G-d bless you, Leroy, have a beautiful day and enjoy you and Laurie! Eat something positively sinful and enjoy it totally!
Jan

Sent by Janice Goldberg White | 7:56 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Dear Leroy,
I agree with your suggestion. It would be wonderful to take a day off.

I would like to thank everyone for their kind words yesterday. Prayers to all.

Sent by sasha | 8:14 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Amen!

Sent by Marilyn | 8:15 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Yes Leroy~ CLICH'~ try thinking OUTSIDE of the Box and reach out to a few of your "followers" who seem to need you and are just as worried as you are about the future. It sometimes helps to help others.
Love ya!

Sent by J C R | 8:19 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Hi Leroy,

Following your lead, here's what I'm going to think about today: sailing ...
(I LOVE SAILING, even though I don't get to do it much at all.)

Being at the beach, on or in the ocean.
(my favorite place to be.)

Hope you have a wonderful day on your side of your line in the sand!

Cheers,

Kim

Sent by Kim Blankenship | 8:22 AM ET | 07-22-2008

So the Olympics start next month. Anyone going? Does anyone know of anyone who will be competing?

Sent by Pam | 8:22 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy, Please - take as many days off from writing about cancer as you like! I have never understood how you did it every single weekday. Enjoy the summer. Sit in your garden. Listen to some good music. Have some watermelon.

Sent by N.R. | 8:26 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Hey Leroy, who are you going to vote for? (Nothing like politics to start a conversation or fight!)

Sent by Ann | 8:31 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy, wonderful idea. The old spunk is back. I hope you and Laurie will have a beautiful day whether just sitting back relaxing at home or doing something special. Just enjoy each other.

Sent by dorothy in oregon | 8:32 AM ET | 07-22-2008

AHMEN!!!!!!!
Today I asked my son to do something different. Anything! He has gotten into a rout, working and going to summer school, and needs to just break out. Of course, I realize that the person I am really talking to is me.

How refreshing to read that you are thinking that too Leroy!

I am so thankful to you and for your guidance these past two years. Your kind words and brillant insights have helped me in my journey in so many ways. Gratitude. Appreciation. Adoration.

Peace be with you,
Jessie

Sent by jessie | 8:34 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Taking a day off:

In my imagination:
Today I will **finally** find out what Leroy makes of the world today after a long talk (I can bring him the New Yorker cover if can't think of something ourselves!)
Today I will treat Laurie for a much-deserved pedicure (if she doesn't like them, well I am sure I can find something she likes to do for herself)
Today I will pick a nice red wine and make a sangria they will never forget (with mango and cherries)
Today I will bring them the sangria with grocery store cake
Today I will meet all of you (Liz Z do you need a ride?)

In my reality:
Today I will buy my birthday present from my Dad (my birthday was Friday - and isn't it supposed to help the economy to spend money instead of save money?)
Today I will drive the tae kwon do carpool for my kids and watch them build healthy bodies
Today I will do 50-100 loads of laundry (artistic license here?)
Today I will be outside in the sun on the last day of this heatwave
Today I will make a meal or two or three
Today I will write.

Tonight I will log on again and read what everyone else made of today's posting!

If you are in TX, stay safe.

Be well!
Much Love to all my friends here!

Greetings From New Jersey

Sent by Liz L. | 9:05 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Great idea! I wouldn't mind if you wrote about the world outside of cancer. What do you think of Obama's trip? McCain's geographic confusion?

Sent by Dianne (DC) | 9:22 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Yes! If each day is a lifetime (as I see it post cancer diagnosis)then love the day as you want to.

When I was actively dealing with cancer, I would do anything at times, just to be, me, Deborah, without tumor talk. We are not our tumors! We are incredible people, even moreso than before.

Enjoy your tumor-talk-free day, week, however long you want to take it.

In Healing,
Deborah

Sent by Deborah Kanter | 9:23 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Kim, I'm with you. Sailing and being at the beach/ocean are the best. I am going sailing this weekend and can't wait, I never think of 'it" on the boat. Hope you get to go soon! Leroy -great idea - it's like taking a mini-vacation. Enjoy the day.

Sent by Beth | 9:25 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Today I'm going to do what I'm supposed to do. Then I'll do what I want to do. First, move 3 pieces of furniture around in my living room. (Well, I'll be directing; nothing physical!) Then I'll get a pedicure with my SO's favorite color nail polish.. On the way home I'll stop at the grocery store and then it's on to the pool for some fun in the sun.
As a sun lover for forever, it's no surprise to me that Vitamin D is so good for you!
Finally I wil keep reminding myself to have gratitude and that all I can control is myself.
I won't give one thought to global warming, the Presidential campaign, the recession, gas prices, or the Beast.
Hugs from steamy Delaware!
Sue

Sent by Sue Mersic | 9:36 AM ET | 07-22-2008

COOL! "Forgot" with my friend yesterday and all we did was laugh. Enjoy your day!

