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I'm really a literary omnivore. I adore Dickens, Tolstoy, Hemingway, but there's an awful lot of Daphne Du Maurier, Philippa Gregory, and yes, at one time, Dan Brown (!) on my night table as well. That said, I really do not think I could love a man who didn't share certain of my literary tastes — for instance, the phrase "Saw the movie..." when talking about, say Ian McEwan's masterpiece Atonement would be the literary equivalent of halitosis (i.e., I'm not going to kiss you if you haven't read the book. I still may not kiss you if you didn't love it.) Rachel Donadio captured this perfectly in her much read — and railed about — piece in the Sunday New York Times, "It's Not You, It's Your Books." So today, lend us your snobbiest stories — the moment when a paramour mispronounced J.M. Coetzee (it's cut-ZEE-uh — Duh), or confessed an aversion to Nabokov (that's na-BOK-off). Or — have you happily made a home with someone who loves their Tom Clancy (I am a Clancyphile, so there)?

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I think the only thing that has ever really turned me off is when someone says, "Oh, I just don't like reading." That just about makes me flip out and start ranting. From there, the relationship is going nowhere - fast!

Sent by Shannon | 2:16 PM | 3-31-2008

Wow. How petty. I married someone who likes Ian Fleming, I never could get into the Bond books. We've been together for 18 years. My advise, get over it. You'll have a more diverse set of friends if you do.

Sent by ecotopian | 2:34 PM | 3-31-2008

On an otherwise promising first date, the guy in question mentioned a fondness for "The Bridges of Madison County." I was mortified. I'd listened to the book on tape during a long car drive and literally laughed out loud at some of the more overwritten passages. I had to force myself to finish it, even in a car!

My gut said it was a deal breaker, but I was also getting to a point in my life where I was beginning to suspect that I was too picky. I decided to overlook it and, now, 15 years later, the Bridges fan and I are happily married with two charming young children. I eventually got to know the story behind his fondness for the book -- as you might imagine it involves an overwrought love story from Iowa -- and thus find it forgivable. Books are highly personal -- yes. That's the reason we should be able to recognize that every book might have a quality that would appeal to someone. Their fondness for a piece of, ahem, drivel might -- when looked at in the right way -- speak well of them!

Sent by Beverly of Louisville | 2:40 PM | 3-31-2008

If he had a book written by Ann Coulter proudly sitting on his coffee table I think I would have to make a fast exit. Of course if it was from the library and he was just checking it out, that would be fine. Just not a purchase for her coffers, please!

Sent by Chris | 2:43 PM | 3-31-2008

Tom Friedman books

Sent by Steve | 2:43 PM | 3-31-2008

I would be more concerned about someone who never reads. I believe adults are free to choose their own reading material. I read some things my wife has no interest in reading. My wife, who is a bookseller, has this same philosophy. I from time to time read things that I don't agree with at all politically for the sake of trying to understand the other point of view.

Sent by Adam | 2:46 PM | 3-31-2008

Easy. A bible or a koran on the bedstand or anywhere for that matter, is definitely a deal breaker.

Sent by Jon | 2:47 PM | 3-31-2008

I can't say that I've ever broken up with anyone based solely on their reading list, but I have chosen to flirt with guys based on the book in their hand. Tom Clancy ... not likely. William Gibson or Neal Stephenson .... definitely.

Sent by Lisa | 2:47 PM | 3-31-2008

Love "The Lord of the Flies." Gets scarier and more plausible the older I get.

...really just happy if they read at all.

Sent by Rhonda | 2:48 PM | 3-31-2008

For dating, I'm out of there if there's anything by Rush Limbaugh on the shelf!

Sent by Kelly | 2:48 PM | 3-31-2008

I have literally walked out of a date in the middle of it when I discovered that he was an avid reader of Dungeons and Dragons books.

Sent by Lisa | 2:49 PM | 3-31-2008

As a English and German liturature major I have this issue more when choosing my friends then with my spouse. If I see any Nora Roberts on the bookshelf I turn the other way and run.

Sent by Tina | 2:51 PM | 3-31-2008

Specific books are not the issue, understanding is. Using "sci-fi" to label all science fiction indicates a dismissiveness and lack of awareness.

Sent by David-Michael Allen | 2:51 PM | 3-31-2008

I think my special someone could read anything but Danielle Steele. I also would have to rethink our relationship if he made derogatory comments about my deep love of Jane Austin.

