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Awkward Obits

Awkward Obits

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When Leona Helmsley died last week, it was a moment for some confused mourning. After all, the woman was a powerhouse (read: diva), but was also caught saying some particularly vile things about the progressive tax. One wonders what her eulogy was like; how do you properly eulogize such a difficult woman? I am related to some particularly difficult — yet beloved — women myself*, and they were remembered honestly at their funerals... something I particularly like. In fact, Jewish tradition demands that a eulogy be honest; it should paint an honest portrait of the deceased, and reflect the realities of their life. It got us thinking: what's the best way to eulogize someone whose humanity might have been — shall we say, particularly aggressive — in their life?

*I'm sure you're all shocked.