Sent by Betty O'Connor | 9:39 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Love all the suggestions for the day and can only hope LIZ will come by and give me a ride too!

Although I do not know anyone competing in China, several athletes from the DC area are going to be there as well as a local swim coach who will be serving as a judge there.

Cherish the day.

Peggy

Sent by Peggy | 9:39 AM ET | 07-22-2008

THumbs down to the tumors. We are more than our tumors, we will rise above the tumors, we shall pity the tumors for they can not tear away our spirit and our heart. TUmors beware
loving all of you, Sherri in Texas, BC dx 4-06

Sent by Sherri Eggleston | 9:41 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Today in Denver I will trim trees in my townhouse complex, where sparrows have found a 2-inch niche between brick and fence, to birth their little chirpers; where bees are a-buzzin' in their majestic turban-shaped hive in the pine branch I will not get near. They, too, are community.
30 years ago, 25 and back living in my high school bedroom, recuperating from a lung operation and chemo, I could never infer from Then, the chance to Now, be 55 and savoring tart cherries from the tree by the dumpster, amazed at how many versions of green there are, when you take the time to stop and look and breathe it all in.
Life the Great Mystery. Peace to all you good folks on this July 22, 2008. Aren't those glorious yellowbutterflies so generous with their flitting glory? How did the old poster put it, "a bird sings not because she has an answer, but because she has a song." And in the meantime, my cats are on full siesta duty in the house, my mentors in 'slow down' therapy.
Peace to all the LeRoy Clan

Sent by john anduri | 9:43 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Today I'm going to lunch with my husband and we will talk about anything but my cancer.
Love to you and Laurie.

Sent by Marcia | 9:44 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy- How about planning a get together with friends? I don't know if you're up for lots of company, but if you are, I'm thinking the sort of open house where guests bring food and drink and talk and laugh and cry and enjoy the togetherness. I'm guessing you have many friends who would feel lucky to get over to enjoy time with you and Laurie-
regards- Barb in Princeton

Sent by Barbara | 9:52 AM ET | 07-22-2008

all right!!!

Sent by ileana suber | 9:53 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Carpe Diem!

Sent by Art Ritter | 9:56 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Reality--a dentist appointment and making dinner for a sick friend.

Fantasy--walking on the beach in Cape Cod with Pat. We always went this time of year.

Have a fantastic day yourselves.

Sent by Kathy B. from Michigan | 10:09 AM ET | 07-22-2008

I am packing the Harley for 3000 miles of adventure, we have several maps, folded and refolded, several notions of must see places and 12 days to run with our faces in the wind. Winding through the Tetons, Yellowstone, Glacier the ride the Highway to the Sun... (are you with us yet?)then pushing north towards the Canadian border to see small towns and meet new friends, circling back to revisit Crater Lake, Lava Beds and Mts. Lassen & Shasta (quite a mystical part of the Universe in their proximity). Get out a map and come on our ride with us! We send thoughts of joy, satisfaction, creativity, peace and happiness.

Sent by Stitches | 10:11 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Today:
I will see my daughter off to internship number one with the women's shelter, and anticipate our discussion tonight the new developments with internship number two at the local Obama campaign office.

I will watch my son head off to ride his horse, and remember when he was three and had to be held onto the horse, 'cause its lulling motion put him to sleep.

I will supervise my dogs who circle in supervision all the painters and carpenters who actually were able to coordinate schedules and all be here on the same day!!!!!

I will pay college tuition bills, and marvel that I parented these two amazing young adults, and we still enjoy each other's company!

I WILL figure out how to capture video and use the new software to upload on-line. Yes, I can! And maybe even take some clips of the robin, incubating a second clutch in the crabapple outside my living room window.

I will call my husband in the middle of the day, just because, and tell him I love him.

And tonight I will reread this blog just to check in with all of Leroy's Clan , to see what all of us made of this beautiful summer day.

Sent by Kay from PA | 10:20 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy, Let's go to Balboa; yes the one in Calif. Great frozen Bananas with some crusty chocolate, and your choice of sprinkles--all you want!!!
Thoughts, Stan

Sent by Stan Wozniak | 10:20 AM ET | 07-22-2008

I agree! Let's do something else--we're going to get a pizza and watch "Michael Clayton" with my father-in-law, et al.

Let's escape---

Sent by Pamela | 10:24 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy, are you up for a movie? I recommend Mama Mia. The scenery is incredible and the music will take you back to your college days. Plus you will find that your feet are tapping for the rest of the day.

Sent by Cathy Sewell | 10:33 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Good on you, Leroy! This morning I wandered around our garden with our dogs and a hummingbird came flying very close to me. The I fed two feral cats near where I work and both of them came up close to greet me for the first time. What a special morning.
I'm sending love and hugs to all in Leroy's Army-you are all blessings to me.
Sasha - how are you? I hope you can feel me giving you a big hug.

