Did anyone see the Washington Post article on cancer patients and honest information from doctors when we aren't responding to treatment?

I felt as if the article were talking about my experience of having to dig to get my doctor to honestly tell me how little chances there were for my husband. It was his honesty that enabled Peter to have the end of life experience he wanted- friends, family, painkillers, and no hospital.

Sent by mia | 8:13 AM ET | 06-16-2008

A Happy Icing-Filled Birthday to You Leroy!

Sent by Jan | 8:14 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,
Happy Birthday and enjoy the day with LOTS OF ICING!

Sent by Aurella | 8:14 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy! Now go eat that icing that's calling your name.

Sent by bev wigney | 8:15 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I guess this is one of those times where you see what taking it one day at a time really means. GO for that icing, Leroy, enjoy the heck out of it! It might taste bittersweet but also, maybe, better than ever... None of us knows when our time will be finished and we all need to try and savor what we can from each day. Happy Birthday, Leroy, and God bless.

Sent by Karen Laven | 8:16 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY,
Enjoy all the cake, and icing you want (okay so even with all of this, if you like that icing from grocery store cakes...then you have a mammoth sweet tooth...that stuff is sweet and then sweet).
Whatever these days ahead hold, it is all in Gods' hands...we are all here, and we have come to love you dearly.
Prayers and have an extra happy day.
53.......young'in!!!!
Wanda Amorose

Sent by Wanda Amorose | 8:16 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, and happy every day. If we're going to stick together through the bad-scary-miserable moments, then we owe it to ourselves to treasure the good together too. Why should icing be reserved for once a year? Celebrate each meal each day with a dollop! (for at least as long as teeth and stomach don't rebel....)

Sent by robin messing bogdanoff | 8:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! Enjoy the day!

You are right to believe that things will play out as they are supposed to. it's good that you can trust that.

You are surrounded by love and that will see you through.

Sent by Marilyn | 8:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

you teach us and guide us through it all.maybe you are the greatest,bravest and most giving guide and teacher in the toughest class on earth! you are amazing. i will learn my leassons well. thank you for everything,
Jody salem

Sent by jody slalem | 8:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy,
A very Happy Birthday to you today.
Enjoy that cake, and especially the icing. Eat it with your fingers if that sounds like fun to you!!

Prayers as always to you and Laurie.

Sent by Laura | 8:18 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!! Hope the cake was delicious!

Sent by Tracy | 8:19 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy - the tone of your message is honest, realistic and peaceful. Acceptance is a good thing. Bless you.

And Happy Birthday.

Sent by Wendy | 8:19 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy --- you deserve every bit of icing on the world's biggest cake!

Sent by Tym Rourke | 8:21 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy! Hope you get the piece of cake with the big fat icing roses on it.... :-)

Sent by Dorothy | 8:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Wishing you a very happy birthday!! And many more! Have a great day and enjoy your icing!

Sent by Jen | 8:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Have a Happy Birthday! I hope you enjoy those gobs of glorious icing and that they taste even better than you remember!

Sent by Peggy | 8:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday. Eat that cake and all the icing you want. There is a chance with everything; 54 wasn't so bad. Heck, 57 isn't bad either. Keep on trucking and have a wonderful birthday. With care.

Sent by anne lumberger | 8:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. Enjoy the cake and icing and anything else that makes it a great day for you.

Peace is a great thing.

Sent by Pam | 8:23 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!! Have a great day enjoy the cake and all the icing

Sent by luisa | 8:24 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEROY! Wow, a lot of my friends have birthdays in the last 5 days. Must be a good month.

So, last week I mentioned "carrots" to keep my parents reaching for. For you it will be birthday cake icing. :) HUGE BOWLS FOR YOU! Personally I prefer whipped cream, but, whatever keeps you going is fine. :)

HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Sent by Sue Chap | 8:25 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Oh no Leroy...that icing is NASTY! LOL! I can't believe you luck that stuff. Well, if you like it...ENJOY! That is a funny bit of information. The rest, not so funny but it is what it is.

Happy Birthday Leroy. Here's wishing for another candle.

xo

Lori

Sent by Lori | 8:30 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Enjoy your day!
I love the icing too!

Sent by Laura | 8:31 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! Wishing you peace as you celebrate your 53rd and the special joy of indulging in all the icing you can eat.

Sent by Kellie in Switzerland | 8:32 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!! Enjoy the icing!!!!

Sent by sarah | 8:34 AM ET | 06-16-2008

It was probably a month or so before Joe died from cancer and for just a second I had a visit from an aunt who had died some years before. I felt her presence for just that second. Her visit was not something I asked for or anticipated at any time during the 14 months of cancer, it was a complete surprise to me, it lasted just a second but was very real. Was she letting me know she would look out for Joe on the other side? Do you think there is nothing beyond the veil?

On our last wedding anniversary Joe said don't worry, the next one will be better. I couldn't imagine it as I knew we would be separated and we were. But Joe was a smart guy. For now I reserve my thoughts about this subject until I get beyond the veil too.

Sent by irene | 8:34 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. What I love so much about you is your honesty. Let's be honest indeed. We love you.
Susan

Sent by Susan | 8:34 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Aren't birthdays special? Just reading the date makes you feel important. Hope you have a good one, surrounded by people you love.

Sent by jimmy | 8:34 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday dear Leroy
Happy birthday to you
...and many more ~~~~~
(be glad I did not sing that to you in person ;-)

Have a great day Leroy.

God bless you!

Judy

Sent by Judy Voller | 8:35 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, Happy Birthday Leroy!! As young as you are, you have a lot of wisdom stored up.

Birthdays are a time for recolletion and perhaps, for wondering how you ever got to be "this" old!! Yesterday my son said, "I can't believe that I will be "almost" 50 years old next month. I couldn't help but think "yet your sister never made it to 48." I guess everything is relavent. Just more reasons to realize that we must live in the "now" and enjoy each day as it comes, with gratitude.

I know the days ahead are going to be tough ones for you and everyone who loves you and for so many others in this world. I am thankful that you are beginning to get a sense of peace to your days though...it makes all the difference!!

Wishing you a wonderful day, filled with swipes of ultra-sweet icing, and increasing peace in the days ahead. Who know, you may even beat the odss, AGAIN!!!

Sent by Betty Obst | 8:36 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, LeRoy! Hope you're having a party. And wishing you all the love and frosting a guy can take.

Sent by Leslie C | 8:38 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Good morning Leroy - Wishing you plenty of yummy icing on this your 53rd birthday. At this bittersweet time it's probably equally important to feed both your body and soul. Enjoy the moment.

Sent by Diane | 8:43 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Go for the corner piece!

Sent by nancy | 8:44 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy,

OK - here are my my personal favorites for your next goals... hell freezing over, pigs flying, Sue Chaps wedding (although I think we are all coming to that wedding) and my addition is....once you have met every single one of us who have read, written to and and received so much from this blog. Once you have completed that task, I give you permission to check out.

As a birthday gift, get that icing in a can from the grocery store. It keeps so well in the refrigerator, with a spoon or without a spoon, well it's your birthday.... and so much more quiet than a freezer door !

All best wishes...and we ALL mean this, have many more.

Kim from Columbia

Sent by Kim E Moore | 8:46 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!
Enjoy your day and your icing. Thanks for being a support for those of us dealing with cancer in our families. I am praying for you with this new news (I guess not so new for you, but I just got caught up on last week's entries).

Sent by Mary Oettinger Westra | 8:46 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! YOUR CAKE SOUNDS WONDERFUL PLEASE ENJOY A PIECE FOR ME!

BLESSINGS OF PEACE TO YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES.
JUDI

Sent by JUDI CHRISTOPHER | 8:47 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Last week you were talking about lima beans, today...icing. Thank God you've come to your senses. In honor of your special day I too will o.d. on buttercream frosting. Enjoy!

Sent by Sue in Rochester, NY | 8:49 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. I am another reader who logs in every morning to check on you, learn from your rare candor and share the good and the bad but never writes. Like so many others, I wish I could bear some of your burdens. But all I can do is say thank you for every day you teach us how to live an exemplary life while facing life's most difficult situations. We are here with you. Enjoy your cake and this beautiful day.

Sent by Renee J., Marietta, Georgia | 8:52 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!!

Eat the icing out of the container if you want to!! yummmmm

:)

Sent by Jenn | 8:52 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

Hope you enjoy the icing as much as ever! (I think it's the yummiest part too!)

Wishing you a great day.

love,

Kim

Sent by Kim B. | 8:53 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!!! I hope you have a beautiful day with the people you love and get your fill of icing!

Your post today made me think of my son who is 3. He asks me every single day when his next birthday will be. I'm not sure if it's because of the cake or his friends being here or something else but your entry makes me want to find out what he loves so much about it and try to have a little bit more of whatever that is in his life. Life is too short to just wait for the birthdays for the sweet stuff.

I am glad to read the peaceful tone in your note. You demonstrate so much courage. Thank you again for your honesty and for sharing yourself here. I hope the coming year is not as difficult as you fear. One step at a time.

Sent by Nichole in FL | 8:53 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Leroy, I hope you enjoy the iceing and don't forget to make that wish!
The following is an interesting CNN article from today on cancer, doctors, and discussing end of life issues.

http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/conditions/06/15/cancer.talk.ap/index.html?iref=mpstoryview
Thinking happy thoughts of you today- where a party hat!

Sent by Susie R. from OH | 8:53 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I wish for you a very memorable year ahead!

