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Just another thanks for sharing your experiences with me, the good (like today) and the not-so-good.
Love your stanger/friend,
Theresa

Sent by Theresa Murphy | 10:52 PM ET | 04-15-2008

Leroy,
Congrats on the ringing of the bell. My husband always received a kindergarten-like diploma which I have highly resented. Who wants to be a graduate of the radiation room? I like the bell so much more. As I write this I wait for a call from the doctor because my husband is in the hospital with pulmonary emboli due to radiation and chemo most likely. We almost lost him 2 days ago and I think that is when the reality of this world hit me. To all of you..enjoy this day. To Leroy..thank you for your wonderful writing and blessings to you and Laurie.

Sent by kathie | 7:42 AM ET | 04-16-2008

Cancer must be a true test of living in the present. You probably think about your past life full of strength and wonder what the future holds, but the only real place to be is in the present. My the bell of life ring in your heart everyday.

Sent by rebecca | 2:10 PM ET | 04-16-2008

Leroy, I'm writing you from Lima, Peru. I really think you help a lot of people with your website, thanks for sharing all this with us. My advice may be a little unusual. Why don't you forget about cancer a few weeks. Having to write about it everyday probably makes it stronger. Take a few weeks just for you, relax, think about other things, rent comedies and spend days laughing. We'll definitely miss you here but I think cancer doesn't deserve you thinking about it everyday. Love, Cynthia

Sent by Cynthia | 5:40 PM ET | 04-16-2008

" But I truly hope we never see each other again." Ain't that the truth.

A warm virtual hug to you

Carrie

Sent by Carrie Belair | 12:24 PM ET | 04-17-2008

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