Sent by Tina from Alton, IL | 10:42 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Sailing...take me away to where I've always wanted to be...love that song by Christopher Cross!!
Enjoy today...breathe deep...face the sun...feel the breeze...smell the scent...you are LOVED!

Sent by bethann | 10:42 AM ET | 07-22-2008

I'm working today, but we ate breakfast on the deck with four cats, one dog, and an incredible number of birds and squirrels.

The rose garden is blooming again. The colors are amazing and they smell pretty darn good too.

I'd REALLY like some of that sangria with mangos and cherries.

Does anyone have tomoatoes yet? I'm trying to be patient, but it's hard.

Sent by Kelly in Maryland | 11:01 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Way to go...vacation without a tank of gas or plane. Great thinnking. I'm going to take a short hop: 1 nephew for an ice cream (9) and later, the other for dinner (18). No work or cancer for me today!

Sent by Jo-Ellen | 11:10 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Happy Tuesday Leroy!

Sent by Ruth White | 11:12 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy, may I respectfully suggest that perhaps today you might allow yourself to journey beyond the physical pain and reality into the vast unknown and mystery of life and death? Dare we seek to understand and yet know that we do not have the answers. But it is in the asking that matters as it will bring you down a path that only you can come to appreciate.

Sent by christine | 11:15 AM ET | 07-22-2008

My mom has alzheimers. It's really not funny I know and I miss the old mom sometimes. Still sometimes she is so funny.

Yesterday I spoke with her on the phone, she told me she went downstairs in the retirement home where she and my dad live; when I asked why she went downstairs, she couldn't remember. She asked my dad "Edward, why did I go downstairs today?". He said "What?, I don't know". She returns to the phone very agitated and says to me "Your father! I swear he's just losing it these days!". I had to laugh.

Sent by Missy | 11:20 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Last night we had a rattlesnake in our back yard - the dogs had him wrangled up (yeah bassett hound and mutt terrier!). Poor little venomous creature died by a 4X4 to the head and back. Surprisingly the 4 year-old boy didn't paint a picture about it...just a nice watercolor to go on the fridge.

Peace & love.

Sent by GFC | 11:28 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Shhhhhhhhh.
No "C" word for the day. Good for you.

Sent by Sue in Rochester, NY | 11:30 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Coffee, feeding the dogs 'n cats, then taking care of all of my son's reptile/amphibian critters while he and my husband are on a week's rafting trip down the Middle Fork of the Salmon River. (Somebody's gotta do it!) After that, watering the gardens; then taking the car in for a tweak at the dealership; and then ... Sitting on the patio (with a cold glass of sweet tea), reading the fabulous new novel, "The Art of Racing in the Rain" by Garth Stein.

After that? Dinner (frozen, microwaveable!), the news, maybe some more reading ... Notice there's no grocery shopping or housecleaning or similar tasks in this day. Not today.

Wishing you a wonderful "day off" today, Leroy.

~Kim Forester

Sent by Kim Forester | 11:36 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Stan - I meant to have asked how you are feeling today. Yesterday you were not so well. I hope you are beating down that virus.

Sent by Tina from Alton, IL | 11:36 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Did anyone see that basketball shot that Obama nailed while visiting the troops overseas? With all those people and all that pressure to nail that shot at that distance? Totally amazing...

Sent by Nichole in FL | 11:37 AM ET | 07-22-2008

I will have the most interesting day, I believe. My youngest just got his driving permit and guess what he wants to do?! YIKES!

Sent by Jen | 11:41 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Good Morning Leroy & Family,
I am not going to comment today. But by not doing so, it doesn't mean that I am not thinking about you and wishing you to have a good and peaceful day!Because I am!
Page Hendryx-Gresham Oregon

Sent by Page Hendryx | 11:42 AM ET | 07-22-2008

I am organizing my 35th class reunion which will take place this coming Saturday the 26th. Where have the years gone? That has kept me busy the past couple of months. Beautiful day here in Michigan - after work today I plan to get out and enjoy it.

Sent by Deb from Michigan | 11:46 AM ET | 07-22-2008

What a wonderful idea!
Today I will enjoy the hum and cool of the air conditioner...we have a heat advisory here in Jackson and its too darn hot to do anything else!
Tonight, however, I will open a bottle of our favorite wine and make a toast to one of the best things that ever happened to me, Neil. I will enjoy the sunset, watch a few golfers, listen to the birds, watch my dogs run around the deck and count my blessings.
To all my cyber friends and family, have a beautiful every day!
Nikki in KS, my thoughts are with you this week!

Sent by Laurie Hirth | 11:48 AM ET | 07-22-2008

It's a very sunny day with hardly a cloud. The forest fire is almost contained. The neighbors' dogs have quit barking after 2 hours. I'm going to lunch with many friends. I'm having a girls' night out. My three-legged border collie is lying at my feet. He's such a Velcro dog and loves me unconditionally. I learned that pine cones take three years to mature before they fall off the trees. It's so peaceful. Life is good.