Sent by Laurie Hirth | 8:55 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,

Happy Birthday! and may this year be more joyous than you expect. And you can have my share of the icing from my cake in January too!

Sent by Robin L. | 8:56 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday! Eat lots of cake (and icing). Next year-- look for whipped cream frosting (with strawberry filling). It's my favorite.

Sent by mt | 8:56 AM ET | 06-16-2008

happy birthday, leroy! enjoy the literal icing on the cake :-)

Sent by karen | 8:58 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Oh Leroy, what a lovely "number-53 and moving toward 54"! Keep repeating that to all that ask. I do. I constantly push the envelope on to the next year. HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEROY! You have earned every one and more to come. Is the icing you love the creamy, whipped cream type? I do, but can't stand the sugery, sweet kind. Have a great Birthday!Csrry on!

Sent by J C R | 8:59 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy, and God Willing, Many Happy Returns of the day.

I am a frosting girl, and a Harry Potter fanatic too. I thought of you often while reading it [multiple times]. Last week when you first announced your scan results I admit I thought "At least he got to read Book 7." I chuckled when I saw Friday's posting.

As always - prayers in the air from Indiana for you and Laurie too.

Sent by Kelly | 8:59 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaappy Birthday Leroy! Eat the cake and perhaps a second one as well...what the heck?!

Sent by Cristina Barthel | 9:00 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEROY,We can always keep trying for 54 though. But I am glad that you at least feel somewhat at peace within yourself today. I will continue to pray that peace and strength will be there for you, Laurie and all. And that there will be a measure of comfort there for you.

Sent by dorothy in oregon | 9:02 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy
Happy Birthday

Sent by Irene | 9:08 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I have an important question for you: Are you a sugary butter cream icing fan, or a whipped cream icing fan? (I really love the first, and think the other is "eh", and it really makes or breaks the cake!)

Sent by Betty | 9:08 AM ET | 06-16-2008

"Happy Birthday" Leroy. I hope you enjoy your day and your icing!
Judy

Sent by Judy | 9:09 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

Sent by jessie | 9:11 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Happy birthday Leroy!!!!! You are 53 with wisdom of an 80 year old. Some people never achieve what you have in their lifetime. My sister has stage 4 colon cancer, She has been alive for approx. 2.5 years. She is 56 years old and truly one of the bravest people I know of to face this illness. She rarely complains about anything. She is a nurse and is always willing to help anyone. Thank you for all you have given to us... the best presents in the world; Happiness, Gratitude,loving our Lord a little more and being thankful for our times together throughout the years. Today my sister is having another grueling chemo treatment. She will be so sick, it makes me cry. Thank you believing in living, Sincerely, Annette Purdy

Sent by annette purdy | 9:12 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I love that kind of grocery store, lots of icing cake, too, please have a big slice for me as well.

Many prayers and healing, peaceful thoughts to you and Laurie.

Lianne

Sent by Lianne Friedman | 9:12 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Let me be the first to wish you all the best for your b'day. Hang in there till the next....

Sent by Joan Beth Smith | 9:14 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Good morning, Leroy

And, I hope you enjoy your birthday today. You're right, 53 is young. I'm in my 50s, so I can attest to that fact! Since you're a lover of icing, I could whip you up a batch of cream cheese icing that is out of this world! I'll bring 2 spoons!

Sent by Judy in NVa | 9:14 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Glad you are getting to enjoy the icing, make sure you get a cake each week to enjoy! My mom wasn't supposed to see the last 2 Christmas' the way her original doctor spoke to us. He told her 6 months to 1 year, here we are 18 months later, 2 Christmas, 2 birthdays, and so on. My mom has told me her goal, her 70th birthday, she is 58. So, we have several more to look forward too. She is a fighter and will keep going as long as she can. She is a little battered but hanging in there. She is amazing and strong, even if she doesn't think so. I love you Mom.

Sent by Gina B | 9:15 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy, I wish you peace and comfort. My brother recently died shortly before his 56th birthday after a year-long ordeal with pancreatic cancer. My only solace is thinking that he now has peace and comfort. You have given me courage and encouragement over the past year, as I've read your blog daily as I've cared for my brother. Thank you so much for giving so much to us all. Your courage and generosity have been amazing. Take care.

Sent by Sue | 9:16 AM ET | 06-16-2008

LeRoy -

Happy, happy birthday!! I, too, love store-bought birthday cake icing. So often it's the little things that get us through. Have a happy day and know that all of us are grateful for you and the gift you keep giving us every day.

Sent by Jana | 9:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! Enjoy each day as much as possible. Hopefully your celebration has given you a chance to visit with friends and family, which is what keeps me going day to day. Today I hear from Vanderbilt about their clinical trial, certainly not a life saver but perhaps a small extention with a big cost of a six hour round trip commute once or twice a week. Peace,

Sent by Dona | 9:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday! Celebrate and enjoy!

You've told us about the changes and obviously they aren't good! Whatever you elect to do or not to do is a point in the cancer fight all of us will most likely face...I'm glad to see that you are at peace! There is a nobility in accepting one's fate along with the peace, calm and serenity that it brings. But beneath all of this is the human spirit that continues to cling tenaciously to life and will continue to do so until it is time to go. We've walked this bumpy and tortuous path together,Leroy, hand-in-hand. You've lifted us up when it was needed and we hope that we have help to steady you along the way. We continue to clasp your hand tightly and hope and pray that the sheer energy and will and prayers of all of your bloggers can continue to keep the darkness at bay for awhile longer.

Prayers and blessings as always for you and Laurie.

Sent by Al Cato | 9:18 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!!

Celebrate and do whatever makes you happy today! Put all the other thoughts out of your mind and enjoy this day, your day!

Kandy

Sent by Kandy Falvey | 9:19 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Thank God for icing. It adds perspective. The ability to enjoy life now, even when the future is murky, is the greatest birthday gift! Have an extra piece of cake for me.

Sent by Dave Jenkins | 9:23 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy
3 Birthday wishes:
I wish for you, a day to reflect on YOUR 53 years, whom you have met, where you have been and what you have done.
I wish for you peace.
I wish for you the biggest piece of cake with the most icing.
You are beautiful, Leroy.
( If you get up in the middle of the night ...don't forget the cake in the kitchen !!!!!!!!!!!)

Sent by Pam | 9:23 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. Enjoy that icing. And don't feel obliged to hold back on scrapping the extra off with a spoon...or your fingers.

Sent by Kathy | 9:23 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy - Wishing you a very happy birthday!

Sent by Leah Forst | 9:24 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Brithday Leroy! Go for 54! I am visualizing you writing this blog a year from now saying that you never expected to make it to 54, but here you are! Have a second piece of cake and extra icing, and enjoy your special day!

Sent by Art Ritter | 9:24 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! So, how about your 54th? Sounds like a reasonable goal to me. Enjoy the day today. Have an extra piece of cake on me. You're not diabetic, are you? Mom was, and after her diagnosis of liver mets, she finally got to "live it up". "So, what's the worse that could happen?", she would joke. My birthday wish for you, dear Leroy, barring a cure and complete recovery, is to enjoy life. Live it like you've never lived it before. Carpe diem. Sending you hugs and LOVE.....

Sent by Cheryl E | 9:24 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, Happy Birthday Leroy. Hope you eat all the icing you want (but not so much it makes you sick--always a problem for me when I was younger).

Sent by N.R. | 9:25 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

You are an inspiration. I look forward to sending you an e-mail birthday wish on your 54th birthday, June 16, 2009.

Sent by John Palmer | 9:25 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LEROY. I shall pray, if it is G-d's will that you live to fifty-four (54)!! In Judaism, 18 is a lucky number; fifty-four (4) is three times 18 and who knows, there ARE MIRACLES. I just read something I did not realize, Mr. Edwards has stage four breast cancer; but she is LIVING as you are! I pray for you all of the time and wish you THE HAPPIEST OF BIRTHDAYS WITH THOSE YOU LOVE SURROUNDING YOU. And it is so good that you are peaceful BUT CONTINUE TO FIGHT!

Love, Jan

Sent by Janice Goldberg White | 9:27 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday Leroy... I LOVE the icing too!! :) :)

Sent by roni | 9:27 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! Live long and prosper, my friend!

Sent by Sandra | 9:27 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! I'm just a couple years behind you, but I have discovered that the icing is now available in containers in the cake mix isle. No longer is there a need to scrape off the cake crumbs to get at that glorious icing Have at it!

Sent by Steve Horn | 9:29 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, my friend. May you eat as much icing as possible today! I love excess, don't you?!
The peace your entry is infused with today is contagious. It gave me a sense of calmness as well. Thanks, as always.

Sent by Anita Solomon | 9:33 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Hi Leroy.Happy 53rd! I'll be 53 next month too..1955 was a darn good year, no? I've been an avid daily reader of your blog, but only wrote once before, years ago. I just wanted to thank you, on your birthday, for having shared so much of yourself and one specific aspect of the human condition with all of us. You have enriched my life with your honest and funny observations and have opened a window on a subject rarely discussed in public. Thank you, and peace.

Sent by Cheryl from Philly | 9:35 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Leroy.

Nikki

Sent by Nikki in Kansas | 9:35 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. Eat all the icing you want, you deserve it! Enjoy!

Sent by Bill | 9:37 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday every day, Leroy!

Sent by Lucy | 9:39 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!!

Hugs...