Sent by Bekki Fahrer | 2:51 PM | 3-31-2008

I had always thought that this was an important issue, until I met my husband. He is European so first and foremost there is a language/cultural issue. He is an avid reader but tastes run toward history, biographies and technical reading and not the Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Tom Robbins or William Gibson of my youth.

Sent by Misha | 2:51 PM | 3-31-2008

I am from Fargo North Dakota and am happily married, but I would absolutely be thrilled if my husband would read ANYTHING. He scans through computer magazines and occasionally something on the stars and planets, but we have difficulty discussing a lot of topics that I find interesting. I do have to say though, he listens quite intently when I tell him about a book I have read, but he's not interested enough to pick it up for himself.

Sent by Pammela | 2:52 PM | 3-31-2008

When my wife and I first met, one of the topics with which we first broke the ice was our love of Steinbeck's "Cannery Row", as well as our mutual surprise that both of us considered it one of our favorite books. Who knows if we would have given each other a second thought if not for our literary connection.

Sent by David Fieldsend | 2:53 PM | 3-31-2008

I have become my husband's fiction advisor! He reads mostly pretty heavy non-fiction, but when we're going on vacation, I insist he brings a work of fiction. Some of his recent favorites have been Kite Runner, The Dante Club, and Acts of Faith. It's added a nice dimension to our relationship!

Sent by Amy | 2:54 PM | 3-31-2008

My wife is a huge Stephen King fan. I'm more of the literary, art-house movie type. In my opinion, if anything, it makes her that much more interesting to me.

Sent by Sayeed | 2:54 PM | 3-31-2008

I saw a book called Sexual Addiction on my first-dates bookshelf. It sort of changed things.

Sent by Jenny | 2:54 PM | 3-31-2008

When I was single, I always had a copy of Grapefruit by Yoko Ono at my bedside. I think Yoko has a visceral reaction to most people and it was a good barometer of people if they may (eventually) understand me or not . . .

Sent by Craig M. Corpora | 2:55 PM | 3-31-2008

The last caller just mentioned "Snow Crash". Blew my socks off. One of the best sci-fi books of all time. And big points to Neal Conan to making a joke that only someone who has read the book could have made. Outstanding

Sent by Luke T. | 2:56 PM | 3-31-2008

It doesn't matter what we read, but when we read together there is a comfortable silence.Together 27 years and counting!

Sent by Rudy Martinez | 2:57 PM | 3-31-2008

I would be in big trouble if someone judged me purely on the books in my house. I read a great deal but donate all books that I buy, or given, to a K-12 school on the Navajo Reservation--St. Michaels Indian School. My four daughters have all developed this habit also. It seems kind of selfish of me to keep all the books when I can share them with a group of students/families that don't have access to libraries that I have. I do read a great deal and can "talk" books, so don't judge me by my lack of home books.

Sent by Dr. Judy Reese | 2:57 PM | 3-31-2008

I had to respond to Rachel's comment about the Old Man and the Sea. When my husband and I were dating, he insisted I had to read it when he found out I loved Hemingway but had never read his Nobel prize-winner. On a series of dates together after that, we took turns reading it aloud to each other, followed by conversations that cemented our relationship. I still love the book to this day--12 years later.

Sent by Dana, Portland, OR | 2:57 PM | 3-31-2008

Does anyone remember that horrible book called 'the Rules'... I used to date someone who hid her copy of that book (rightly so...).

The book alone did not end that doomed relationship, but when I look back on it , I dated the author, not her.

anything that smacks of that disgusting pulp is a for sure deal breaker.

Sent by bd | 2:57 PM | 3-31-2008

I think it's silly to reduce someone to what they read. I read everynight before I go to bed. Stephen King is my favorite author, but I read all genre's and many authors.

Sent by Tiffanie Rudow | 2:57 PM | 3-31-2008

The first time I was at my then future husband's apartment (almost 19 years ago) I saw the books on his shelf and that was the "deal maker." I have told many people many times that when I saw his books, that was it, I was smiiten. I remember a couple of the books now, particularly e.l. Doctorow and even better, poetry by William Carlos Williams.

Sent by Diane | 2:58 PM | 3-31-2008

I always look in Doctors offices. If they have more books on managing money than medical books, I leave. My wife and I are 12 years apart and it is the differences in our media preferences that give us something to talk about. In america culture is TV, we have more common memories of sitting in front of the TV watching Dr. Seuss. My wife has read all of my sci fi books, and has copious comments about any flaws in logic. I've stayed away from most of hers.