Sent by Susan in the beautiful mountains of Colorado | 11:48 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Good Morning Leroy, Laurie and All,

Leroy, I agree, a change of pace occasionally is the way to go. Kick off your shoes, be silly, have a water fight. Make some new memories. Go for it!!

Laurie, Sneak something new into the day. Find some mischief that the two of you can get into together. Laugh until all the giggles surround you.

To All, It can be really hard to focus on other aspects of our lives when the disease takes so much of our energy. But time outs are so important. Tom and I had a wonderful time out last weekend. My neice, Brenda, her Husband Ashok and their 5 year old daughter, Hannah visited. Little Hannah is a whirlwind. I don't know how so much energy can be in one little person! But it was wonderful having a young child in the house again. We visited the Raptor Center at Latta Plantation. Hannah spoke right up and told the staff all she knew about owls. And Tom and I were able to forget our fears for awhile. It was wonderful!! We also walked on the fishing pier and watched the boats on Mountain Island Lake. Then we got family members together for dinner at Long Horn Steak House. There were 10 of us and we came in all sizes and ages. So much fun!! And lasting memories to keep. So take advantage of all chances to step outside of Cancer World when ever the opportunity presents itself. There is another world out there and we can still share moments in it. God Bless!

Eileen Pruyne
Charlotte, NC

Sent by Eileen Pruyne | 11:52 AM ET | 07-22-2008

embrace the moment, enjoy the day, i agree, taking care of self and doing what you want to do and what brings you joy........i sit and soak up my 17 month old grand-daughter's love...georgie, BC 11/05

Sent by georgie | 11:52 AM ET | 07-22-2008

Dear Leroy,

Wishing all a peaceful and calm day!

Sent by barbara j | 12:03 PM ET | 07-22-2008

To Kelly in Maryland -- Yes! We have an overabundance of ripe tomatoes in our backyard. Wish we could share with all of you. I like to start my day by walking out to the garden barefoot over the wet grass, then just grazing awhile on cherry tomatoes -- while a pair of curious hummingbirds flits down to investigate my face with the bright red colors entering it.

Then I'll shower and take a walk down to the river...come back and chat with my son about his job hunt and the great DVD we watched together last night (Charlie Wilson's War). Maybe we'll meet his younger brother for an early lunch and hear inspiring stories about his adventures as a brand-new social worker doing art therapy with emotionally disturbed kids. Later, I'll comb our cat's long hair and try to carefully cut some of the matted knots out.This afternoon I'll be at work in a small library where I've been employed almost ten years now. It's in a low income/high crime area, but it's amazing how high spirited most people who come in are. They bring us all their questions and problems to solve. It's really quite fascinating.(No time to think about the Big C there!) If I get a chance, I'll go online and research the possibilities of an October train trip across the Rockies. That's been a fantasy of mine recently. I'll phone my husband to tell him I love him. Then on the drive home, I'll pick up something delicious to grill. Salmon, maybe? After dinner, I'll sit out on the front steps with my husband and laugh over the antics of the neighborhood kids who play in the court every evening. And I'll look back over the day and count my blessings, starting with Leroy's blog.

Sent by Doris | 12:08 PM ET | 07-22-2008

The news lately is stranger than fiction. Try to use a news item to build the plot line and characters of a hypothetical short story. This exercise could either be hilarious or frightening!

Sent by Leslie Bjorncrantz | 12:31 PM ET | 07-22-2008

What a relief to not think about the disease - takes tons off the shoulders.

I want to reprise last Saturday night. We were at Bethany Beach, DE and hungry. We'd had a big lunch but the Boardwalk Fries were calling our names. Enjoyed the evening breeze sitting on the boardwalk bench with two big greasy buckets - one with ketchup and one with vinegar - yum, yum. Topped off with Dickie's ice cream and Fisher's caramel popcorn with peanuts for a sinful, filling, delicious dinner.

Pig out on your favorite temptation today.

Paix.

Sent by Sara in MD | 12:36 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Out early this morning, watering my garden. Peace. Deep blue sky, daylillies, coneflowers, dianthus, poppies, etc. etc. Every color you can imagine. Lots of Brandywine tomatoes on my five plants, but all still green so far.

Cool early morning air. Birds singing. My two cats following me around. When I go to the front yard they follow; if I go round back, they come there also. If I dare to sit down in the lawn chair they have to be in my lap! Neighbors waving from across the street. Does it get any better than this? I need to remember mornings like this in January when it is ten blow, icy, dark most of the day.

