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Lived Fast, Died Way Too Young

 
“Think about that next time you're chatting on your cell phone with your kid in the car, or wolfing down a Big Mac while trying to execute a left-hand turn.”
 
 

With all the tragedy that gets play in just one news cycle, it's odd which stories in particular jump up and give you a shot to the gut. This one did it for me. Maybe because I found it on a Web site I usually click to distract me from life's daily tragedies.

I'm an auto enthusiast, and I spend way too much time checking out cars at Edmunds Inside Line. The other day they ran a piece called "The Short, Deadly Story of a Kid and his M5."

In brief: An 18-year-old kid had been posting on a site for BMW M5 enthusiasts that he'd been having trouble paddle-shifting his new M5 at speeds over 140 miles an hour.

Eighteen years old. New M5. Speeds over 140 miles an hour.

A few of the responses, as you can imagine, criticized punk kids with hot, new cars. But a good many of the responders gave heartfelt warnings to the young man to slow down, be careful and not to drive recklessly. The young man was fairly polite in his responses, but claimed that, although he drove fast, he was never reckless.

I'm sure you know where this is going.

He raced the BMW off the end of a runway at a private airstrip. The car traveled about 200 feet through the air before it hit a tree at a height of 15 feet. The driver of the car, 18-year-old Josh Ammirato, was killed. What's worse: There were four other people in the car, all between the ages of 18 and 20. All were killed instantly.

The No. 1 killer of teens is car crashes caused by teen drivers. Not guns, not drugs, not suicide.

There was a study done not too long ago by the Allstate Foundation that found that while most parents are actually aware of this fact, "many parents still: delay safe driving conversations with their teens until shortly before licensure, think their teens are immune to the risk of car crashes, allow their teens to drive or ride in dangerous conditions and model unsafe behavior behind the wheel."

Think about that next time you're chatting on your cell phone with your kid in the car, or wolfing down a Big Mac while trying to execute a left-hand turn.

I have.

That's why I watched the news clip of this accident with my young son, who's still got about a dozen years to go before he hits the road. Some might think he's too young to know of such things.

Maybe.

But I don't want to wait until it's too late to find out I didn't start soon enough.

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I almost always find your opinions wrong-headed at the very least, but not this time.

These senseless, needless deaths could have been avoided, at least to some degree. Your kids aren't always going to take your lessons to heart, but if it happens in your family at least it won't be for lack of trying on your part.

Good on you, John.

Sent by Wolf | 6:37 PM ET | 02-14-2008

18 yrs. and high performance cars are a recipe for disaster. Just because you can afford to give your Son or daughter a fast car doesn't mean you should.

Sent by Anita Randall | 4:54 PM ET | 02-15-2008

YES! As with many other family issues, the rallying cry must be TALK, TALK, TALK SOME MORE. Your own example, as you said, is THE most indelible impression you can make. Much as you doubt it, they are watching you, they are paying attention to your behavior, your short fuse or your careful anger management. Those examples you provide, those memories (and you can TALK about it on the road and at home) can withstand peer taunts and fierce temptations. Drive as you wish him/her to drive -- it's the Golden Rule in a new world guise. Again.

Sent by KATHLEEN HALE | 3:26 AM ET | 02-17-2008

I don't care how much money you have - what do you have to be smoking to buy your 18 y/o kid not only a new BMW, but the fastest model they make?

Sent by F. Prieto | 3:33 PM ET | 02-25-2008

I'm sure the parents of the dead driver are grieving but shouldn't they be held somewhat accountable? What if they went to schools and talked to kids about this tragedy. It might help them heal and possibly save a life or lives. Just a thought.

Sent by Roxy | 11:14 PM ET | 03-20-2008

Darwin

Sent by grego | 6:55 AM ET | 04-19-2008

Hi All,

My daughter who had just turned 19 died due to head and internal trauma in a car accident. She was not driving , but the person who was rolled and flipped the car and my daughter Jessica was not wearing her seat belt. She was thrown from the car and the accident happened during a snow storm. The driver survived with just a few scratches , but my daughter laid in the snow for almost an hour before a passerby discovered the accident and called it in. She had such severe head trauma and internal injuries that she was in a coma and would be in a vegestative state . I knew my beautiful child would not have wanted to live that way. 4 days later , I made the gut wrenching decision to take her off of life support. She was my only child and I loved her dearly. You're right- these kids think they are immortal. WEAR THOSE SEAT BELTS. Jessica might be alive today if she had...

Sent by Linda T | 10:00 AM ET | 07-10-2008



   
   
   
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