Sent by Chris R | 2:58 PM | 3-31-2008

I say, not so much a deal breaker/closer, but one that solidified a friendship, was Daniel Quinn's Ishmael. This spoke to our common understanding of mankind's relationship with all other living beings, and our use of the Earth. It also acted as a wakeup call. I found myself feeling a bit negative and reactive to every other conventional attitude out there, but yet, it was still a powerful changing book, that encourages me to get over my fears of a civilization rendered more primitive, where humans exist within the natural cycle of the earth's biological system.

Sent by Jason | 2:58 PM | 3-31-2008

I met my husband as a stranger at the boston public library. Concerned we would have nothing to talk about, we decided to read the tempest for the first date. Just meeting someone willing to start a date with a book made it a good start. 18 years later, seems like it was a good idea.

Sent by jen goldsmith | 2:58 PM | 3-31-2008

When I was dating, I didn't care what a guy had read, but I did care (a) that he read, and (b) that he was open to reading books that I recommended to him.

This is moot, mind you, since I'm very happily married. My husband is one of the best-read people I've ever met, and that is definitely part of his appeal. He reads everything: Proust, Milton, Joyce, superhero comics, science fiction, history, cookbooks -- and has interesting things to say about all of them. He regrets that his Russian isn't good enough for him to read Tolstoy and Chekhov in the original.

Sent by janet | 2:59 PM | 3-31-2008

My husband and I found out on our first date that we just happened to be reading the same book. It was John Irving's "Son of A Circus." We've been married nine years now and re-read "A Prayer for Owen Meany" just about every other year but neither of us has finished "Son of A Circus." It's not only the books that you love that you should have in common, but it also is nice to find someone who doesn't like the books you don't like!

Sent by Karessa Weir | 2:59 PM | 3-31-2008

When I suspected that my now-husband was thinking about proposing, I suggested that Dorothy Sayer's mystery novel "Strong Poison" contained my model of the ideal marriage. After he read it, he was still brave enough to pop the question. Happily ever after...

Sent by Anna Jacobson | 3:01 PM | 3-31-2008

It doesn't hold any special place in my life, but I'm very surprised not to hear anyone mention the Bible in that broadcast!

Sent by Lucy | 3:01 PM | 3-31-2008

I loved Johnny Tremain! However, have never found another. My husband is French, so he can have the trashiest books, they all look pretty class with their plain paper bindings.

Sent by caroline | 3:03 PM | 3-31-2008

I can't believe you are all such literary snobs. I think reading is like food, we eat gourmet food, comfort food, regular staple food, and yes sometimes a bit of junk. The same with reading. Just as you can't write your mate off because he picks filet mignon as his gourmet food and you love a bowl of fresh spring greens, how can you do the same with someone else's taste in books and literature.

Sent by Jenny from Alamo CA | 3:03 PM | 3-31-2008

The quality of conversation trumps any reading list. What would trouble me more is someone (hope you're reading this Rachel) constantly responding to my comments with "exactly." God do I hate the abuse of that word.

Sent by Steve Follansbee | 3:05 PM | 3-31-2008

The caller who though perhaps his girlfriend was incorrectly remembering the lead character of "My Side of the Mountain", may have been referring to the book "The Island Keeper" by Harry Mazer. It is a similar story of a young girl who runs away to an island and becomes stranded. It was one of my favorite books growing up.

Sent by Patricia | 3:06 PM | 3-31-2008

I mailed a copy of the Razor's Edge by (Somerset Maugham ,to the person I'm with now. He liked it and even called me up with questions about it. I had ended two previous relationships because they didn't like it or see an importance in it. Too bad for them. I give it to friends I really like, if they don't like the book, my opinion of them changes. They just have no depth.

Sent by margaret lazarus, grand island, ny | 3:06 PM | 3-31-2008

Having read the Da Vinci Code isn't necessarily a deal breaker. I read it to find out what the hype was all about. My deal breaker is when someone genuinely LIKED the Da Vinci Code and avidly sought out everything else Dan Brown wrote.