Sent by Wendy | 12:39 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Hi Leroy!! Great Idea. I was visiting some friends in Columbia County last week (south of Albany...1/2 hour)and thinking of you often. I got to the Blog site, still, every day. But I was thinking of you in my friend's garden. I asked to help her because it is healing and makes me feel so good. While picking cultivated Blueberries I thought you might like them too. I spent each day out studying nature (moss in particular) then at night we continued to catch up over dinner and then watched the full moon rise over the hills and mountains. Jupiter, Saturn and Venus were visible and very bright - beautiful. Then I practiced my violin (which I take with me everywhere. I started playing two years ago at the age 0f 50). When I want "a moment in a different world" and nothing else works I go play my violin. It transports me to another place where nothing negative has any power over me: it is amazing. I am now home again on eastern Long Island and thought of all this earlier today as I walked into the woods. I wanted to reflect about last week this morning which is why I made myself go out into the woods today and then I saw all the wild blueberries and picked them too!...But I never would have thought to share it all here, with you, if you had not suggested we take the 'day off' together. Thank you.
Love to you. Graham from Sag Harbor.

You are never far from my thoughts Leroy.

Sent by Graham G. Hawks | 12:41 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Tumors? What tumors? :-)

Sent by J S M | 12:41 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Way to go Leroy!!! You're a big strong man and those tumors need to know who's the boss!! I absolutely love your positive and upbeat attitude! Do something fantasti today and totally enjoy yourself with Laurie.
Sue Sheehan, Bothell, Wa.

Sent by Sue Sheehan | 12:56 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Leroy,

I like your fighting spirit! No cancer talk. Hope you and Laurie have a day filled with love and laughter.

Blessings.

Sent by Diana Kitch | 1:02 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Thank you Leroy. I'm going to get off my butt and go outside and enjoy the flower gardens that my wife has worked so hard on. I'm going to make a video of them to watch when they are covered with snow this winter.

Sent by Tom Escott | 1:21 PM ET | 07-22-2008

The sun is burning through the fog, around the Monterey bay. A light breeze sets off deep wind chimes in the yard and I, share a cup of green tea with all of you.

I rejoice in the mundane. Maybe after the laundry and bill paying, I'll venture down to the shore, to see if any of you are sailing by.

Free to dream!

Sent by Joan S. | 1:21 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Got up realy early this morning had to water all my roses and bed of flowers. I enjoy flowers they are soo beautiful! they are not perfect you know, but in the imperfection they are gorgeous!! the sky is bright blue today!! Thinking of you Leroy. Have a pain free day.
Peace be with you.
Marelly

Sent by Marelly | 1:24 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Good Afternoon Leroy and all,
Today I've done some laundry, took care of my 4 dogs(babies), and hope to watch a movie later and get dinner and most of all be thankful for another beautiful summer day, all of my friends here on the blog and the love and grace of God. Hope everyone has a sunny and peaceful day.

Sent by Teresa in WV | 1:25 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I'm in. A glass of cabernet with me?

Sent by Tracy | 2:13 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Hi Leroy - All the days are yours to take off as far as we're concerned... If you write tomorrow that you had a Mai Tai today ...even better. Perhaps the best Mai Tai recipe should make the rounds here on this blog and we can all make one and toast each other besides. I recall having a fine Mai Tai at Trader Vics in NYC before the Democrat Convention for Jimmy Carter and it's high time to have another one. Anyone Care to join me?

Cheers - Brin

Sent by Brin | 2:24 PM ET | 07-22-2008

God Bless us all!!!!!!!
I always read and never post...you all keep me going. Thank You for that wonder, support, inspiration, and blessings beyond earthly expactation.

I have or I am supposed to have 8 weeks leave of absence(this is the way I put it to my doc). She called it "time off".
Since my cancer is wondering what is going on already??
I got home from breakfast.
I thought lets see what everyone else is up to today...and much to my suprise you are all joining me with time off....however just to bring you up to date as to what the rules are here. NO CANCER TALK FOR 8 WEEKS. End of Aug. However I had to call in the prayer warriors yesterday. Below you will read my email to them.
Dear Prayer Warriors,
About feeling good???? I had an almost fall Sat. night and in breaking the fall I pulled the sciatica nerve in the neuropathy side. I got to church for first service and left, came home and took a pain pill, it put me out the rest of Sunday...and this morning I have had Tylenol and a muscle relaxer and slept till about 1:30. I can go down steps but, not up without pulling my leg by my PJ pant leg...I guess this is going to take time to heal...time I don't want to use up sleeping. Please pray for a speedy recovery. I don't want to spend this time off from treatment, test, whistles, bells, and more test, sleeping. I want to be awake.~ blessings, sandy
In adding to todays post again thank you Leroy and all, for all you give to me daily.

p.s after breakfast I went shopping and bought TWO NEW recliners. Hows that for doing something different and in a little while I"m going to go to the shaved ice man!!!"black cherry, yummy, maybe twice before bed time????
Happy Day and Blessing to you all.~sandy

Sent by Sandy in Ohio | 2:24 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I'm reading a fabulous book called "Three Cups of Tea". It is amazing what one person can do when they are driven toward a goal and refuse to accept man-made boundaries. I can highly recommend it. Kim

Sent by Kim | 2:41 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I've spent way too much time today at the computer looking at real estate listings and town information. My husband and I have been "shopping" for our second/retirement home for quite some time. We admit that we cannot afford the "perfect" home in the "perfect" town, located in coastal Massachusetts (working in the beach theme) -- but we are still looking for something close to that. Hunted on Sunday, and last week...hope to have another trip this week.