Sent by Faun | 9:39 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy---Happy Birthday...hope you have some cake for breakfast. I am praying for miracles...xxoo

Sent by Nancy | 9:40 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! May your day be just as good as the icing on the cake!

Sent by Ann Klein | 9:41 AM ET | 06-16-2008

There are slices of cake, pieces of cake and then there's slabs of cake. Cut yourself a nice big slab of cake - you deserve it. Savor all the caloric goodness that is butter cream frosting! Don't forget to save some of the cake to mash up in with vanilla ice-cream. Happy Birthday Leroy!
Rocco - Stage IV - melanoma

Sent by Rocco | 9:44 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEROY - have a great day. You are the same age as I am. We are just spring chickens. Enjoy today and eat all the icing!!!!!

Sent by Deb from Michigan | 9:45 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, LeRoy! I have been meaning to send a comment for quite some time. I am a Stage IIIC ovarian cancer survivor, currently in my third round of chemotherapy. I cannot begin to tell you how much courage and inspiration I get from reading your blog. You manage every day--and with impressive economy of words--to express that wide range of feelings we all experience. Thank you for your daily messages. I look forward to receiving them for a long, long time.

Sent by Ann D. | 9:48 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!

Enjoy the icing and the day! Thanks for sharing it with us...:->

Sent by Erica | 9:49 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! I'm going to eat cake and celegrate life in your honor, and perhaps re-read my favorite chapters of the final Harry Potter book.

You and Laurie are always in my thoughts, always with a smile, even if it is through tears.

Sent by Kelly | 9:49 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

Isn't it interesting how our perspectives of birthdays change over the years? When we were younger, we would say we were "almost 20" when we were 20 and two months. Then we learned to say 41 until the day before we turned 42.

Cancer does change our perspective about birthdays. Two years ago I thought I'd celebrated my last one. So much for doctors' predictions, statistics, and science. Someone else is definitely making the calls.

Thank you for blessing our lives with your wit, wisdom, and insight, and for sharing your life with us; even though we've never met, I check your blog daily and refer to you as "my friend Leory" to my family and friends.

God bless you today and enjoy all the cake and gifts that come your way.

We all love you!

Sent by Norma from Bowling Green, KY | 9:50 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Dude! Eat the entire cake and tell the rest of the world that it's your birthday and you're going to party like a rock star. Then, go trash a hotel room on your sugar buzz!

I wish you many, many more celebrations!

Sent by Joyce in FL | 9:51 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Blessings and Joy!

Sent by Vicky(NY) | 9:51 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Dear Leroy!! Enjoy that icing. I'll take some of that cream cheese icing from Judy myself. Take the path less traveled and see some new things today, friend. I read something recently--could have been on here--that when we really focus our attention on something, we begin to see how truly miraculous it is--even a blade of grass. You don't have to fly to Paris, though that's okay too if it's what you want. Are you near the ocean? A walk on the beach at sunset is wonderful. Have a dog? Dogs are the greatest!
Happy Birthday, Leroy!

Sent by Linda Lee | 9:54 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!! Be sure to take the corner piece with the thick icing balloons and the edging!! MMMMMMMM!

Sent by Nancy Kelly | 9:55 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Go get'um tiger!

Sent by Shirley Gossett,South Carolina, Non Hodgkins survivor 10 years and grateful. | 9:55 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Icing licked off the beaters from the mixer is a sinful pleasure to be savored! I hope your cake and/or icing is chocolate---chocolate cures the blues---if only temporarily.

I have wanted to write you so many, many, many times. GOD I HATE THIS DISEASE!!! I lost my husband 3 1/2 years ago at the too-young age of 44, my best friend this Feb. at the too-young age of 57, I have a cousin who (dx at 28) is a 9 year survivor, and my mom had a stage I dx last year. COLON CANCER SUCKS! And now....preparing for our Relay For Life, there are so many emotions flooding back to be dealt with.

I have been thinking of you Leroy so much during all of this too. You are one of the 'public patients' always forging on, usually with some sly, witty comment on the unfairness of it all. But, like my hubby Mike & my friend Barb, you have made your peace with the inevitable. I am glad you have come to this place of peace. That does not mean that you have given up. It means that you have faced the ugly truth, and have dealt with it.

There are so many, many things I would like to say to you......but mostly I would just like to thank you for putting yourself out there every day, warts and all, for all to see. Your strength shines through in every post, and I most enjoy your humor. A sense of humor can get us through so many things.

My wish for you is to have joy in your days, and good friends, and family. I believe you have that.

I find myself catching my breath these days before opening your posts, wary of what I might find there. None of us has that crystal ball telling us when our time will come, so there is no need to worry about that. "Live like you were dying"----my hubby was convinced that that song was written especially for him. It was written for you too, my friend. And you have done just that.

I look forward to the report on the icing. Good grief---if the cake is not your fave----go for the icing!!!

Sent by Sheila Strong | 9:57 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! I hope your cake was delicious! Prayers and peace, always....

Sent by Julie | 9:58 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear All,
My husband passed away yesterday on Father's Day. Someone told me that God only takes the most wonderful fathers on that day. I wish you all some peace from your "Wars on Cancer" Maybe one day, no one will have to fight this war.

Sent by Elaine | 9:59 AM ET | 06-16-2008

happy birthday leroy! i wish i could respond to todays blog as eloquently as al cato or some of the other long time followers as myself with your journey..but c'est la vie i cannot. i am angry, and so sad. i feel as if the beast has won and it really PI- - - - me off...not you of course just the beast. with that thought said...i respect your calmness, honesty, and hopefully when it comes to my battle with the beast i will too have learned something about peace from you and all the others.

Sent by marianne dalton | 10:00 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Make that serving of icing a double!

Sent by Erica Harvill | 10:02 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Whoot whoot! Amen on the icing...cake is merely a vehicle upon which to heap gobs of the stuff (in my extremely biased opinion).

And amen to you, too, Leroy. I hate being a birthday evangelist among all my friends, but *you* know exactly why I have no patience for people who bemoan the passing of another year...I'll take all I can get.

Peace
jj

Sent by Joan Jones | 10:03 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY 53rd BIRTHDAY LEROY!
I'm hoping that today you are relatively comfortable, surrounded by the love of family and friends, and that at the end of the day you will have had your "fill" of icing (and cake) ;o)
Wishing for you and for Laurie, strength and continued peace in the year ahead...

Sent by Retha | 10:10 AM ET | 06-16-2008

hey, it's my birfday too (number 47)! This is also Bloomsday, and Stan Laurel and Tupac Shakur's birthday. Aren't we special :-)

From one Gemini to another, enjoy this day and the icing (I had a chocolate peanut butter concoction for breakfast).

PS - I've been reading this blog for almost 2 years, ever since I lost a colleague to Ovarian cancer.

Sent by Neener | 10:10 AM ET | 06-16-2008

As my precious niece and nepew taught me, "Happy Birthday to you, Cha Cha Cha; Happy Birthday to you, Cha Cha Cha; Happy Birthday Dear Leroy, Happy Birthday to you, Cha Cha Cha!"

Sent by N.Holmes | 10:11 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I wish you lots of icing to enjoy, mai tai's at sunset in Hawaii, and peace to enjoy all the rest of you days. Happy Birthday, brave warrior.

Sent by Elaine Murphy | 10:11 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy:
"But things will play out as they are supposed to." That is my firm belief, too. I am grateful that you are at peace with yourself. Love and prayers to you and Laurie, always.

Sent by Marsha Hogarth | 10:15 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday old friend
pjc

Sent by Patrick Cullen | 10:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Happy Birthday Leroy,
Do something today that helps you forget about cancer. That's my birthday wish for you. CYH xo

Sent by Marge from Texas | 10:21 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! I felt exactly as you did about turning 40 - and I'm now eight years past that. Here's to all of the icing you care to eat... just because you're past childhood doesn't mean you can't enjoy the pleasures of a kid!

Sent by Kathy Groh Canby | 10:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, my friend! Truth be know, none of us know with certainty that we will see the next birthday.

I was stunned when I looked at the "Living with Cancer" site and there was a quote from a Stage IV survivor and she explicity said that with Stage IV cancer it is never an "if" but "when" will it come back. I sure hope she is wrong.

Thinking nothing but great thoughts about you today on this special day that we all get to experience.

Sent by Ed Brown | 10:24 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday dear dear friend.
With love xoxoxoxo

Sent by sasha321 | 10:24 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!!
Would you be willing to share more about "I've thought a lot about this, and in the end, I'm at peace with it."? I hear others say this and can't fathom how one can get to this point.

Sent by Patsy, late stage ovca survivor | 10:25 AM ET | 06-16-2008

For Elaine, we all send our strength and sincere sympathy. We wish some ease and peace to come to you soon

Sent by Lucy | 10:25 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! I hope you will have many more birthdays and a lot more frosting on your cakes. I am very happy you are at peace...what a gift!
Charlotte in Rural Ridge, PA

Sent by Charlotte Kewish | 10:25 AM ET | 06-16-2008

My birthday wish for you:

CAKE - EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

(Hopefully that will get expensive, but Costco has a huge cake for $15 - the icing is delish, so you can go once (or twice if you are really hungry) a week.)

(Liz Z and I will deliver sometime!)

Much love on your big day! XXXOOOO

Sent by Liz L. | 10:28 AM ET | 06-16-2008

For Elaine, we all send our strength and sincere sympathy. We wish some ease and peace to come to you soon

Sent by Lucy | 10:28 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, Happy Birthday Leroy,
Enjoy the Icing !!!!
God Bless You and Yours !!!!!