We all have junk food reading that we pick up before a day at the beach or a long flight, but if that is the only kind of book someone reads or likes, there's little hope. A modicum of intellectual curiosity goes a long way, though it can be expressed in lots of ways. I had a lover who as dyslexic so reading wasn't her thing, but listening to her talk about art.... Who was it who said that the brain the largest sex organ?

Sent by SR | 3:07 PM | 3-31-2008

When I was growing up we played the card game "Authors" which introduces you to the great authors. I have always loved to read. Now at 42, and my husband is 46 we have children that regularly take out 30 books at a time from the library. My husband was a nuclear engineer in the Navy and then went to Georgetown for law school and was never introduced to some of the great books. He has told me that that is one of the things he really admires about me, and takes my recommendations. As you can imagine, it is hard to convince a lawyer of anything! Also as a side note, when I was in college I dated a guy and we would lay around for hours and all weekend and read. He gave me a lot of books inscribed with very lovely words. I always keep my books, and recently finally completed a book he had given me 19 years ago, and I loved it. Prior to this, it did not appeal to me.
My husband and I do not watch or allow our children to watch t.v. instead there are always books around for them in every room accessible to them. I change the books they can view in their room on little plate holders that has the books facing them and they see different books about every other week. I know they don't realize that I am doing it, but I know the power of just seeing something in one's line of vision. Reading in one of my great joys in life. The best reading light when all others are asleep? A flashlight lying on your chest facing the book. It is the cheapest and it lasts far longer than the advertised book lights. I have tried them all!

Sent by suzanne ryan | 3:07 PM | 3-31-2008

I remember when I persuaded my husband to read The Handmaid's Tale.. Its not so much what they like as it is their willingness to be openminded.
My latest book I am trying to get him to read is Getting Off: Pornography and the end of masculinity.

Sent by yazikus | 3:09 PM | 3-31-2008

When unpacking and shelving my husband's book collection, I found that, between us, we had three volumes of the complete works of the Brothers Grimm. Our combined collection includes many other duplicates, including Stranger in a Stranger by Robert Heinlein, A Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez, and Carlos Castenada's teaching of Don Juan, as well as various Baptist hymnals. Albums were even more of a hoot to compare -- Jimi Hendrix, Van Morrison, Pink Floyd, Buddy Guy, Neil Young, the Moody Blues ....

Sent by Patti Solari | 3:13 PM | 3-31-2008

I'm a liberal who read Ayn Rand. I would reject anyone who wouldn't read (or listen to)the viewpoint of the other side, left or right. One can't claim to be very thoughtful if one doesn't.

Sent by Chet of Pt. Reyes Station, CA | 3:14 PM | 3-31-2008

Having sampled nearly everything in the literary smorgasbord, the only thing I can't abide is someone who refuses to partake -- even when he or she is clearly emaciated. Sure, I'd love to mate with (or even simply meet) someone whose literary passion is as broad and deep as mine, but I'd settle for someone who reads anything other than papers and mags on a regular basis. Speaking of ... do any of you know of an online dating site oriented to literature?

Sent by Laura | 3:17 PM | 3-31-2008

And technically (since we are all being called literary snobs regardless) isn't Snow Crash classed as Cyber-punk?

Sent by yazikus | 3:19 PM | 3-31-2008

As long as the person reads some books, that would be the most important thing to me. However, I wouldn't be thrilled to see Rush Limbaugh or Dr. Laura's books, nor anything like "The Purpose-Driven Life." If the person happened to love "Water for Elephants" and "The Good, Good Pig," that would be a big plus.

Sent by Mary | 3:28 PM | 3-31-2008

My husband, back when we were dating, brought me a grapefruit one day, like Goethe's character in 'The Sorrow's of Young Werther.' I completely fell for this man who went to Hollywood blockbusters every week, AND knew to reference Goethe. Much later, now married, we were a party where people were describing the "it" moment when they fell in love. I was telling the story of Werther, the grapefruit and my husband. Later, he told me that he didn't know what I was talking about, that he had merely given me the grapefruit because it was a nice grapefruit. I laughed so hard! So far, we've been married 22 years. I guess it worked out, even without the Goethe in common.

