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A Competition of Suffering?

So I'm back (thanks to Cheryl Corley for sitting in these past two shows from Chicago) and I am watching the TODAY show while I am getting ready to go on the air and Geraldine Ferraro is there telling us about sexism in the campaign. She reiterates her view, previously stated, that Hillary Clinton has been a victim of sexism in a manner that would not be acceptable were it racism directed at Barack Obama. Her evidence among other things is that some young men at a campaign rally (back in New Hampshire - what year was that again?) held up a shirt and yelled at her to iron it. She didn't like Obama brushing off his shoulders either after he was subjected to attacks many of his supporters considered unfair.

Ah, competitive suffering. Let me introduce into the conversation an email I received last week forwarded by my friend and colleague Ruben Navarette, a Barbershop regular. The message was sent to him by a reader of his column, where he talked about the racism directed at Obama. It's a bit long but I think you have to read it all to get the point. Here goes.


It's not racist to NOT want a black president just yet. The black community first has to clean up its own act to be accepted as "responsible" citizens. Yes, there are many who have done that. But most, unfortunately, still cling to an attitude of "entitlement" (come on, it's been a long time since the days of slavery -- get over it!)! Know what I see on the news about the black community? Hate-mongering preachers, black women on welfare spawning baby after baby, black gangs killing each other, black hoodlums stealing purses from elderly women, black superstars horribly abusing animals, drug dealing, murder, jails filled with black individuals.

You'll probably say they haven't had the same "opportunities" as whites. OH, really! My parents immigrated from Europe in the 50s. They arrived with NOTHING except the will to work hard, to abide by the law, and to improve the lives of themselves and their children. They worked two jobs, went to night school to learn English, proudly saluted the American flag, paid their taxes, LOVED assimilating into the American mainstream, and would have been ashamed to accept welfare.

So you really wonder why some whites find it a little "problematic" to vote for a black president?

So there you have it. And don't get confused that these are isolated exchanges. Ruben and I get them every day. But, for now, let's set aside all the ignorance of historical reality - like slavery, Jim Crow, and restrictive covenants that kept black people out of the neighborhoods some immigrants were welcomed into - in other words American Apartheid which was only legally dismantled in the 1960's. Let's set aside all the factual errors and the fantasies about the noble white immigrants which are too numerous to rebut in the short time you'll be likely to spend on this post (but just a few include: the idea that somehow previous generations of white immigrants refused welfare - what does that mean exactly? Welfare as we know it is a very recent phenomenon but there were plenty of mutual aid societies and the church and benevolent associations and believe you me, people did take advantage when they had to because they weren't going to let their kids starve or die if they could help it, though many immigrant kids DID starve and die, the mortality rates in some of these immigrant neighborhoods at the turn of the century was horrendous). No, let's move on to the fact that this letter writer presumes to know the facts of the ENTIRE black community, as well as the core assumption that ALL black people have to be accountable for the acts of a few, and that NO black person can be worthy of consideration for leadership in society until all black people straighten up and fly right.

So, no racism here, right?

I am not going to tell you that this one email writer represents a majority opinion in this country. In fact, an equally compelling argument can be made that the 80,000 people who came out to see Barack Obama in Oregon last week represents a far more compelling portrait of the state of our country than this one (or two or seven emails) does.

That leads me to our lead conversation with Benajmin Todd Jealous, the new president of the NAACP. His selection was announced over the weekend. He is 35 years old, a career human rights activist, Rhodes Scholar, a father, a husband, and now the head of one of this country's most venerable civil rights organizations.

So now what?

Some people, even some on our own staff, wondered whether we needed to devote two days to coverage of this leadership change, even at an organization as venerable as the NAACP (My colleague Cheryl Corley talked to the immediate past president Bruce Gordon yesterday as well as political science professor Melissa Harris Lacewell).

My argument is that this is not a conversation about the NAACP but what it means to make racial progress in this country.