Sent by Vickie Brown | 10:29 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I had a friend, who upon turning forty, started extending her celebrations from "birthday" to birthmonth." She figured if she made it to that milestone she deserved more than a day to celebrate. I say celebrate 53, then 53 and 1 day, 53 and 2 days - you get the picture. We could all do with more celebrating of life. Eat all the icing you want and know that there are others out there in blogland celebrating your life with you. You mean so much to me and many others. Happy,Happy Birthday!!!

Sent by Bonnie | 10:34 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I see that I am not the only one to suggest it, so that means you really SHOULD keep a jar of that yummy frosting in the fridge to indulge yourself with :)

My dad's birthday was a week ago, and he got his wish to see both of his sons, who live in Virginia and Germany respectively. We had big dinners and my first homemade chocolate cake topped with chocolate buttercream frosting - yum! He took one look at that cake and hardly touched his dinner - what a sweet tooth he has! And with joy, it was also with sorrow, as he is sliding towards the end of life ever more quickly. But as sad as I am, I am also impatient for his suffering to be over at last. He has fought for so long - over 30 years! You remind me of him in your courage and humor. I know that the coming months (and years quite possibly) might well be hard on you and your loved ones; just remember to share with them and to LAUGH! It truly does help to ease our sorrow, and it's ok to do so. :)

With hugs and love,

Danni

Sent by Dannielle Higgins | 10:39 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! My birthday is tomorrow! We share alot of likes, but one of those is definitely NOT the icing on store cakes (ugh)!!

Sent by Sue Sheehan, Bothell, Wa. | 10:39 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy! Another milestone for you that others once said 'couldn't be done.' Keep the faith, man. And keep on amazing them!

Sent by Nancy from Canada | 10:40 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Most cancer doctors avoid saying it's the end - Washing Post artical was so intersting and I think so true.

Happy Birthday Leroy !

Sent by Jill Curtis | 10:41 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I just noted your b'day on my calendar so I remember to send a card NEXT year.

Sent by Peggy | 10:42 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Have a Happy 53rd birthday my friend! I will have a BIG cupcake with LOTS of icing in honor of your birthday today. Big birthday hugs Leroy. Enjoy your day!

Sent by Vivian in Delaware | 10:43 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!
I wish I lived near by and then I could go to the grocery and pick up a tub of icing and deliver it to you. (Yes, they do sell JUST icing that they use on the store bought cakes....yummy!)
"This is the day that the Lord has made....rejoice and be glad in it!" We are ALL celebrating your life that you so willingly share with us. Thank you.

Sent by Beth | 10:46 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I hope you have a very happy birthday! Don't think about what if, just focus on now.

Sent by Tammy | 10:58 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,

On this day I'd like to thank you for the gift of yourself. It has meant so much to all of us. Whatever comes, please know that you have helped and are helping SO MANY people.

Blessings.

Sent by Diana Kitch | 10:58 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!! Things WILL play out as they are supposed to. I also live by those words. Keep the faith and live the day! All the best to you.

Sent by Elena | 10:59 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! I think of you and pray for you every day.

Sent by Nancy Abbott | 11:00 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Wishing you a VERY Happy of Happiest Birthdays today! Live in this moment and of course an extra helping of icing!
Blessings to you and Laurie.

Sent by Heidi | 11:04 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I've been following your blog and have never posted before, but wanted to say Happy Birthday Leroy! You've accomplished more in your 53 years than people who live twice as long.

Sent by AH | 11:04 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy...Enjoy the day, enjoy the icing and rejoice in the life you have led. And it ain't over so live your life as you have been.

Sent by Helene Weingarten | 11:07 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Enjoy every last gob of icing on that cake! I know you will. Thoughts, prayers and warmest wishes to you and your family.

Sent by Annette | 11:09 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, happy birthday, Leroy. Mmmmm, icing. Can't get enough of the stuff. I hope you thoroughly enjoy that cake. And who's to say you won't see 54? You've beaten the odds so far. Yes your cancer has "exploded" but you're a consummate fighter. I think you can fight a battle on more than one front ;-) enjoy your special day. Wish I could be there (for the cake lol)

Love and a hug

Alycia

Sent by Alycia Keating | 11:10 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I'm surprised you didn't comment on your astrological sign in your blog today. You sound at peace, I'm glad you found it. Enjoy your day!

Sent by Ruth White | 11:12 AM ET | 06-16-2008

MMMMMMMM! Frosting. Happy Birthday Leroy. Carpe diem(or something like that) Just for today, enjoy. We all send our best wishes.

Sent by Jenene K/AZ | 11:13 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,
Happy Birthday! I hope it's a good one.
It is, after all, icing on the cake.

Sent by Gene Koeneman | 11:14 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Elaine,

I am so sorry... I am sure I can speak for all in this blog, when I say our prayers and thoughts will be there for your family.

Sent by Robin L. Fairfax VA | 11:16 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! If there's a big qaudy frosting flower, it's even better!

Sent by Patricia Williamson | 11:17 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I hope you have a great day today and enjoy every second of that cake. Birthday cake is a very good thing:-)

Sent by Tracy | 11:21 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Birthday greetings to you big guy! Both you and Laurie deserve a huge piece of frosted cake - as does each of us battling this beast. Celebrate heartily - it's the best revenge!

Sent by Paul | 11:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Best wishes on your birthday Leroy!! I hope you have a great day.
May the peace you have found stay with you whatever comes.
Scarlett

Sent by Scarlett Harris | 11:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!
Miracles do happen. You know that. So don't believe that you won't see your 54th. I will be praying for you. Enjoy some icing for me...I'm on a diet :(

Sent by LisaAnniePants | 11:22 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Have a wonderful Birthday you have earned it! Enjoy Laurie enjoy your loved ones and do whatever you want to do. Enjoy the icing (that was my dad's favorite part too, thanks for reminding me of that wonderful memory!) You are amazing! Just enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

Sent by Cori Swanson | 11:26 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday to you! And I finally found a fellow icing lover! Everyone always says "its too sweet". Whatever! Eat all you can handle. God Bless

Sent by DiAnn | 11:29 AM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Leroy....ENJOY!!!

Sent by Roxi | 11:32 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Dear Leroy! How about having cake with gooey icing once a week now -- sort of a weekly birthday party? Mondays are a good day for that, no? Rumi said, "This moment is all there is." So - if at this moment you are smiling, celebrating, eating cake with lots of icing, surrounded by love and feeling at peace with whatever comes --
it's a BEAUTIFUL day!My wish is that you'll have many more such moments.

Elaine - I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's passing yesterday. Many of us here have followed your story and his and care about you.

Sent by Doris | 11:32 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, happy birthday, Leroy! Enjoy your icing and enjoy your cake. We celebrate with you every day.

Sent by Peggy | 11:34 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy, enjoy the icing and eat your cake too!

Best regards,

Dave

Sent by Dave | 11:39 AM ET | 06-16-2008

wash that cake down with a couple of ice cold Miller Lites!

Dave
Dallas TX.

Sent by Dave Wright | 11:39 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,

Happy birthday!

What I wish for you is a motorcycle ride -- silly surgical gown flapping in the wind, a piece of thickly iced cake in one hand, and the other hand loosely steering.

The image came to me via The Writer's Almanac, with Garrison's reading of "The Old Man and the Motorcycle" by Liam Rector.

http://writersalmanac.publicradio.org/index.php?date=2008/06/15

Sent by Mark Underwood | 11:44 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Day Leroy! Here's to the wisdom, mystery and peace you share with us.

L'chaim

Sent by Joan S. | 11:45 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! You have been and continue to be an inspiration, whether one is dealing with a devastating disease or learning about life in general. Thank you for your willingness to open yourself up and share your thoughts, joys and pains with the rest of us.
May you and yours know many blessings the year ahead.
Lynn

Sent by Lynn | 11:45 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birtday! There's something about the words "I am at peace with it" that just wash over me like a golden light. whether it's from a fight, losing a job, having cancer, losing a loved one, it just makes me realize that at some point we've all "made peace" with something in our lives. I am glad you have, Leroy, now go out there and live!

Sent by Becky | 11:46 AM ET | 06-16-2008

I'll add my condolences to Elaine along with everyone else's. It's so hard to go through.

And happy 53, Leroy.

Sent by Bruce | 11:46 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy, I am so happy that you are celebrating your day. On my husband's 53rd birthday ths year, I was too afraid to celebrate because I feared it was his last. I will remember next year to bring out the cake and icing! You and your fans lift my spirits everyday! Thank you!

Sent by Nancy | 11:53 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! I LOVE white birthday cake with sweet cream frosting. I think I'll go buy one and eat it for you! Thanks for the excuse, I've been craving cake, and I'm not much into denying myself much since I entered Cancer world. Have a beautiful day.

Sent by Diana Santamaria | 11:56 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Hey Leroy - 53 sounds young to me! And grocery bought birthday cakes can be just as tasty as those foo-foo expensive ones, if not better.

Sent by Dorothy - Los Angeles | 11:58 AM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!

I'm in charge of buying a cake for a birthday party tonight. I will be sure to pick the one with the hugest gobs of icing in honor of you.

Enjoy your day and your cake!

Sent by Patte | 12:04 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday Dear Leroy! Happy Birthday to you!! xoxoxox

Sent by John the jag man | 12:05 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday dear Leroy....Happy Birthday to you! (sung off key as only I can do!) I smiled when I read about the icing - I always ask for a corner piece so that I get more and then I get my fork and get some stuck to the cardboard serving tray. Now that I have discovered whipped cream icing I prefer that - but I wouldn't turn my nose up at anything!

