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Instinctive Parenting

Trusting Ourselves to Raise Good Kids

by Ada Calhoun

Hardcover, 261 pages, Pocket Books, List Price: $23 |


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Trusting Ourselves to Raise Good Kids
Ada Calhoun

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What's the right way to parent? Venture into any playground or online message board and you'll find as many opinions as there are adults present. Every subject — from sleep training to time-outs to pacifiers — has its supporters and detractors, and every viewpoint can be backed up by a truckload of research and statistics. It's enough to reduce a new parent to tears, if the 3 a.m. feedings and endless recitations of Goodnight Moon aren't doing that already. Yet there is a way to end the madness, to calm your fears, and to make those precious early years a source of joy for both of you. Ada Calhoun, a young mother herself, infuses Instinctive Parenting with the smart and candid approach that earned Babble an ASME nomination for General Excellence Onlineand close to two million readers. Her simple yet profound advice: Find what works for you and your family and ditch the anxiety and judgment. Everyone wants to do what's best for his or her child, yet the fact is there is no universal "best." Whether youstart solids at four months or eight, whether you co-sleep or Ferberize, whether Junior's mac'n'cheese is dayglo orange or 100 percent organic matters a lot less than other parenting books — and other parents — might have you believe. What does matter is providing the few absolute essentials (love, food, shelter) while teaching your little one how to be a kind, responsible human being.

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Ada Calhoun, author of Instinctive Parenting, makes the case that children will turn out fine if parents simply trust their gut. But Po Bronson, co-author of NurtureShock, begs to differ — he says instincts may tell parents when something needs to be done, but not how to do it. He maintains experts are still relevant for that. hide caption

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