Who are we? What do we want? What do we need to do to get there?

The conversation continues ...

 

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Clearly the writer of that e-mail is living in a bubble. That person has, unfortunately, lumped all of the bad press that African-American receive into all African-Americans. How sad for that person.

How sad that an individual can have such a small view of the world. When I look around me, at my workplace, I see African-Americans with advanced degrees, those who own homes, pay taxes, work in the community, own pets, have families, etc.

Yes, those that were described do exists; and I can't say that one group outnumbers the others. I can say, however, that one must not look at the world through such a small opening. That person needs to come back to reality and realize that all shouldn't suffer for those who are doing wrong.

Yes, please continue the conversation...

Sent by ernise | 2:47 PM ET | 05-20-2008

When my family (including myself) talk about NINA (No Irish Need Apply) signs and the nativism surrounding JFK's campaign for president, we don't approach it with a spirit of competitive suffering --personally, if you really need to win that kind of competition, go right ahead. We come to the discussion from the perspective that we all have histories from which we've come from and from where we've been brought, and we, even with different racial and religious upbringings, have the capacity to empathize.

Now, honestly, there are some folks who just don't want to hear it. Because you have a radio show, you get to hear more than your share of these professional victims. You posit what it means to make racial progress. I say that, as people's hearts and minds change, be it White's sense that what we do must be normal and everything else isn't or be it Black's beat down of each other before a White man can even enter the room --at which point all hell can break loose-- we have to recognize that, for each success, there will be folks, both White and Black, who will be stuck on stupid, we can't have their stupidity stick it to the rest of us. Too often, racial progress comes as a response to a flash point (e.g., Jena 6). But a school desegregating without a court order requiring it or a former Klansman walking his daughter down the aisle to marry a Black man may have more of an effect (if not necessarily a headline) on racial progress than how latest police brutality case gets covered.

Sent by Matthew Scallon | 3:22 PM ET | 05-20-2008

Hi TMM,

Thanks for the DiversityInc segment since the feature really resonated with my personal and professional life. I've heard so many of the things the editor and executive talked about that either just makes me laugh or I'm resigned to by now. For example, the question "where are you from?" That is the most common question even before I say a word. Most times, folks are either staring wondering if they should ask me the question or not. Or they just assume -which makes me want to have fun with such folks. My friends have asked me how I deal with the ignorant comments since most of them have heard them firsthand when we are out; I tell them they help me keep my wit.

Also, I think the above scenario might be the reason I rarely (almost never) ask someone where they are from. If I want to get to know the person, I start with a clean slate - knowing him/her as an individual first.

Then the question "when are you going home?" Which home exactly? Visiting family in a few states in the U.S or maybe spread across three continents?

Finally, the folks who think because of my parents, I must know anyone from such continent. Seriously!

Sent by Moji | 4:54 PM ET | 05-20-2008

It's interesting that he starts off his letter saying it's not "racist" blah blah blah.... when the whole content of this e-mailers letter/post and the "Ass-umptions" in it are themselves racist or at the very least prejudiced. However as a Black woman I can't even get angry at this person or ppl like them. It's obvious that this person has little or no contact with Black ppl on a personal level and is using stereotypes (What I refer to as tools of the mentally lazy to explain the world) in a poor attempt to label the majority of black ppl.

