"Those early experiences are very powerful and can be very determinative that you end up developing an image of yourself, and image of what your strengths are, an image of your weaknesses, an image of the ways in which the world is going to limit you." — Andrew Solomon iStock hide caption

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Growing Up

What makes us who we are? How do parents mold children into who they are? In this hour, TED speakers reflect on how our upbringing shapes us.

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"As the boundaries of what we determine as the safety zone grow ever smaller, we cut off our children from valuable opportunities to learn how to interact with the world around them." — Gever Tulley TED hide caption

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Parents Just Don't Understand DJ Jazzy Jeff & the Fresh Prince 1:00

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"We are our story — whether we suppress it, whether that is our nature, or we speak it. Family is a group of people who are building story for each other." — Lemn Sissay Paul Clarke/TED hide caption

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Lemony Snicket's A Series of Unfortunate Events, film score [In Loco Parentis] Thomas Newman 1:00

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"You need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt." — Andrew Solomon James Duncan Davidson/TED hide caption

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Parents Were Little Once, Too Fred Rogers 0:27

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