KIT (Keep in Touch)

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When I first started seeing my boyfriend, I frequently texted him instead of calling. The phone can be nerve-wracking when you're in a new relationship, and a text feels so much less invasive when you're communicating with someone whose schedule and routines you're unfamiliar with. Right? Well, at least that's how I rationalized my preference for the written word. Not so the boyfriend... He asked my why I did it, and (nicely) called texting the "lowest form of communication." Oops. He's not wrong — his "lowest form" — meaning least-committal and least-emotional — was my least-interruptive and least-demanding. Reporter Natalie Y. Moore had an entire relationship over text, and after its demise, she analyzed the role of texting in relationships here and abroad. Moore discovered the Philippines is the most-texting country in the world. They've got informal rules and standards, and she thinks we need them too. What do you think? Are there inappropriate uses of text-messaging? Have you ever sent one to the wrong recipient? And what about the drunk-text: endearing, or annoying?



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Any form of Text is a great way to keep in touch, but also makes it easier for the other person to be lying to you. Maybe the face to face aspect of communication is all that's required to stay honest.

Sent by Jonah Fejedelem | 3:58 PM | 9-25-2007

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