Have a wonderful day!

Sent by Anita Apodaca | 12:08 PM ET | 06-16-2008

to Patsy - I'm another ovca customer (chronic), reaching out to you...at some point, the disease outpaces the treatments for many of us. I'm getting closer to this point, realize that I've enjoyed the time I've 'bought' with treatment and feel at peace with this.
It's ominous to decide that enough is enough, there is such a fine line between the hopeful 'battle' and accepting that things are playing out as they are supposed to, as Leroy says. I have to believe that too.

I'm available to connect directly if you'd like. Be well, all

Sent by Joan S. | 12:08 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy I celebrate 2 birthdays. THe one when I was born then the one where I was born again after my ancer surgery. I feel that one is more important then the day I was born now. Either way you want to celebreat Happy Birthday - and heres to you making 54 and me making 50.

Sent by Cathy | 12:15 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy,
You share a birthday with my brother, same age also... Enjoy all the icing you can get.

Sent by Chuck | 12:22 PM ET | 06-16-2008

my son once commented that his life changed when he realized that the icing came in a can and that he could have it anytime that he wanted!!
Happy Birthday, Leroy.
Belinda

Sent by Belinda R | 12:25 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I hope it is as memorable to you as you are to us. Eat that icing!!

Sent by Donna Lajoy | 12:26 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Don't forget the ben & jerry's.

Sent by Chris | 12:28 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Happy Birthday. I always celebrate for at least a week,k doing something I love every day. Sometimes it is just sitting in the ward with a cupa or glass of wine and letting my brain wonder for a bit.

Yea and if a cake a day seems right go for it.

Hugs and best blessings to you and Laurie.

Sent by Paula Swink | 12:35 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy! Your post was the icing on my day. Have a great celebration.

Sent by Ann | 12:35 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Lots of love and big hugs on your birthday, Leroy. Tonight I shall have a glass of wine and cake with icing in your honour. I wish I could have some of Judy's cream cheese icing - it sounds so good. I know everyone in America laughs at fruit cakes, but a good English fruit cake with marzipan and royal icing is delicious. I shall send you some on your 54th birthday! Wouldn't it be great if we could all come and see you then?

Elaine - My deepest sympathies in your loss and I am thinking of you. God bless you in your sadness and pain.

Sent by Tina from Alton IL | 12:36 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I don't know about 54 it wasn't such a great year for me. Maybe you could just skip it and go straight to 55, which so far hasn't been too bad. One ticket for going through a stop sign, and looking for a job.

Sent by Dianne (DC) | 12:37 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! Make sure that icing has lots and lots of sugar in it. They say sugar can give you "natural" high...go for it!
Cathy

Sent by cathy itri | 12:44 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hi Leroy,

Happy Birthday! I just ran across your podcast from last year and listened to everyone. It give me much more of an understanding of what my Mom went through of over the past nine months. She passed just 10 days ago with some very agressive cancer. Keep fighting if you are able.

God Bless,
Nick Zeitler

Sent by Nick Zeitler | 12:44 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I hope you get the biggest icing rose they can possible make. You have earned that and many more! Blessings to you today on your special day!

Sent by JaeMoyer | 12:45 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy. It was comforting to hear that you are at peace with the prognosis. Peace is such a strong, beautiful word. May peace continue to be with you.

Sent by Sharon | 12:46 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,

A very Happy 53rd and, as the saying goes, here's to many, many more. We are with you all the way. Now go enjoy your icing!!

Sent by Pat Doyle | 12:51 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Grocery store icing!! YUM!!! DOUBLE YUM!!

Happy Birthday, Leroy!! MANY more cakes and icing for you, friend....

Sent by Patsy Elmore | 1:02 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy!

Sent by Cindy | 1:03 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy! Have a great day.

Sent by Victoria Ferreira | 1:06 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy - Happy birthday to you! I am turning 52 this summer, and so I agree that 53 now seems really young when not so long ago I thought it was ancient. I can't believe I've been out of college 30 years now when it feels like I just graduated such a short time ago.

Enjoy your cake and frosting. Wish all of us could join you and give you lots of birthday hugs. Hope you have a very happy birthday and many more to come.

Sent by Teresa from Missouri | 1:15 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Elaine,
I am so sorry. You and your husband's friends and family are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

Sent by bettye | 1:16 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Cumplea??os feliz,
Cumplea??os feliz,
te deseamos querido Leroy
Cumplea??os feliz.
Warm wishes from Madrid.??
Angela

Sent by Angela Glez. Granada | 1:26 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Elaine

Sorry for your loss. You are probably right about why it happened yesterday.

Sent by irene | 1:29 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy,

53? Yippeee! Sit under a tree; feel free; enjoy a bit of glee ~ Wheeeeee! :o)

Enough of the hokey attempt to rhyme -- All warmest best wishes to you on this birthday, and may the icing (and the day) be delicious!

Sent by Kim Forester | 1:32 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!!

Sent by N.R. | 1:32 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. I hadn't realized how young you are. My 70th is on Monday and I did not expect to see it so we both have something to be thankful for. My sister always ate the iceing, I always went for the filling.
God bless you.

Sent by Robert G | 1:33 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! I can see you will enjoy that icing on your cake. I've already requested a strawberry rhubarb pie for my birthday in two weeks! We celebrate this day with you as well as your life!

Sent by Karen | 1:35 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy,

Happy Birthday to you !!

I remember as a teenager that old saying, "Never trust anyone over 30". Wow, it seemed that I could never be 30, old as dirt as they say.

Now at 58, 30 sure does seem young.
The years have flown by.

Enjoy your cake and if you want to, just eat the icing. It's good to still have those moments.

love and peace,

susan
california

Sent by susan | 1:38 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! Make sure you get a corner piece of that cake...that's were all the icing is!

Sent by Karen | 1:50 PM ET | 06-16-2008

A very happy birthday to you Leroy! 53 ain't bad, but 54 is better !!

Sent by christine | 1:51 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!! Have a wonderful day! Sending lots of love.

Sent by barbara j | 1:52 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, LeRoy! Y'know, we worry and worry about when The Day comes when we leave this earth---when will it be? When will it be? And then something comes along like Tim Russert's death. It makes one think, what does it matter? All the thinking and worrying about it. It will come....to all of us, one way or another. Think about it. You have just outlived Tim Russert.

Sent by Marilyn Trujillo | 1:54 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hi Leroy, as long as you're still alive, maybe try an experiment and give up that icing this year. Just for the heck of it (what have you got to lose?), try a vegan, raw food diet, with lots of fresh juice, including daily wheatgrass juice. And look up Gabriel Cousens, MD. His book *Conscious Eating* has a lot to say about what we eat and our states of health.

Sent by Jake from Budapest | 1:54 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!

Sent by Lilly T | 1:56 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy, and many prayers that you make it to 54.

Sent by Connie | 1:56 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

Enjoy your day,
Kimberly

Sent by Kimberly East | 1:58 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy,
Happy Birthday I hope it is a good and peaceful day

Thanks for all you say in this blog space

Karen

Sent by Karen | 1:59 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy....thanks for the wisdom you share with us on how to live our lives. I'm still praying for a miracle....

Sent by Ann Murphy | 2:04 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy:

(imagine someone blowing a pitch pipe to help me out here):

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
YOU LOOK LIKE A MONKEY
AND YOU ACT LIKE ONE TOO!

Sent by Janice J. , Los Angeles | 2:09 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy and Laurie,
Eat every bit of that frosting and if you ever want a motorcycle ride, I'm your gal!

Betsey (I actually teach people how to ride these things; started after my own cancer experience many years ago!)

Sent by betsey in albany ny | 2:09 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy 53th Leroy. Guess what? You and Herbie have the same number! That old VW wears his number 53 on his side doors and despite being beaten up and kicked around still somehow wins the race. Best Wishes for you to win your race too! Regardless you are already a winner. Your comments have brought joy and understanding to so many so thank you so much.

Sent by Rich | 2:19 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy:

One thing about having metastatic cancer is that I am pretty darn sure that my death is going to be due to having cancer. I feel somewhat LUCKY (not sure if that is the right choice of words!) to be able get my things in order the way that I want them when I am gone. I get to plan my service, say or write things to people that I want them to know, organize some things at home, etc. I think of the people who are killed instantly in an accident or fall over dead of a heart attack and feel sorry for them because they, most likely, didn't have "all their ducks in a row." I don't like the dying process with cancer but I do like knowing, approximentaly, when I will be dying.

Enough about dying, hey, we are both still alive and you are celebrating a birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to someone who has made a difference in my life.

JO Paola

Sent by Jo Paola | 2:27 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hold Fast with memories & expectations for happy peace filled sweet icing Birthdays.

Don MacLeod

Sent by Don MacLeod | 2:32 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

Carpe Diem, seize the day and seize the icing!

Sent by Karen | 2:41 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Elaine-So sorry to hear of your husband's death. Deepest sympathies to you and to your family.

