This slender, upbeat volume should be a gift at every wedding alongside the dreaded toaster oven. No matter how steeped in negativity a relationship has become, author and psychologist Ellen Wachtel offers hope, showing how small adjustments now, lead to big changes over time. Wachtel puts us back in touch with our own common sense, so often lost in the heat or freeze of marriage. "Criticism erodes love," she reminds us. "Talk about difficult subjects when you feel close to your partner, not

—Harriet Lerner