We celebrated our eldest son's 25th birthday this weekend with some yummy Chocolate Mousse cake after a dinner that included fresh picked corn and local tomatoes with mozzarella and basil from the garden.

To Stan, Balboa sounds just great - I was there last May, celebrating a graduation with a dinner overlooking the pier. Also,you made me think of Balboa Park in San Diego -- another delightful spot.

Most days I am lucky to be able to banish the Big C into the rumble seat.

Sent by Sheara | 2:45 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Amen.

Sent by Emilie | 2:45 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Ahh a no c***** day!! Works for me! I am off to hug a husband , spar with my boys, laugh with my daughter and spoil my 17 month old grandbaby. I am not going to waste one second with well you know. Not giving it any more time then it deserves.
I am off to help plant our tree ( I can be the manager of that )and cut some roses! Lets all us make it the best day possible.After all its all anyone has anyways.
Hugs and Prayers

Sent by Kerry in Michigan | 3:02 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I certainly agree with all of these others.. Take some time off, you and Laurie and enjoy a night or day or week without talking about the C-word. Banish it from your vocabulary for just a bit. If anyone calls to check on you...ask them to rephrase - they are calling to "check in with you".... You are both in our thoughts.

Sent by Cindy Sivula | 3:04 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Great idea!! Set the alarm for 7:00 am this morning, showered & out of the house by 8. Picked up lite breakfast of coffee & a bagel; and picked up xrays at the lab before reporting for my first doctor visit of the day.

Went to the office supply store for copy paper; picked up a blender at Wal*mart's (broke ours & hubby is missing his milk shakes); dropped off and picked up a prescription; and went to the bank to put things into the safe deposit box & get current rates on their CDs.

Had a light lunch of tunafish & fruit then went to my second doctor appt; had to have a shot between my toes OUCH!!!; left in one regular shoe and one surgical shoe and returned xrays to the lab.

Finally returned home at 2:15 pm, exhausted.... but had to read my email and check up on you folks before I fall in for a much needed nap!!

Not the most exciting day but I got a lot accomplished, got to cross a lot of things off on my current "list" and feel good.

Glad everyone is making good use of their day!!

Sent by Betty Obst | 3:18 PM ET | 07-22-2008

OOOPS!!!

Forgot the most important thing! Sitting on the lanai, early this morning, I saw a young bobcat sitting on the other side of the pond, just watching me. Really cool!! Have seen him plus a florida panther once before. Have also seen a pack of wild hogs once, a few armadillos and loads of herons, egrets, sand hill cranes, woodstorks, eagles and of course, the occasional alligator and loads of lizards. It's always fun to watch and exciting to see something new!!

Sent by Betty Obst | 3:21 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Just a suggestion...

Take a few understanding friends who can give you the mental, physical, and emotional support. Post an "on Vacation" sign on the blog.

Now do the things that mean something to you. Could be a trip, great friends, sights, or the silence of a cold night.

I would go to a private place, invite my friends, eat great home cooked meals, play great music, laugh, and enjoy the moments that friendships bring.

We know you are dying and we would selfish that you must keep doing this blog at this time.

Get away from all the cancer reminders, write another story, be with who want to be with...don't let cancer control you.

Thank you,
Richard

Sent by Richard Williams | 3:41 PM ET | 07-22-2008

How about a Joke then.
A friend walks up to another friend holding his eye and complaining. The other Friend asks him what happened. The guy holding his eye says, I was walking along the fence of the looney bin and I heard this chanting 12, 12, 12, 12. There was this little hole in the fence so I peeked through to see what they were chanting about. I got poked in the eye and the next thing you know, they start chanting 13, 13, 13, .....

Sent by Paul | 4:18 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Thank goodness illness does not define a person. It's mighty hot here in Central Texas--everything has just about burned up, including anyone who has been outside for any length of time. We need some rain, even though the heat will be with us until sometime in October. Mild winters are our reward for days like today! Thank goodness for the sainted person who invented air conditioning.

Sent by N. Holmes | 4:24 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Don't just take a day off, take a whole week! Keep the non-cancer posts going for as long as you can and really piss off those tumors!

Sent by Ellie Boylan | 4:28 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I'm taking this humorously, cynically, & sarcastically, which I think will get you through almost anything!

Sent by Mauri | 4:58 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Hi Leroy,

Hooray for you! Have a great day!

Sent by Marcy in NJ | 5:16 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Sounds good to me. It's probably one of the best things for our health.

Sent by Beth S | 5:33 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I went blueberry picking in our field in the warm sun and entered a dream, a reverie in which cancer didn't exist. It was wonderful.

