Family Matters: The Money Squeeze

Three families, living in multigenerational households, face difficult financial decisions surrounding elder care, paying for college and retirement.

Meet The
Families

Natasha Shamone-Gilmore

Shamone-Gilmore

Lives change when an ill father moves in

Yolanda Hunter

Hunter-Christian

Caring for grandmother, day and night

Kelley Hawkins

Martin-Hawkins

The stress of elder care and paying for college

Part 1: One Roof, Three Generations, Many Decisions()  

Ida Christian, who suffers from dementia, gets help from her granddaughter, Yolanda Hunter (left), in blowing out the candles on her birthday cake. Yolanda quit her lucrative job to become Ida's full-time caregiver.

April 17, 2012 To cope with the hard times, millions of families have pulled together — stacking two, three, even four generations on top of one another. An NPR series explores the lives of three multigenerational households struggling with issues of money, duty and love.

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Part 2: Preparing For A Future That Includes Aging Parents()  

Natasha Shamone-Gilmore (right) at church with her husband, Curtis Gilmore (center), and her father, Franklin Brunson, 81. Shamone-Gilmore moved her father into her Capitol Heights, Md., home after he developed dementia.

April 24, 2012 Nearly 10 million adult children are caring for aging parents today, according to a study by the MetLife Mature Market Institute. But, while aging is inevitable, planning for the costs associated with dependency in the latter phase of life doesn't come easily to most Americans.

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Part 3: Discovering The True Cost Of At-Home Caregiving()  

Ida Christian, 89, was diagnosed with dementia in 2008. Her condition demands around-the-clock care.

May 1, 2012 Few people want to turn over a loved one to institutional care. No matter how good the nursing home, it may seem cold and impersonal — and very expensive. But making the choice to provide care yourself is fraught with financial risks and personal sacrifices.

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Part 4: Long-Term-Care Insurance: Who Needs It?()  

AnnaBelle Bowers' long-time physician, Walter Watkin, gives her a kiss on the forehead at the end of her visit. When asked how long she had been coming to see him, he said, "Long enough for her file to be 2 inches thick."

May 8, 2012 As the nation's roughly 78 million baby boomers move into old age, the need for long-term care will soar. But when it comes to long-term-care insurance, relatively few sign up. The policies can be expensive and some big insurance companies have stopped offering them.

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Part 5: Caring For Grandparent Matures A Young Man()  

Maryland resident Nicholas McDonald, 24, has briefly abandoned his musical aspirations to enter the workforce and contribute to the family's finances. "I'd like to give my mom $100 every now and then," he says.

May 15, 2012 Nicholas McDonald grew up tempted by drugs and under pressure to hit the streets. Lacking male role models, he says he always saw his mom as "the apple of my eye." She tried to protect him growing up. Now, the 24-year-old is doing his best to return the favor, helping provide for his multigenerational family.

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Part 6: Time To Move Grandma: What To Do With Her Home?()  

Frank stands outside his home in Glen Allen, Va., which he co-owned with his mother, Ida. The family recently sold the home in order to free up money for Ida's care.

May 22, 2012 Depressed home prices make the decision to move an aging relative even more difficult than normal. So what should be done with the house? Try selling in a depressed market? Or rent it until prices perk up? One family weighs a tough choice as it struggles to pay for a grandmother's care.

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Part 7: Family Matters: Pitching In To Take Care Of Grandma()  

Chris Martin, 14, greets his great-grandmother AnnaBelle Bowers, 87, who lives part time with the Martin family in Harrisburg, Pa.

May 29, 2012 Sharing the duties of caring for the family's 87-year-old matriarch has brought the Martin family closer together. Everyone in the multigenerational household, including the teenage kids, lends a hand. But the situation is also forcing the Harrisburg, Pa., family to think about the future in new ways.

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Baby Boom Money Squeeze Is Set To Get Tighter()  

Maryland resident Ida Christian, 89, began showing symptoms of Alzheimer's disease in 2009. Her daughter, Geneva Hunter, and granddaughter, Yolanda, decided to take a hands-on approach to Ida's care. Ida lives with Geneva, and Yolanda quit her job to become Ida's daytime caregiver.

June 5, 2012 As this immense generation keeps aging, most will end up with dementia or other disabilities that require costly care. For individuals, families and taxpayers, this demographic shift will drain dollars and attention, and force extremely difficult decisions about living arrangements, as well as end-of-life care.

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Listening To Parents Key To Financial Responsibility()  

Parents can make a difference in whether their kids become spenders or savers, studies find.

May 29, 2012 Mothers and fathers can make a difference in whether their kids become spenders or savers, studies have found. Young people whose families had included them in conversations about money and budgets were much more likely to make more responsible financial decisions in the future.

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Paying For College: More Tough Decisions ()  

Kelley Hawkins (center) smiles at her daughter Carley (left) as her other daughter, Chelsea (right), looks on, in their family home in Harrisburg, Pa.

May 15, 2012 From your late 40s through early 60s, you're supposed to squirrel away cash to cope with health care costs in your old age. But for millions of Americans, middle age also is the time when children are seeking help with higher-education bills, and elderly parents may be needing assistance with daily care.

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From Our Listeners

One listener, caring for the 92-year-old mother, says it's about family not money, nor politics.

'All About Family': Listeners' Stories On Living In Multigenerational Households

One listener, caring for the 92-year-old mother, says it's about family not money, nor politics.

Listeners talk about about the emotional and financial stress of caring for parents and children.

Our Listeners Tell Of Joys And Trials Of Living In Multigenerational Households

Listeners talk about about the emotional and financial stress of caring for parents and children.

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Series Credits

Family Matters was produced for radio by Nicole Beemsterboer and Jim Wildman, with production help from Leah Scarpelli. Editors were Jessica Smith and Chuck Holmes. Reporting by David Greene.

Online reporting by Marilyn Geewax; content edited by Avie Schneider. Photos by Kainaz Amaria. Graphics by Alyson Hurt. Jess Gitner compiled stories from listeners.