Sent by Margaret Inoue | 3:33 PM | 3-31-2008

My husband of almost 29 years is a scientist who prefers reading non-fiction, whether scientific or historical or whatever. I am a computer programmer who has always loved reading all kinds of fiction. For the most part we do not spend money buying books but check them out of the public library. Between my husband and NPR, I have been exposed to lots of fascinating non-fiction, including Zero by Charles Seife, E=mc2 by David Boudanis and just about everything written by David McCullogh. And he has been exposed to Anne Perry, Kate Sedley and Jane Austen. When our children had reading assignments in middle school and high school, both of us would read the books so we could all have book discussions together. We both feel that the schools do our young people a disservice by not including non-fiction on their reading lists.

Sent by Sharon | 4:21 PM | 3-31-2008

If a woman has "Ishmael" by Daniel Quinn on her shelf,her stock just jumped exponentially in my book.

Sent by Gibran | 4:47 PM | 3-31-2008

I was listening to your show as I was driving to teach my college class, Introduction to Literature. You made my class just perfect. We are reading Italo Calvino's If on a winter's night the traveler... The story is based on the sensual attraction between two readers prompted by their mutual interest in the same books. We just hit the chapter where the two readers land in bed, and I was thinking of how to best address the connection between the intellectual and the carnal desires and attraction. I played the last 5 minutes of your talk to the students to start class discussion. We had a few chuckles and a very spirited discussion ringing many of the tones of your own listeners. Thank you for the timely and very uncanny demonstration material.

Sent by Gabriella | 10:11 PM | 3-31-2008

The Celestine Prophecy. Get me outta there and fast.

Sent by Jessica | 12:56 AM | 4-1-2008

Dilbert. Romance novels. The Rules. Ayn Rand. Anarchist Cookbook. Books for fans of TV series (Everything Brady! Cheers! M*A*S*H!), Joy of Sex (eww, drawings of aroused hippies) Marijuana Grower's Guide, Dianetics, anything Mars / Venus, Tim LaHaye, Ann Rule.

Dealbreakers, all, but not so awful as the man who does not read but uses books as decor. Gah! His decorator bought his books!

Sent by Tracey | 1:50 AM | 4-1-2008

This is all so profoundly superficial and undemocratic . . .It's generally thought that to "know thyself, [is to] know thine enemy". So if you're a liberal you SHOULD read Rush Limbaugh and Newt Gingrich (and they say WE have strange names!) and if you're an atheist, your arguments might be even more infomred if you did read ALL the bibles, Korans, Torahs, and other religious doctrines. Reading, like writing, is a mostly solitary, often informative and sometimes surprising activity . . . one that you can share later in conversation if you choose to . . but too few of us have an appreciative ear and an open mind . . .

C'mon America . . let's talk about the REALLY important things . . . forget about the war, the election, climate change, the economy, trade and healthcare. Let's have meaningful conversations about dating deal-breakers involving leisure activities! I have my own deal-breakers, of course . . . they involve things people typically do or attend together, things around MUSIC, FOOD, TRAVEL, OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, PERFORMING ARTS, GOING DANCING, CHILDREN, PETS and . . . OMG - SEX!!! to name a few! I don't think I could possibly date anyone whose favorite music included Yanni, Sarah Brightman and a slew of pop collections from a myriad of mediocre has-beens; nor could I have a fulfilling relationship with someone who ONLY eats meat and potatoes, is a strict vegan or who drinks excessively (been there, done that), or smokes . . . anything. And . . . as a recently divorced and willfully child-free (NOT "child-less, poor thing") person "of a certain age", I'm certainly not interested in taking on anyone else's surly brats (been there, done that too). And while I love to travel . . . . I don't think I'll be hanging out with any "desert rats" or "mountain climbers" anytime soon. I'll be heading for the tropics and a beach for fishing and scuba diving on my next vacation or packing an RV for an extended trip to Yosemite off season.

Sent by Chanterelle from Chantilly | 7:27 AM | 4-1-2008

Thank you Luke T. for giving me the title "Snow Crash". I was in my car and only picked up Snow. I have been searching for any science fiction with the title Snow... Thanks again!

Sent by Barb R. | 11:10 AM | 4-1-2008

Please do yourself a favor and keep an open mind! Those of you who write someone off because of one 'bad' book the other person likes are being much too judgemental and could be missing out on some great relationships. Props to whoever said it's the quality of the conversation that matters. And the woman who overlooked her dh's love for The Bridges of Madison County. You can have a great relationship with someone who has radically different politcal/world views; it makes for great conversation! My dh loves The Hitchhikers Guide; I think it's idiotic. I love Thich Nhat Hanh; I doubt he could find anything less interesting. But we both enjoy nonfiction and fiction like Jane Smiley, Carl Hiaasen, even Dan Brown (*gasp*) and Janet Evanovich.
p.s. What's so awful abt Kahlil Gibran?

