I'm Not Gonna Lie To You...

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...except, I probably am! I'm a shameless exaggerator. Shameless. (In fact, my level of exaggeration is the one thing I don't exaggerate about, so you can trust me on this one point.) For instance, in our meetings I've been known to wave my hands around like I'm landing a plane -- all the while insisting that "the price of manure has skyrocketed and we've absolutely got to cover this s#$t!!!" (For the record -- the price is at a record high, but skyrocketed is a -- wait for it -- exaggeration.) I regularly used to inflate my age -- even when I wasn't in bars -- and now I regularly (sigh) deflate it. I'm 5'8" feet tall.* My cat can read. I failed geometry three times.** I took the trash out -- and I paid that bill in full! (It's a nuance, but I'm pro'ly a bit of a fibber, too, I realize.) Well, a small study in the journal Emotion says that this kind of exaggeration isn't really about deceiving other people -- it's simply a reflection of our hopes and dreams. (I hope and dream my cat will read -- and talk someday!) We're talking to one of the authors of the study, but we really want to to hear from you. So, 'fess up, y'all. What truth have you stretched -- and what have you simply snapped?

*5'3"
**Only twice.

1:56 PM ET | 05- 8-2008 | permalink

 

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I always add a couple extra miles when bragging to my other running friends about how far I ran that day. After all I will eventually run it... right?

Sent by Jamie | 3:11 PM ET | 05-08-2008

I have found that the best way to lie is just to say nothing. I do not exaggerate about myself. I have no reason to. I am very comfortable with myself as I am, with all my faults and foibles. Neither will I speak a lie. However, should my girlfriend ask "Does this dress make me look fat", well, there is a difference between lying and self-preservation.

Sent by Al Hubbard | 3:14 PM ET | 05-08-2008

I exaggerate ever so slightly when people ask how many visitors I get on my web site, CultureSurfer.com (I round the numbers up). Many web masters exaggerate like crazy, especially about how many hits they get. And they don't bother to tell people the number of hits on a site does NOT represent the number of visitors.

Sent by Naomi Silver | 3:18 PM ET | 05-08-2008

I have two comments.

We have a tendency to exaggerate to induce sympathy. A good friend of mine habitually exaggerates the hours she works a day. Also I find when people exaggerate with numbers they have a "favorite" number to use. Mine is 8. So if I go to the store and its crowded, usually I say there were "8 hundred million people" there.

Sent by Alicia Lucero | 3:54 PM ET | 05-08-2008

I think we are always lying to ourselves a little because the one thing we do not know the answer to, which is: what happens after we die. This is something that NO ONE knows. Yet, we live our lives based upon this question which cannot be answered. We must lie in order to survive.. that's what I'll tell myself at least.

Sent by Seth | 4:25 PM ET | 05-08-2008

I always say that I am better than average when asked how good of a driver I am, even though I know that men tend to over estimate how well they drive. But, I really am better than average, so I don't think I am lying, I am just a really good driver. But this make me sound arrogant, which I don't like, so I will go with being a liar, and hope that in the future I become a better than average driver...

Sent by Bill Hosie | 1:56 AM ET | 05-09-2008

I have no use for liars. We all expect a bit of exaggeration (the ol' "I caught a fish thiiiiiiis big"), but I hope the person who's telling this tale went fishing in the first place!

It's interesting how people can justify lying. We never "have to" lie. We choose to lie and should accept the consequences.

Sent by edam | 12:45 PM ET | 05-14-2008

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