Sent by Jen | 2:45 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! You're just amazing and inspiring---even more so because you love icing and are looking forward to that first big forkful of cake.
My mother loved chocolate cake. So one day, during the last weeks of hospice care, a neighbor brought over this magnificent concoction of chocolate on top of chocolate in cake form. Mom enjoyed every bite of her piece of cake. But then, about ten minutes later, she looked at us like we were naughty children and asked us why we hadn't given her a piece of cake. We realized this "lapse in memory" had something to do with her brain tumor progression; but really, who cares. If you want another piece of cake, because you forgot about the last one, just have another piece. I hope you enjoy lots of icing -- remembered and cherished; forgotten and rediscovered.
A great big hug too ... Pat Enciso

Sent by Pat Enciso | 2:49 PM ET | 06-16-2008

HaPpY BiRtHdAY to YOU, Leroy. I am 47 with breast cancer that has metastasized and hope that I make it to 48 in December.
A funny note about frosting/icing. When my little brother turned 10 years old, my mom got him this underwater scene birthday cake with a big green-iced octopus in the middle. Well, my little bro ate the entire octopus as he loved icing too, and he pooped green for days from the color of the frosting octopus! It was hilarious and we like to remind him of it even to this day! So, enjoy that icing/frosting and know that we on this blog LOVE you and wish you the best. Happy B-Day. LM in Arizona

Sent by L.M. | 2:51 PM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEROY! If I lived closer to you I would want to bring you a birthday cake personally but I'm sure you have family and close friends that can take care of that, so have a piece for me especially a corner or where the flowers are for the full "icing effect". You have taught me so much about life these past few years in my almost daily readings of your blog. You have helped my family with our cancer experience and for that I will be forever thankful. Save some icing for me as my birthday is next week.

Sent by Bill Bircher in FL | 2:52 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Elaine~ I am so very sorry to hear about your husband's passing yesterday. Hope it was peaceful and that you will be strong in the knowlege that you are not alone. Fondly~ one of Leroy's Army.

Sent by J C R | 2:55 PM ET | 06-16-2008

"No one has said it, at least not out loud, but let's be honest. The odds of my celebrating my 54th birthday aren't great.

Leroy Sievers"

After watching this PBS documentary:

CANCER WARRIOR:
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/cancer/program.html

I believe if you fight hard, your chances are better than 50/50 at making the next birthday. Just remember every minute counts.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Leroy!!!

Sent by Martin | 2:58 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. Whenever I check the comments I always search for what someone named Peggy has to add - for some reason I always seem to "click" with what she has posted. I Love her idea of marking her calendar for next year. I did the same!

Sent by Julie- Falls Church | 3:11 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy, My daughter has a sign above her bed--Cake fixes everything!-- and she is 31 and getting married--and she will only get store bought cake too. Happy Birthday!

Sent by Paulette | 3:25 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Another big HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you! Enjoy the cake, the icing, friends, and anything you feel like doing on your special day. All of us here are just so glad to know you via this blog and to be able to celebrate with you in our minds & spirits. I'll have some dark chocolate in your honor today.

Sent by Kathleen | 3:33 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy

In tomorrows Blog I want to read, "I can't believe I ate the whole thing". Enjoy the day and I'll join you with a piece of that good New Jersey pizza I remember as a kid.

Walt, at home in New Jersey for a month

Sent by Walt from Los Angeles | 3:35 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!!!
Feliz cumpleanos!!!
Bonne Anniversair!!!
Enjoy the cake and icing too.
Just a little secrete, none of us know if will be here for our next birthday.
So enjoy TODAY!!!! with Laury and all your loved ones.xoxo
Marelly

Sent by Marelly | 3:41 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, my friend.
Antoinette from NJ

Sent by antoinette comprelli | 3:45 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Mmmmmmmm...Cake....
Happy B-Day to you!
Love & Frosting,
Your fighting Irish friend, Debra

Sent by Debra in New Hampshire | 3:48 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! You have helped each of us recognize the little things in life that make each day special. Today it is icing.

Sent by Karen | 3:49 PM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEROY,
Wishing gobs of frosting, love and peace.

Sent by Deb | 3:52 PM ET | 06-16-2008

I join the many others in wishing you a wonderful day. I also love that goopy icing.... enjoy some for me too!

Sent by Leslie | 3:54 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy,

You don't have to wait a full year to have another birthday cake! How about a monthly un-birthday, with a small cake? I was very worried about you post-op with your back; it seemed you had lost your sense of humor with all that pain and struggle. Now, even facing the daunting news of your latest scans there a sparkle of your sense of humor in your posts. You and Laurie mean so much to those of us who write and I'm sure to folks who read this but never write. What a ripple you create!!!

Thanks, Eleanor

Sent by Eleanor Workman | 3:56 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, happy birthday dear Leroy. May the pile of icing last all day!

Dianne West

Sent by Dianne in Nevada | 3:59 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Icing is my favorite too.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

We never know how much time we have left. We live on cancer time. Tim McGraw has a great song that reminds me of this each day and truly inspires me. When I first heard this song it really stuck with me. Some may say it is a bit morbid, but I think most of us with Cancer have a really good understanding of what the song is trying to say. Make each day the best! I hope this link reaches you. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mHaFMqde6A

Happy Birthday Leroy. ENJOY!

Sent by Amy Welbaum | 4:00 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Mmmmmmm, cake! Remember to laugh. I wish for you many lovely moments.

Sent by Marsha | 4:06 PM ET | 06-16-2008

You have given us so much, Leroy - you deserve lots of icing. And yes, food does talk, especially sugar-laden foods. Their siren-song frequently lures me into the kitchen. Ice-cream sandwich for breakfast? Sure, why not!
Much happiness and peace to you and Laurie on your birthday and always-
Marcia

Sent by Marcia Greer | 4:09 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,
I visit your blog daily and have yet to post a reply. Today I realized we have at least two things in common. We are both members of the cancer world AND better yet we share the same birthday 06/16/1955. I will be thinking of you next year on this day and singing "Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday Dear Leroy, Happy Birthday to you".
Pat

Sent by Pat in Baraboo | 4:24 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy !!
Happy Birthday !!! And many more----sonds good, does't it.....may you have many more!!! xoxo dee

Sent by dee | 4:28 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy

Sent by Jolyn | 4:31 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy, Happy Birthday, and I haven't had time to read all the comments, so please forgive me if I'm being redundant, but another year for you would be like icing on the cake. Let's make it another 20 years, and make it a lot of icing on the cake! Cheers, Tom

Sent by Tom K in Sydney | 4:40 PM ET | 06-16-2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LEROY! As the Italians say to someone having a birthday,"One hundred of these days," and might I add, why not?! Very very best wishes from Sicily, this time.

Sent by Maris | 5:00 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. I'm enjoying the icing more these days. What a great lesson to learn.

Sent by Lisa | 5:02 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!
Get the corner piece of the cake. Then, get the spoon and take the container of icing from the store and go for it. Don't stop until you are fully satisfied. After that, tomorrow, try the fresh juice and wheeat grass juice. Today, just enjoy your birthday!

Sent by Marcy in NJ | 5:06 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy....Happy birthday!
Wendy

Sent by wendy | 5:13 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!!

Boy if anyone deserves to eat all of the icing off of his birthday cake, it would be you!!!!

Congratulations on turning 53, (I am a year ahead of you)..... look forward to and plan for 54 - who knows the expert advice is not always right - for as we all know it is really up to God to decide when we leave this world and how.

Today is a present - followed my many more we hope.

Sent by Cindy | 5:17 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy, while eating that icing if you close your eyes and remember the cake fight scene in "The Great Race" just imagine it being all of Leroy's Army in the battle and there celebrating with you!lac

Sent by lou ann caywood | 5:20 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I am 53 too! 1955 was a very good year. Looking forward to celebrating 54 with you as well!

Sent by Mary C. | 5:21 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Every day should be like icing on the cake for you. Enjoy each one of them. Jean Paul Richter said "Our birthdays are feathers in the broad wing of time".

Sent by s | 5:26 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday Leroy! Hang in there. I lost my dad a little over a year ago to gastric carcinoma(he was 54). Thats how I found out about you and the blog. Keep hope alive. Take care.

Sent by Martin Poliak | 5:45 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy,
Enjoy the cake and that yummy icing. Funny how little things like that can pick us up. It takes me back to childhood. Best to you.

Sent by Paulette | 5:52 PM ET | 06-16-2008

This is totally the time to indulge yourself. Happy Birthday Leroy!

Sent by Cathy Quon | 5:56 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hi Leroy,
We share a birthday. And you give me perspective every day I read your blog. To reflect about the minor inconveniences and stressors in my life, a reminder to be grateful for what I have/don't have. A reminder to be the best person I can be.
And I try to remember it is the journey that counts more than the destination- for all of of us- but that must be a hard one when you've gotten such crappy news recently....

Sent by Francoise Reynolds | 5:58 PM ET | 06-16-2008

I JUST CAN'T BELIEVE IT LEROY!!!! HAPPY B'DAY!!! 53-WOW! I'M 52 AND HOPE TO MAKE IT TO 53 ALSO!! You are just so "way cool" man! I love you so much. The odds may not be good for 54 but who knows and who gives a hoot! Keep on truckin' One Day At A Time and just maybe you'll make it. I sure hope so and hope is all it takes. In the mean time, you are so 'real' about the icing...eat some for me and all of us out here in cyber space. You owe it to yourself to enjoy this icing. If you were not at peace about what's ahead you would not be able to enjoy that icing today. Enjoy the rest of the day. It is such a gift; that's why they call it THE "Present". Love from Graham in Sag Harbor,

Sent by Graham G. Hawks | 5:58 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy, Happy Birthday! Thanks for sharing your story with us. Have a piece of cake for me!