Sent by Lisa | 11:40 AM | 4-1-2008

My husband's taste in fiction is few and my taste a largely historical romance (as long as it seems plausible or semi-fantasy and recognizes it). In our non-fiction section it is a little more varied on his end (some historiography and such) with few overlap in the books which we have. The only book that he had which I also had in my personal library was "Lies my teacher told me," (about mistakes in teaching history or imperfections of the nuances of history). Him having that alone was reason enough for me to like him.

Sent by Christina Cody | 3:13 PM | 4-1-2008

As a avid reader of WWII history, I actually asked a cute German girl if it would be a problem before she ever came over. I guess it matter, she married me anyway.

Sent by James | 3:32 PM | 4-1-2008

Deal Breaker: I once was approached by a woman who invited me to dinner at her place. Prominently in her bookcase were a number of astrology books. A question or two revealed they weren't there as comic relief. It was a very early evening!

Sent by Bill S | 4:53 PM | 4-1-2008

A requirement is a READER (emphasis capital letters). His interest would be eclectic/broad. A house filled with books is a truly a home. Books in a pile by the bed-wow! A house without books or say with Readers Digest books is a definite turn off. Besides books, reading magazines like Scientific American, Smithsonian, National Geographic, Harper's, The New Yorker, US News and World Report, etc. etc. just adds to their appeal. Further, someone who is able to not just read everything but able to realize that because something is in print (e.g. book, internet or a tabloid, etc.)or on a TV show does not mean what they read or saw is necessarily true. Someone who would find a day without reading like a day without food. Someone who would go on vacation and take 5 books with them on a weeks vacation and be afraid they did not bring enough books with them. They would enjoy the theatre, museum's, travel, library's, used book store's (John King Used Book's in Detroit is one of the greatest Used Book stores in America), able to understand that spending hours in a used book store is heaven. Having a Bible would not turn me off, but would expect that they are also reading Thomas Aquinas, St. Augustine, Dante, etc. I think those of us who READ could go on and on. I will quit rambling.

Sent by Kathy Ochs | 9:32 PM | 4-1-2008

I can't say that I have a particular deal breaker per se - I always need the reason WHY someone reads it before I can really judge. Not that someone with a bunch of Ann Coulter wouldn't make me walk out the door, but I'd like to think I wouldn't need those books as the tip off.

Personally, I read primarily romance. Suzanne Brockmann and Jenny Cruise being the best in the business as far as I'm concerned. If a date mocks romance more than once, he's not going to get any benefit from what I've learned in years and years of reading about relationships. And if my primary reading genre bothers him that much? too bad, so sad, don't let the door... I refuse absolutely to apologize, ever again, for reading romance. It's not trash. And most of it is so much better than Dan Brown's sentence fragments and sketchy motivations that it's not even a fair comparison.

Sent by Erika | 11:43 PM | 4-1-2008

I'm going to have to agree with the Ayn Rand as deal breaker. Also, if they think buying Bill O'Reilly books for children is a good idea--I'm outta there!

Sent by Christopher | 10:44 AM | 4-2-2008

okay, no, in general i think differing literary tastes can be enriching - i had no idea that i would love david finch and bill sinkiewicz as much as i love nabokov and maugham until a romantic liaison proved to me that the graphic novel is a legitimate form of art and even a relevant form of literature. so at first blush, i say that the more your literary tastes differ, the more likely it is you will expand each other's experience in an enriching and enjoyable way.

then again, i also love non-fiction, and i must admit that there have been relationships that failed that were probably prefaced by the collection of self-help and informative texts that faced me on the bookshelf as i toured my lovers' living rooms - "Human Sexual Behavior and the Role of Torture"; "How to Convert the One you Love in 30 Days"; "Biological Origins of Hatred"; "Race, Gender, & Superiority"; and (my favorite) "Straight Doesn't Mean Narrow: The Christian Solution". books that show an open mind, a differing opinion or an alternate perspective can be the signs of a lively relationship filled with delightful conversations that will continue well into the future. but some books are like the colors on the back of the caterpillar: "this person is poison; lick them at your own risk."

Sent by The Machine Gun Kitten | 2:12 PM | 4-2-2008