Still

Notes on a Mid-Faith Crisis

by Lauren F. Winner

Still

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Ordained Episcopal priest Lauren F. Winner writes about the spiritual crisis she experienced when her mother died and her marriage unraveled. Still delivers reflections on how murky and gray the spiritual life can be while offering guidance on how to see the light we do encounter more clearly.

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Jane Smiley's novel Horse Heaven was published in 2000, about three years after I left the Judaism in which I had grown up and was baptized in the Anglican church. Smiley is quite possibly my favorite living American novelist — I read her novella "The Age of Grief" at least once annually — and I snatched up Horse Heaven as soon as it hit the stands. It's a sprawling comic novel about horse racing, a subculture I have little interest in, and it is not my favorite of the Smiley oeuvre: I prefer her quiet, finely grained family stories — Ordinary Love and Good Will, Barn Blind, At Paradise Gate. But one small section of Horse Heaven spoke to me with a force I had mostly felt only when reading liturgy or poetry or epitaphs. Here, Smiley is writing about a horse trainer named Buddy Crawford. He gets born again and he's all fired up and then one night he is praying and he sits down on the bed and he looks "up to the full moon, in whose region he imagines Jesus to be," and then he begins to talk to his Lord and Savior. "Okay. Here's the deal," Buddy Crawford says. "I thought I was saved. That was what was advertised. I would accept you as my personal savior, and there you were. And, you know, I felt it, too. I felt saved and everything ... But I find out all the time that I've got to keep getting saved. Am I saved? Am I not saved? What do I do now? ... Are you talking to me? Are you not talking to me? Am I good? Am I a sinner? Still a sinner?" And then he bursts into tears.

His wife comes into the room, gets undressed, and asks Buddy what has made him cry. "When the Lord came into me," Buddy tells her, "it was such a good feeling, I thought, Well, I can do anything because of this feeling, but then here was all this stuff to do and to think about, and I don't remember the feeling all that well."

It seemed to me that I was reading my own tea leaves when I read those Jane Smiley words. I had not yet had any such experience, any shaking failure of memory, any overpowering uncertainty about whether anything I thought I believed about God was actually true. I was still secure in the grip of certainties, many of them: that Jesus was real, that he was God, that he had come to me in a dream; that God was intimately involved with the particulars of my life; that my days would and should revolve around the institution where people went to meet and get to know and worship this Jesus, that is, the church; that God had saved me; that God was saving me still.

But lying there reading Jane Smiley's fiction on the hand-me-down futon in my small grad-school garret in Manhattan's Morningside Heights — I recall that I was drinking cherry-flavored sparkling water as I read, that the water was room temperature but the bubbles felt cold on my throat — I knew that one day, I would sit by Buddy Crawford's side.

This is a book about what happens when you come to your Buddy Crawford moment, and then what happens after that.

I have never used Crawford's language of the Lord coming into me. If you asked me how I came to Christianity, I would tell you about my childhood — about growing up with a Jewish father and a lapsed Baptist mother who had agreed to raise my sister and me as Jews; about how I loved Judaism, the synagogue, the Jewish meditation group I attended every month. I would tell you about baking challah and singing songs by Debbie Friedman and how I loved each letter of the Hebrew alphabet. And then I would tell you that when I was in college, unexpected things happened: I had this dream about Jesus rescuing me from a kidnapping; and I obsessively read Jan Karon's Mitford novels, whose protagonist is an Episcopal priest and whose many characters are always quoting the Bible, sensing Jesus' nearness, trusting him; and I bought a Book of Common Prayer and started using it to guide my conversations with God; and then finally, I graduated from college and moved to England, and there I was baptized. I would tell you how unexpected this was, how I never expected Christianity — but also how absorbed I became in this new faith, how wholehearted my embrace of it. I was just about the most enthusiastic new Christian you had ever met — in church all the time, reading about church things when I was not at church, wanting nothing more than prayer, Communion, hymns.

The kidnapping dream and the prayer book and the baptism made a path; they were my glory road, and I thought that road would carry me forever. I didn't anticipate that, some years in, it would carry me to a blank wall, and at that wall a series of questions: do I just stand here staring at this wall? Do I go over? Under? Do I turn around and retrace my steps?

The enthusiasms of my conversion have worn off. For whole stretches since the dream, since the baptism, my belief has faltered, my sense of God's closeness has grown strained, my efforts at living in accord with what I take to be the call of the gospel have come undone.

And yet in those same moments of strained belief, of not knowing where or if God is, it has also seemed that the Christian story keeps explaining who and where I am, better than any other story I know. On the days when I think I have a fighting chance at redemption, at change, I understand it to be these words and these rituals and these people who will change me. Some days I am not sure if my faith is riddled with doubt or whether, graciously, my doubt is riddled with faith. And yet I continue to live in a world the way a religious person lives in the world; I keep living in a world that I know to be enchanted, and not left alone. I doubt; I am uncertain; I am restless, prone to wander. And yet glimmers of holy keep interrupting my gaze.

From Still: Note on a Mid-Faith Crisis by Lauren F. Winner. Copyright 2012 by Lauren F. Winner. Excerpted by permission of HarperOne.

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