We're doing a show today on online dating; what's out there, where to post, how to post, and the horror and romance (sometimes intertwined...ah, love) of the whole thing. I had thought I would write a goofy personal ad for this post, until I realized that literally everything online is a personal ad — or personal PR — nowadays. This blog for instance, has my bio, my picture, my thoughts, a few of my likes and dislikes. Most people my age, and almost everybody younger, has a Facebook or MySpace page, which contains much of the information you'd fill out on Match.com or Salon personals. I realize this is old news; but it really emphasizes the characteristics of the World Wide Web as huge social experiment — like that bar in Star Wars with all of the different species and characters doing business and interacting with each other. It's why that added layer of Second Life — everybody, their mother, and their avatar — is so intriguing. It's like putting a fur coat around your already shaped internet-self (the best photographed, funniest, feistiest version of your First Life self). I was out with my best friend in New York a while ago, and a friend of hers asked me what I did for a living. I told him I worked for NPR, and he said, "National Public Relations?!?" Makes me giggle. If you're on the web in any capacity... you work in PR, too.
Any suggestions for me...
I have now been married and divorced 4 times (the 4th as a result of onlin dating). How much detail should I go into?
I have two boy, 6 and 8 years old. Clearly, the boys are the most important part of my life.
As a 21 year old college student I am often found browsing around facebook and looking at profiles of other students. Last year, two of my coworkers and I (we are resident advisers in the dorms) decided to do a program called "Be Careful What you Facebook". This included a fake profile that we made with our friend "Joe Drinksalot". We wanted our students to realize that anyone (especially potential employers) could manage to see their profiles and that they should be cautious what they are posting and that maybe you should keep those pictures of last week's kegger to yourself.
As a followup to the online dating series today, an important component of relationship matching can involve looking at Jungian/Myers-Briggs personality types. It can provide a lot of foresight into potential strengths & weaknesses in relationships. For those who don't know their personality type, there are a myriad if sites offering personality type assessment & profiles. At www.insightgame.org, users can play a card game to determine their personality type for free. The game is quick, non-threatening and as accurate as the original Myers-Briggs test. Good luck in your online dating search.


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