A little about me ...I'm a black woman that worked my way through college, grew up in a "working" poor household, never received welfare, even had a relative refuse it when she was eligible to receive it during a rough pregnancy where she couldn't work during most of it. I'm married to a "Black man" that's has an excellent work ethic, has "NEVER" been to jail and is one of the most "straight-laced" ppl I have ever met in my life of any race. Neither one of us have any children out of wed-lock.
My biggest problem with the USA and its treatment of Blacks is in regards to "Jim Crow" which has only been over 40 years or so and not slavery. I'm working hard building a better life for my family as far as reparations, "My husband and I are not holding our breath" Even though his family went through an experience rooted in racism( I won't get into here) almost 50 yrs that I think they should be given damages for. I love my country but I love it enough to want to make it "better". This may be a big surprise to e-mailers like this person but my family, my friends and the majority of Black ppl in my life have the same values, experience and work-ethnic.
FYI... I used to "work" for a welfare agency and I can definitely tell you the vast majority of women on welfare are "White". I also used to "work" for the media (most is corporate owned), sticks the owner(s) agenda and the "NEWS" gets exaggerated and sensationalized for "ratings and to make money. Unfortunately (black women on welfare spawning baby after baby, black gangs killing each other, black hoodlums stealing purses from elderly women, black superstars behaving badly, drug dealing, murder, jails filled with black individuals and the ugliest of stereotypes will get more viewers tuning into the "NEWS" more so than "boring" hard working Blacks like me or my family.

Sent by Lokkin | 11:17 AM ET | 05-21-2008

I too watched Geraldine Ferraro on the Today Show and I was blown away once again by the pettiness of the argument. It doesn't seem like competitive suffering but more a case of sour entitled grapes. This entire election cycle has really made me take so many steps back that I've nearly landed in the ocean. Ferraro's charge of Obama's sexism was so thin on the ground that I felt pained watching Ferraro try and fail to make the case. It is understandable that anyone would feel disappointed that their candidate is losing but to create "isms" to prop up a grudge is childish and truly disappointing. From a long standing male feminist, if there are democratic Clinton women out their who want their reproductive rights and matters of workplace equity decided by a Scalia stacked supreme court stay home or vote for McCain and we all will get the court, not to mention the President that we deserve.

On another topic, the thing that struck me most in your conversation with the NAACP's new president was his emphatic rejection of the notion of being biracial. I am always a bit dismayed when I hear black folk using a racist yardstick like the 1-1/16th drop of blood rule to define them selves. It is one thing to claim Tiger Woods as our own; it is another thing to have the same people angered by Wood' s claiming his Thai heritage as well. There is a great deal of pressure for biracial black people to identify as ONLY black. It concerns me that parts of the black community are lagging behind in the area of identity politics. It strikes me that this is the same problem facing the NAACP. I won't join again until I see some real strides at creating an organization fighting for social justice no matter the hue.

As for the email stupidity. Racism is alive and well and living in the USA. BUT! Who is making history in fund raising and grassroots organization? Who just had 75,000 people turn out for a primary political rally, the biggest in political HISTORY!?

As a country we change slowly but we do finally change. No what the outcome in this election we have witnessed change for the better.

Sent by raul | 1:50 PM ET | 05-21-2008

Hi TMM,

I won't even address the e-mail because I think that way of thinking has gotten way too much press as it is. I will however voice my concern over the blanket dismissal of sexism in this race. I find it interesting among my peers who are mostly black women trying to make it in corporate America how quickly they dismiss Hilary's charge. Sure just like everyone else I am excited over the prospect of seeing Obama make history. But do I have to turn off the very real sexism I face, my girlfriends face, and I know without a doubt Hilary Clinton has faced? Do we have to be disloyal to Obama to acknowledge that sexism has indeed played a part in this race? And that the press has been a bit more lax in calling a spade a spade when sexism was the charge? I think the very point of the charge, the very point that Hilary acknowledging it is such an issue for people shows the sexism she speaks of. Why is it that no matter what Hilary does she is called out for it. She doesn't cry, she cried on purpose, she might as well be a man, she is whining like a girl. When Hilary Clinton is the subject it always seems to me that it's a lose lose situation. And I don't think anyone can be that unlikable, surely being a woman has played a part.

Sent by Cat | 3:37 PM ET | 05-21-2008

I would like to understand why we easily call almost any reason NOT to vote for Obama racism, but we do not suggest that the fact that over 90% of all African-American vote going to Obama has anything to do with racism.

Sent by Liza Anning | 5:02 PM ET | 05-23-2008

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