Sent by Elizabeth Hertzfeld | 6:00 PM ET | 06-16-2008

For Elaine,
With deepest sympathy for your loss. May you have peace and beautiful memories.

Sent by Paulette | 6:02 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Eat a piece for me, I love the frosting as well!

Thanks for sharing with all of us. Sending you a big birthday hug

Sent by Elena | 6:23 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday dear Leroy! Savor that icing. Hugs to you on this special day.

Sent by Linda | 6:35 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy...glad you made your 53rd...glad I made mine, too!!! (3/29)

God only gives us this life one moment at a time, so keep on living it like you're doing. God bless you!!!

Sent by Mike Armstrong | 6:43 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday, Leroy. To the best drummer, ice cream salesman, painter, wrestler and producer the world has ever known.

Sent by Steve D. | 6:45 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! I'm so glad you made it to 53!Thanks for being so real and reminding me that this life train we are on will come to all of our stops one day or another. But for today, enjoy the frosting! The cake is just an excuse for the frosting!

Sent by Beverly | 6:46 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy.I am glad to hear that "peace" in within your reach now.

Elaine,
I am so sorry--I am sending a hug your way. Father's day was, I thought, a bad day for me. My husband died on the day before Easter last year and I know that it will ALWAYS be hard that time of year. But every day is hard.
I will be thinking of you and including you in my prayers tonight.

Jane

Sent by Jane | 7:01 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!

You can have all my frosting, too!!

Sent by keri | 7:10 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!! Lot's of love and warm wishes are being sent your way.

Sent by Laura | 7:12 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday to You...
Happy Birthday to You...
Happy BIRTH(trying to hit the high note)day, dear Leroy...
Happy Birthday to You...

We are so glad you were born. Have all the icing you want and more. Enjoy your day to fullest.

Sent by Linnea | 7:38 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday!

Sent by Luba | 7:42 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,
You know how when you play solitare with real cards and the "every third card" doesn't let you win so you go to every other card? I think you should celebrate your birthday on the 16th of every month with gobs of icing. Have a really really good cup of coffee for me since I scrape the icing off and eat the cake. God bless.

Sent by kathie | 7:48 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Warm thoughts and best wishes from Hong Kong.

Sent by Michelle | 7:53 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hi Leroy, 14 years ago my sister was told she would live for about a year and a half. Her ovarian cancer was spread throughout her intestines. She is still alive today, minus the large intestine, and going as strong as she possibly can. She is 63 and has been living with cance for over 20 years. She's always knocking walls out of her house, or tearing out the cabinets, or redoing the floors. She says as long as she has "project" she can't die. At the beginning she thought she would never see grandchildren and now she has both a beautiful grandaughter and grandson. Yes, she takes lots of pills, has pain, can't eat most things. Somehow she takes it all in stride and God pours down grace upon her. So I believe the same can happen to you. "Expect the worst and pray for the best" and never give an inch. Happy Birthday and know that all of us want to say it again a year from now.

Sent by Melody in Oregon | 8:03 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Cake is a wonderful idea and icing even better. Enjoy this day ... a very happy birthday to you. Keep counting.

Sent by Pat Z. | 8:10 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!
That icing always was my favorite, too. A big piece of cake with a glass of cold milk will be good for breakfast tomorrow :-) Enjoy!

Sent by Linda | 8:54 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! CHEERS!

Sent by Rochelle | 8:57 PM ET | 06-16-2008

May your birthday frosting be as wonderful as you remember it to be, Leroy! Your entry today knocks me out -- a clear-eyed look at things, with a hopeful spirit of celebration. You have made most excellent use of these 53 years. I hope you will enjoy all the time your life still holds!

With celebration, and with care,
Sarah

Sent by Sarah | 8:59 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hey Leroy, you sure got a lot more happy bday wishes than I did last week when my kids "surprised" me for my half century mark!
But I did have family & friends from from far & wide. And every time a festive celebration happens, I think..."I can kinda die now, cause I'm very content".
I wish you a joyous birthday, strength to face the future, peace to share, and health for years to come.
Enjoy the frosting with a glass of wine.

Sent by JRon | 9:02 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday with many many lucious globs of icing!!!!! So happy to celebrate another small thing with you.

Haley in Omaha

Sent by Haley | 9:06 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Elaine: My thoughts are with you tonight, my wonderful blog friend.

May you rest well knowing that your husband is at peace, and may you also be at peace to prepare for the coming days. I know there is a lot to do.

I hope the following reading helps you as much as it did me. I had it read at Burge's service. Some how it helped to reason why he was taken so young (51). I found it by accident...or perhaps because I was meant to find it.

http://www.olmm.ca/wp-content/olmm/funeralreadings/A_reading_from_the_book_of_Wisdom_4-7-15.pdf

Take care.

Nikki

Sent by Nikki in Kansas | 9:09 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Dear Leroy,
I have read your blog daily for a long time now, but have never posted. Today is the time. I wish you the happiest of birthdays, and I want to say how much I admire your eloquence and your fortitude. You are the real deal--a true role model with an immeasurable amount of courage and hope and passion for life. I wish you the very best--and I hope I'm still reading this blog next year at this time.

Sent by Eve, New York City | 9:09 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthay LEROY! May you find a cake with a mile high pile of sweet icing!

Sent by Krupali Tejura | 9:19 PM ET | 06-16-2008

I always knew there had to be somebody that liked all that icing--Leroy, you've been found! Yippee! Hope your day was a good one!

Sent by Lisa D. | 9:26 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Go ahead and eat all of the icing if you feel like it!!
I read your blog this morning as I was sending flowers to my mother who's getting chemotherapy for OVCA today (she is in Hawaii, I am in Australia) and your happiness about your birthday cake made me smile. Keep up the fight!

Sent by Michelle | 9:34 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday to a fellow Gemini--my 45th is tomorrow! ;) Indulge and enjoy! Wishing you every blessing for rich days to come!

Sent by Kate in CO | 9:47 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Before the sun sets here in the west I want to wish you Happy Birthday. May you sleep well tonight knowing how many lives you have touched. Sweet dreams Birthday Boy.

Sent by Penny Coeur d'Alene, Idaho | 10:06 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy and if you happen to love chocolate, I highly recommend a large bowl of Moose Tracks. It's sinful, it's so good.

Sent by Janie | 10:09 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy birthday Leroy, mine is in 10/10 but I'll surley not see it in this world. I'll wait to meet you, hopefully not too soon. I feel as if I've known you for a long time through all of this. God Bless you today and for all those to come.

Sent by mary fitzpatrick | 10:10 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy, happy birthday to Leroy who is himself the icing on our cake every day! Last year at this time I recall that you weren't ready to look ahead to reaching today. All the more reason to celebrate each day that you have.

I am also a whipped cream gal, with the exception of the awesome bittersweet chocolate/orange icing that my grandmother used to put on the sides of her orange birthday cakes (The top was a white glaze with orange peel and bittersweet chocolate shavings.) In my family this is simply called "the cake."

Elaine, Sending sympathies and condolences on your husband's passing. I hope that we have been able to offer some small comfort to you during this journey.

Sue Chap, belated congratulations to you.

Sent by Sheara | 10:11 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! Thank you for the gift of you!

Sent by Terry | 10:16 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy. Hope you enjoyed the cake, or rather the icing. It really is the best part. As always, you and Laurie are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sent by Karen | 10:27 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!!

Sent by Nicole | 10:38 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Hope you had a very happy birthday. Isn't it fun how so many of us feel a part of your life because of this blog. Community is such a good thing. We are here for you, Leroy, and we wish you the best.

Sent by rjrjj | 10:42 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy: Happy Happy Birthday. June must be a great month. The people I know with June birthdays are very special and talented. Look at you and your wonderful writing skills.

Sent by diana from kc | 10:54 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy,I really wanted to write something witty,something sensitive,something profound with great wisdom..but the right words escape me.So,instead I want to share a short story with you.

Twenty years ago after a personal loss of my own I found myself at the funeral of a young neighbor who had died from aids.I recall walking arm in arm with my father through the cemetery.My dad,who at the time was 60 said this to me:"Daughter,if the good Lord takes me home today..I am ready"I knew at that moment those words spoken to me would bring me great comfort when dad passed away..and they did!I recall reading somewhere that the thought of eternity consoles for the shortness of life.At the time I thought that these were just nice words written by someone.Now I see them for what they were..great words of Wisdom written by someone who obviously lost someone very dear to them in their life.
None of us knows how much time we have left.In fact there are those who have read your blog in the past year who will probably die unexpectedly long before you do.Case in Point-Tim Russert.
I am grateful that you have found peace within.And so if your numbered days total 1-100-or even 1000 please know that you have left a legacy of courage,hope,and some much needed laughter to many of us.I don't think you even realize just how much you have come to mean to those of us who look forward to your daily thoughts and musings.
And so on this Birthday of yours I leave you with one final thought.
From the Movie "The Crow":
I 'll leave you with a line from the movie .........."The Crow":

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge, that myth is more potent that history. I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts - that hope always triumphs over experience - that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death
Happy Birthday Leroy!!!!!Enjoy your gooey,iced,birthday cake!

Sent by Allecia | 11:06 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! Today is my birthday as well and I also LOVE the icing on the store-bought cakes!! In fact, that is the only part I eat!

I have followed your blog for a long time and am incredibly proud to share my birth date with someone as honest and inspiring as you.

Happy Birthday Again!