Cheers from Nancy O

Sent by Nancy Oliveri | 5:39 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Today I did something illegal! This is funny for anyone who knows me because I am a daughter of a wonderful (now gone from this world) state policeman and we always obeyed the laws in my childhood family and we still do today in my grown-up one. But not today. Today my husband and I trapped a groundhog that was seriously annoying our neighbors- our neighbors had decided to kill it. So, we trapped him, offered him lunch of carrots and cucumbers, and took him across the river to a large green area, an "edge" area ecologically with both open spaces, woods, and shade cover, and released him. He shot off to a new life; there's space enough for him to move on if he runs into another animal's territory. I'd have preferred to have let him stay "home", as that would have been best, but we didn't have that choice... so he has had an adventure, and so did we. (Yes, it's illegal to do this in our state, but sometimes, you gotta do what you gotta do).

Sent by Barbara K | 5:46 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Today:

Getting out and going for laps in the pool. It's very peaceful hearing the sound of your own breath and nothing else.

Sent by mc | 5:49 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I am starting a list of my own and it has proved to be a lot of fun, I will have to hang around a while longer to see someone do them all.

Sent by Marian | 6:01 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Brave Soul

Know that we are here -- across the nation, across the planet -- sending you power and strength, courage and faith.

When you feel lost and empty and cold,
Just whisper our names in your heart -

Whether you know us by our faces or by our souls, you will feel our combined strength and the rush of love
streaming in to fill the places where you need us.

It is important to remember who you are -- And to know that your journey and those of your loved ones is sacred.

The gift of life is profound - For each of you has changed the world.

The light of remembrance shines in many eyes, placed there by what each has shared and taught through their living and their loving.

We worship with you the astonishing being that you are, the courage and true love you have shared with the world.

We send reassurance and grace for your continued journey and sweetest care for those left behind.

Please don't be afraid, we are with you.
Rest gently, we are holding you.

I know that each human that cares and lives and loves anyone, anywhere in the world tonight, is sending you comfort and peace and most of all, love.

Sent by sh | 6:18 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Today I went to work, stopped at the cemetery on my way home to tell Leon how much I love and miss him, and now am just checking on my friends in Leroy's Army.
I think I'll play our Colorado Vacation video and just remember....
Prayers to all,
Jane

Sent by Jane | 6:44 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Well okay!

We went to two distilleries today.. Jack Daniels and George Dickel. The we managed to find The Hermitage. We didn't have an easy time finding any of the above even with a GPS. And all of them are national historic landmarks. Go figure. Encountered a really bad rain storm with tons of lightning. And it is still in the 90's and it is almost 6:30. More later....

Sent by Sue Chap | 7:19 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Hey Stan
I live ten minutes from Balboa Island. Every Friday my daughter and I go down to the Island and have dinner and then share a Balboa bar. I love the sprinkles and butter brickel. Then we walk the whole Island (it's not very big) and enjoy the ocean breeze. I think we'll just have to do that tonite!!

Kate in California

Sent by Kate | 8:02 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Let's have more days like this....a whole community vanquishing this for a day, many days.

Sent by Linda | 8:10 PM ET | 07-22-2008

In keeping with the theme, Leroy, did I ever tell you about the time I had the desire to do something fun in the community, so I volunteered to be part of those people all dressed in black who run around the stage during an opera setting up the props? They're called something exotic like the "Corps de Ballet" (CdB)or something fancy like that. Anyway during rehearsal at the opera "The Magic Flute," the tenor climbs waaay up on this really tall ladder and those of us in the CdB are running around winding this big ole long and wide piece of black fabric around it to make it look like something magical and mysterious - I forget now what it was supposed to look like - and graceful me gets my feet tangled up on the fabric laying on the ground that causes me to fall flat on my face and I'm thinking I'm dead meat, and the tenor is dramatically and loudly singing away and the other members of the CdB just keep right on wrapping that fabric around and around and around and I'm yelling at the top of my lungs "Don't step on me!!!!!! but nobody can hear me because of the microphone and that guy's bombarding voice . . . they just kept right on going and going and going (like the battery bunny) and I'm laying there with my face in the wood yelling at the top of my lungs and bracing for a foot stomp or kick or another person tripping and falling over me (which never happened, thank goodness) . . . and it was absolutely hilarious and, of course, the artsy director, made some kind of comment acknowledging my fall and whether I thought I could avoid being tangled up the next time. Luckily, I was not nicknamed "Grace" - - at least to my face. Anyway, it was a little funny moment in my life - - just wanted to share -- hope it makes you smile. Laughing is good. CdB now translates in my mind in English as "those who must be careful not to get their butts stomped on." So much for my tribute to art. Leroy/Laurie . . . you're in my thoughts . . . .

Sent by P Sut | 8:21 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I pulled my first tomato off the vine today from my garden. Granted it was just a cherry tomato but it means the bigger ones are not far behind. Something I really, really love about summer when I am whining about the heat, the tomatoes!! I hope you are enjoying your day Leroy, go look for some garden tomatoes, LOL!

