I Don't Want To Marry Chris Matthews

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Lately, I've been coming home to Chris Matthews. This disturbs me, as I did not accept a proposal of marriage from Mr. Matthews, nor does he know how to use our grill (not a euphemism), something that is very important to me. Yet, there he is, shouting, interrupting, and grunting, and reassuring me that he will be back after just a short break. The truly disturbing part is that the gentleman from whom I did accept a proposal of marriage, and often uses his grilling genius to great advantage, is there too, gesturing wildly at the screen, and carrying on a complex conversation with Mr. Matthews, and is only vaguely aware that I've entered the room. It is, as you might imagine, difficult to get a word in edgewise between the two of them. And therein lies the special conundrum of this election season: my darling partner — he of the perfectly rare steak and beautifully balanced gin and tonics — has been replaced by a snorting, ranting, poll-spewing, election-obsessed barbarian. I get my fill of politics at work; I have to be begged to talk election outside of this building, so this strange conversion is somewhat upsetting. I can only imagine that relationships across the country have been besieged by this brand of adultery, and that I'm not the only woman to come home to the head, shoulders, and racket of non-stop cable tv election news. Meghan Daum has noticed the phenomenon, and we can all use a little help sometimes. If you are one of the — ahem — junkies, or if you've lost a loved one to that damn CNN election map, I suggest we all get together and have a little chat about appropriate home behavior. And, um, sweetie-pie? I need a refill at the next commercial — and crushed ice, if you please.

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... and the amazing aspect of all of this is how poorly these individuals understand the issue(s). Largely, their understanding is expressed thru a playback of sound bites and news snippits. - And don't overlook their sources for this information which I do not hold in high reguard.
Not that I'm any expert, but I investigate/study the problem (not the issue), ponder my own solution and then listen to all sides. Rarely, by the way, do the "sides" provide anything close to unbias. In fact every view point should be politically unbias. As for example, I am a conservative (not to be confused with a Republican), and I disagree with Barney Frank almost always about the solution. But I respect Mr Frank's argument because often he approaches the issues from an unbias examination of the problem. He and I just differ as to ways of solving the problem.
As for these political news junkies; A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.

Sent by Jack Russell | 2:24 PM | 9-17-2008

Every time I turn on my radio (of course tuned to NPR) I used to expect the word "Iraq" to be said within 30 seconds. I was not disappointed. Now the word is "Palin." Make it stop please, make it stop. An Alaska woman against Palin.

Sent by Laura Wright | 2:44 PM | 9-17-2008

I tried to challenge myself to take a break--just ONE DAY--from internet, radio and cable news about the election. I worked in the garden, watched a rented movie and (gasp) talked to family and friends. And then I heard from friends that McCain was co-opting the Enough Is Enough phrase from Obama and just couldn't resist it anymore. This addiction hasn't brought me any pleasure for some time now and I really just wish it could end--with my strongly preferred ending of course being an Obama win.

Sent by Pam in Oregon | 2:47 PM | 9-17-2008

I'm so addicted that I've given up all my friends who don't have the monkey on their backs. If they won't go along with me in my addiction, I don't want any part of them anymore.

Thank goodness my husband has the same affliction....

Sent by Susan from NH | 2:51 PM | 9-17-2008

You know you are addicted when your husband sits you down at a wedding reception at a table of your own and another lady brings her addicted husband (from another camp) over and sits him down and tells you that you have one half hour to talk each other out. It took two hours, but I think I won.
Also, for my birthday my husband was giving me one-half hour to talk politics and I thought it was just the best present ever. However, turns out he was just kidding.
Thirdly, I'm addicted to you guys, do not take phone calls from my family trying to prank me from 2-3 Weds. :(

Sent by Kathi Rubin | 2:53 PM | 9-17-2008

How do I know I'm a junkie for election news (or for Wall Street and current domestic economic news for that matter)? Well, I can hum all the NPR daily talk show theme songs, and I know who wrote and composed them.

Sent by David Primeau | 2:53 PM | 9-17-2008

I realize I must be addicted in that I'm listening to your show right now! ;-)
(Note: I have turned off other shows I watch regularly because of political overdose, so maybe there's hope for me?)

Sent by Judith Bienvenu | 2:54 PM | 9-17-2008

Last weekend, my parents and I settled in for the second part of the Sarah Palin interview with Charlie Gibson. After it's conclusion, it was replayed - and we sat through it's broadcast a second time - yes that's two hours of Sarah Palin with the same hour long content. She seemed much more clueless the second time which we were celebrating until we realized the three of us were probably the only people out there to watch back to back broadcasts.

Sent by Helen Yane | 2:54 PM | 9-17-2008

Wow, this sounds like me (the one ranting at the media, I mean, not the spouse). I think the reason this election is getting to me, and apparently others, is that it is so very important to the future of our country. The last 8 years have been disastrous, and the stakes are VERY high. And yes, Sarah Palin's nomination escalated both my concern and my addictive behavior. For instance, I've never before taken the step of commenting on your blog!

Sent by Wendy Moluf | 2:54 PM | 9-17-2008

My addiction is like a longing, a desperate ache. I start to feel frantic when I think about the election and the only way to calm it is to obsessively scan the internet for polls, articles, etcetera.

I realized I had a problem when I started point-blank asking google whether or not Barack Obama would win the election, as if it were a crystal ball.

Sent by Ashley, Denver | 2:55 PM | 9-17-2008

My name is Alicia and I am an addict. I read all the latest political exposes, I webstream talk radio all day Monday thru Friday, and 7:00-11:00am Sunday mornings are devoted to my "stories," beginning with C-SPAN's Washington Journal and ending with the McLaughlin Hour. I am still reading HuffPo when I should be on my way to bed. I prep for my haircuts so my hairdresser and I can kvetch about the latest. All these habits went into hyperdrive on the day Palin was announced (and my hair caught on fire).

Sent by Alicia in Locust Grove, VA | 2:55 PM | 9-17-2008

The real reason that so many more people are paying attention now is that we are all scared to death of what the future holds. Change is needed, but the right kind!

Sent by Mark Speier | 2:58 PM | 9-17-2008

I'm a 19 year old political junkie-for as far back as I can remember election season has been magical to me. I work at a Bank now, in addition to going to school, and listen to NPR all day. I'm relieved to hear that there are others as enchanted with the political process. Like one listener I heard today, I welcome the company!

Sent by Lucy | 3:02 PM | 9-17-2008

I wonder if our current obsession with political news is some kind of post-modern proxy for actual involvement. Perhaps many of us who furiously debate our friends, forward specious emails and spam every blog we can find with our opinion are engaged in some attempt at cathartic avoidance. It appears to me that most of us are more interested in debating politicians' civic records than in becoming civicly involved ourselves.

What if Americans were as interested in MAKING political news as we seem to be in consuming it? What kind of America would we have then?

Sent by khalid | 3:06 PM | 9-17-2008

My name is Stephen and I have a problem. I get up in the morning and check the blogs before I head to work. Then I listen to NPR in the car and I wear headphones while I work. I reached a new low last month when I started a blog, www.donttrustpoliticians.com.

Sent by Stephen | 9:06 PM | 9-18-2008

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