BYOR (Bring Your Own Rice...er, and Cash)

Maybe they're throwing rice out of resentment.

Source: naknak79

Dear Friends And Family!

You are cordially invited to the wedding of John and Jane. They plan to celebrate their nuptials with a beautifully catered, well-appointed, no-expense spared event -- and want you to be there to enjoy it with them.
(In lieu of gifts, the happy couple would like their guests to contribute to the cost of this event. Checks can be mailed to 11 Pot Luck Circle, Practicality, CA, 10000.)

Readers, have you, perhaps, sent out or received an invitation such as this? Vulgar, or shrewd? Tacky, or practical? (It's the former, I think. Sorry, just born judgy, I guess.) Ask Amy is back -- Amy Dickinson -- and she has strong opinions on the subject. Prepare yourselves -- and tell us how you feel about it. And please, send us cash too.

Barrie Hardymon

1:11 PM ET | 06-26-2008 | permalink

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Pot-Luck Weddings

This is an expensive moment, people.

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If you sit within fifty feet of my desk -- or this blog -- you know that I'm planning a wedding. Hilariously, this thing is not till 2009, and yet it's sucking up energy like I'm having a kid. Amazing. It's like producing a huge radio show with a thousand etiquette land mines that periodically blow up in your face. You'd think I'd be better at both those things.

All that aside, ToTN's human-whispering behavioral guru Amy Dickinson noted something odd about weddings lately. Maybe it's a result of a less-than-rollicking economy, but she's received a lot of letters lately from -- or about -- folks who are registering for money to pay for the event itself. Sort of like buying your own fish, chicken, or steak for the reception. Have you received this kind of an invitation from anyone during this (interminable) wedding season? If so, how do you feel about it? What's the difference between registering for just plain moolah, and registering for new china?* And listen in tomorrow for Amy's no-holds-barred wedding advice.

*Side note: I am doing neither.

Barrie Hardymon

11:16 AM ET | 06-25-2008 | permalink

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