Sent by Cindee | 8:26 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Boy Leroy, your posting friends are a cheery bunch. Don't take this as a criticism everyone, but sometimes you sound like cheerleaders; most of the time you can get in the spirit, but sometimes you would just like them to shut up!.
Dealing with reality, I hope you take a little more pain medicine, or have a drink on top of the meds, and read a book, watch a stupid silly movie, or just veg with Laurie. (I can't believe you regularly watch The Departed"- that would depress anyone!)
Have a restful day.

Sent by Sherri Beadles | 8:44 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Have someone read to you from Salman Rushdie's "The Enchantress of Florence." Deliciously, wickedly, intelligently naughty - a story of someone trying to control their fate with seemingly ("seemingly") little power to do so (sound familiar?)

Have someone read to you from Rory Stewart's "The Places in Between." He admits he doesn't know why he spent 16 months walking across Iran, Pakistan, Indian and Nepal beginning in 2002 - alone. These are your old stomping grounds. I would be interested to know if you think he really "got it." One of the most unforgettable characters I've ever encountered - real or fictional, his beloved Babur - he writes so that I am convinced I must have run my fingers through that wiry, mangy, courageous pelt.

(By the way, don't mean to suggest you can read yourself, but it has always seemed to me to be the ultimate luxury, to have someone read to me.)

And finally, for today, read this from a recent Garrison Keillor Writers Almanac

The Young Watch Us
by Donald Hall

and

Gold
by Donald Hall

The Young Watch Us

The young girls look up
as we walk past the line at the movie,
and go back to examining their fingernails.

Their boyfriends are combing their hair,
and chew gum
as if they meant to insult us.

Today we made love all day.
I look at you. You are smiling at the sidewalk,
dear wrinkled face.

Gold

Pale gold of the walls, gold
of the centers of daisies, yellow roses
pressing from a clear bowl. All day
we lay on the bed, my hand
stroking the deep
gold of your thighs and your back.
We slept and woke
entering the golden room together,
lay down in it breathing
quickly, then
slowly again,
caressing and dozing, your hand sleepily
touching my hair now.

We made in those days
tiny identical rooms inside our bodies
which the men who uncover our graves
will find in a thousand years
shining and whole.

Sent by Janet Marie | 9:24 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Love to you and Laurie enjoy your day.

Sent by Aurella | 10:00 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Hi Leroy, I adopted a five year old spaniel mix a week ago. My husband named her Annie and we have fallen in love with this little orphan dog. She loves kids and cats, but really hates other dogs. Any ideas why she'd spurn her own kind? I'm puzzled by this.

Sent by Carol Egan | 10:30 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Opps...too late. I did that yesterday. Yesterday I went golfing. Tried out my new R7 driver (love it) and a new hybrid 4 with a 25 degree loft (love it more). Shot a 90. Parred 8 holes!
Today, my dad received a pacemaker. He's 81. He is doing great!

Leroy....what did you do? Tell us tomorrow would you? Make it 2 days in a row without speaking of the Beast!

Affectionately,

Sent by Michael (Caregiver Survivor) Chicago | 10:58 PM ET | 07-22-2008

Daylilies and blooming things. Today, there were 12 blossoms on the double-ruffle lilies, 2 on the burgundy lilies, and one on the bicolor lilies. Counting blossoms (and blessings) forces me to really stop and look at them.

And the first tomatoes are beginning to look great.

Sent by Laura | 11:21 PM ET | 07-22-2008

When topics of conversation got too heated or strained, my mother-in-law used to say to everyone: Let's talk about ice cream! It was a perfect cue for folks to relax and think about lovely things that all can enjoy and appreciate -SO, let's talk about ice cream, for a change! (May I say that I love most all kinds, but homemade in the summer, of fresh strawberries and peaches beats all!) CaroleD

Sent by CDuckett | 11:34 PM ET | 07-22-2008

I'm back in this conversation late again. Bless you all. Hope you had a wonderful day that lasts well into the evening.

Sent by Paulette | 12:36 AM ET | 07-23-2008

Have a great hair day Leroy!

Sent by Vivian in Delaware | 9:37 AM ET | 07-23-2008

They say the best revenge is to live well. Here's to living as if we've never heard of pain, disease, chemo or surgery...

Sent by Cancer PT | 7:53 PM ET | 07-23-2008

WHHHHHHHHHHHHOOOOOOO WHOOOO!!!!!!!!!
I bought a motorcycle....I will be 50 in a couple of months and damn it I BOUGHT A MOTORCYCLE!!!! heheheheheh
**** JOY, its a beautiful thing!
everyone at work is freakin out! They ask What if you get hurt? HAHAHAHAH
2 time cancer survivor... what if I get hurt.....ha..thats cute huh?
SMILE !
I can't wait to get bugs in my teeth.
Liz Z

Sent by liz Zimmerman | 9:56 PM ET | 07-23-2008