Sent by Beth | 11:21 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy! I'm still praying for a miracle for you. PLEASE keep fighting and don't give up yet!

Sent by Stacy | 11:32 PM ET | 06-16-2008

My wishes to you Leroy that you have a super Birthday w/ tons of happy returns and 3" thick store icing

Sent by Robert Sheehan | 11:33 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Leroy and Laurie - Hope you had an enjoyable day celebrating your birthday. I helped out by eating more chocolate than I should in your honor. Thank you for yet another excuse.

I remember the day that our oncologist told my husband that acute lymphocytic leukemia was extremely nasty - most people don't live more than 2 weeks. He had just been given that bit of good news. If my memory serves me correctly, that was June or so, and he lived until October.

But he really "lived". We did anything and everything he was physically capable of doing. I had a lot of time to tell him how much I loved him. We really did have a lot of quality time together, and I'm so glad we did.

I read the post where someone referred to Tim Russert's recent death. I don't know for sure, but I would bet that Tim's wife would have given anything to have the "heads up" that we were given. I know that Paul was at peace also, which hadn't always been true. Please, Leroy, live like you were dying. It's such good advice that I'm doing the same thing now, and plan to for a long time. Here's to your 54th!!

Jeanette Carney

Sent by Jeanette Carney | 11:38 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Always eat the birthday cake! That was the other lesson that cancer taught me. Eat the birthday cake on other's birthday to share the joy of their celebration, eat the birthday cake on your own to show appreciation for whoever bought, baked, or produced it, and to live with abandon!

And all frosting is good. Some is just better than others! Ate TWO pieces of my nephew's chocolate cake with ganache filing this weekend . .. how glorious.

Happy Birthday to YOOOOOOOUUUUUU!!!

Sent by Peggy Carey | 11:41 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday! Leroy, I hope the icing was fabulous and that today was as special as you are. Thanks for sharing it, and your life, with us. I am grateful for you that you have peace along with the icing. On today and all of your tommorow's may you have all the peace and comfort...and CAKE that you need.

Sent by Beth | 11:48 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Oh happy happy belated birthday Leroy! You made me think of my 2 1/2 year old granddaughter. She prefers to swipe her finger through the "choc-it" frosting and avoid the cake completely! I guess no matter our age, some things never change!

I'm writing late so hope that your birthday was a joyful day. Perhaps you can think of another reason to celebrate (with cake and FROSTING) again tomorrow.

Rhonda H

Sent by Rhonda Howard | 11:50 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday, dear Leroy! You have been a medical phenomenon for the past several months. Don't give up hope for your future. Hope for peace of mind and the loving company of your family and friends.

Sent by Mel Sebastiani | 11:52 PM ET | 06-16-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy,
You make such a difference in the world.

Sent by Tess | 12:10 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Birthay LEROY! May you find a cake with a mile high pile of sweet icing!

Sent by Krupali Tejura | 12:17 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Hooray for icing!!
There's something to be said for knowing. Blessings and hugs.
Connie

Sent by Constance Brown | 12:28 AM ET | 06-17-2008

A very Happy Birthday to you, Leroy. I also am an icing lover. My birthday was in May. 54 for me. I special ordered a cake and will every year. I will share it with anyone, but it is MY cake.
All the best,
Ellie

Sent by Ellie Musgrove | 12:36 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Yeah icing!
Happy birthday, with much love from Kansas.

Sent by GFC | 12:38 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy! And many, many more to come. This is your day, enjoy.

Page - Gresham Oregon

Sent by page hendryx | 12:53 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Birthday, Leroy!

Sent by Janet | 1:06 AM ET | 06-17-2008

It's great to see honesty on a cancer blog. I've been about 15 months treating Stage II Rectal Cancer. I'm committed to transforming our current cultural conversation about cancer from one of fear and dread to a conversation that empowers us all to live our lives to our full potential and love the life we have right now!

Thanks for being such an inspiration!

http://bertscholl.blogspot.com/

Sent by Robert Scholl | 1:13 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy!

Personally I like Birthweeks--24 hours doesn't seem long enough to celebrate. We celebrate the birth and life of YOU!!

I just read your Fridays blog. As I am getting ready for an Autologous Stem Cell Transplant, I thought of a goal for you(beside ALL the incredible books to read).---- It's amazing what I'm learning about Stem Cells and our Immune system. A few weeks before I was diagnosed 2.5 years ago with Lymphoma at 45 it was quite bizarre that I heard a speaker talk about Science developing DNA Vaccines that would "cure"(or begin to cure) cancer in 5 years (2.5 years ago) Now I'm a healthy

Now I wouldn't normally get political or religious here on my comments--but erradicating cancer has become way too personal for me-especially if you are one who LOVEs LIVING! So your beautiful question: What does keep us alive?....I think there are so many things...
Of course Leroy--there are all those places on the planet that could motivate me. The Hawaiian island of Molokai was pretty heavenly to me--I remember when I was there about 7 years ago in the bogs-I knew I could go home and know that there was a heaven on earth.

One of my biggest hopes is that the next Leader of this country (is really a leader) and World leaders will open their minds and policies and pocketbooks to Stem Cell research--and as we think about sending rovers to Mars we also don't forget to keep going inward and finding out how we can get-into the body and heal a pancreas or reverse whats going on in the bone marrow--really take a look at planet earth and all of us amazing creatures. I think there was a pure time in our history that people lived longer happily (not shorter) before diseases. Sorry--I'm on my soap box now...I would like to live long enough to see people quit living in fear, appreciate and clean up our world, and ALLOW a breakthough in cancer research (all diseases for that matter) through Stem cell, molecular, etc...science...and in the meantime dreaming of Molokai and overly kissing my incredible Labrador before my Transplant isolation is enough goal to keep me holding on...I wish you could meet my Yellow Lab HoneyBear. She looks like Marley and Me...Many Blessings to you Leroy and Laurie!! Laurie-your words always bring me comfort and are so poetic. Love,

Sent by Linda | 4:30 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Birthday! I hope you receive the blessings of health and happiness this year. I don't think any of us thought we would be here (on any of the b-days we are having.) Much love from a fan in the trenches.

Sent by Cherie Brown, Tucson | 5:44 AM ET | 06-17-2008

BELATED HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LEROY! HOPE YOU "LIVED IT UP"... AND CONTINUE TO DO SO! TREAT EVERY DAY LIKE YOUR BIRTHDAY!!

HAVE A GOOD WEEK. BEST TO YOU AND LORRIE FROM
LSF IN CT

Sent by lsfisher | 6:32 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Birthday Leroy !!!!!!!!
Each day is a gift for us all. My girl finished her 2 year battle with colon cancer June 13th. I'm happy to say she found her peace. She was a fighter, amazing woman. She too went to Hopkins and her team was phenomenal; such compassion. I very much understand the stress from a caregivers view. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I wish you peace, love,and a good day today. GOD BLESS !

Sent by Kathy | 10:55 AM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Belated Birthday. Your one month younger then me:) Hope you and both had a wonderful day!

Sent by Kerry in Michigan | 1:12 PM ET | 06-17-2008

Leroy: Happy Birthday! Enjoy that icing.
I have followed your podcast and now your blog since you started them. I don't write often, but I think of you often.
Three years ago I was diagnosed with a rare form of lymphoma. I am one of the lucky ones -- today I am in full remission.
As I have followed your story I have been moved by your honesty and courage. As I listened, I would say to myself, "yes, that's exactly what this is like" or "wow, someone else knows what goes on in my head about this." In telling your story you provide a service to many individuals with cancer and our loved ones who stand through the experience with us. I want to thank you for that service. You made my own journey a bit lighter.
I wish I could do something to make a difference for your health. I know I can't just as you know it. If for a single moment, however, I lighten your mood, bolster your courage, or offer simple witness to your experience, then I have accomplished something. The same something you have accomplished in sharing your life with all of us.
Take care, Leroy.
Diane

Sent by Diane Bonne | 3:17 PM ET | 06-17-2008

hippo birdie 2 ewe, Leroy!

I am sorry to have missed the day, but I am delighted to have seen this post of yours. I hope the icing was sweet-gooey good!

xoxoxox!

Sent by Teri Thomas | 5:51 PM ET | 06-17-2008

Happy Belated Birthday, Leroy!!! How did I not know that we shared birthdays?! Here's to cake and icing and many more!

Sent by Melody | 7:16 PM ET | 06-17-2008

Is it that we are Geminis or what? I love icing too!!! That's my favorite part. Eat all you like. I know this note is coming a little after your birthday, but you should still be eating icing days after your birthday anyway.

Sent by Cristina Trapani-Scott | 5:17 PM ET | 06-18-2008

Happy Belated Birthday Leroy! I am another grocery store birthday cake icing-loving Gemini (my b-day was June 12)!! I celebrate the entire month of June, and I observe no limits! I am in Miami, and I am addicted to Publix birthday cakes (yellow or white inside) with copious amount of icing (preferably in the shape of flowers or balloons). I always wait for the corner piece because I'll hit the icing jackpot! I consider myself a fairly conscious eater, but I have no restraint with birthday cake. This year, I will be eating the entire cake... and I'm not ashamed to admit it! I have about two more slices left, but I will share a virtual slice with you. Leroy, please continue to inspire us with your story. As a physician, I have learned so much from your blogs and your commentary. I frequently recommend that my medical colleagues listen to you as well. Again, Happy Belated Birthday, and started working on Birthday 54!

Sent by S.A. | 9:30 PM ET | 06-23-2008