'Expected' Offers Self-Help, Humor For The Unborn

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What to Expect When You're Expected: A Fetus's Guide to the First Three Trimesters
By David Javerbaum
Paperback, 224 pages
Spiegel & Grau
List price: $15
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David Javerbaum writes for The Daily Show.

Most people are familiar with the What to Expect book series, which offers advice on everything from keeping healthy during pregnancy to parenting toddlers. Now, Daily Show writer David Javerbaum has a new book — What to Expect When You're Expected — that offers a slightly different perspective. Billed as "a fetus' guide to the first three trimesters," Expected is a tongue-in-cheek take on life in utero.

The author jokes that the idea for the book came from the "disturbing" experience of watching his two children being born "naked, screaming [and] incoherent."

"As an American, I don't like seeing the next generation of Americans in that kind of condition," he tells Michele Norris. "I was hoping that after reading this book, fetuses would emerge better able to handle some of the challenges of modern 21st century society."

To that end, Expected includes advice on accepting the well-meaning but "stupid" names that parents bestow, as well as strategies for fetuses tired of listening to Mozart.

"Your parents want the best for you, and they want you to be better than themselves," Javerbaum explains to the unborn. "One of your parents' failings is that they never, ever listen to classical music, and so they are going to inflict their guilt about that onto you, so you have to sit there and essentially get an involuntary nine-month subscription to your very own Mozart festival."

Perhaps, says Javerbaum, Frank Sinatra's "I've Got You Under My Skin" or The Clash's "Should I Stay or Should I Go" would be more appropriate fetal listening choices. Or maybe, in the case of conjoined twins, "With or Without You."

Excerpt: 'What To Expect When You're Expected'

What to Expect When You're Expected: A Fetus's Guide to the First Three Trimesters
By David Javerbaum
Paperback, 224 pages
Spiegel & Grau
List price: $15.00
Note: There is language in this excerpt some readers may find offensive.

Chapter One
Conception: When Wanted Life Begins

So you're a zygote. Congratulations! Existence is one of the most exciting things that will ever happen to you.

You are the end result of both four billion years of evolution and three minutes of rubbing. In the cosmic sense, the question of where we come from, along with that of where we go when — spoiler alert! — we die, are the unfathomable conundrums bookending our brief time on earth. But such metaphysical niceties are, perhaps, too abstract for a lay zygote like yourself. So let's focus on the more immediate causes.

"The Talk"

"Where do babies come from? And when will I get to be one?"

We'll begin with your mother. Word is she's so dumb, she hears it's chilly outside and gets a bowl. More to the point, she's also fertile, and last month, she released an ovum, or egg, from its dank cell inside the women's prison known as her ovary. No doubt this ovum expected to end up like most or all its older siblings — as part of a small red spot on the white pants Mom foolishly wore to the company picnic. But a different fate was in store for it, a rendezvous with a milky sausagefest known as semen. This liquid comes from your father, and given his track record, the hundreds of millions of sperm comprising it no doubt also expected a grisly end (see chart, p. 5). But last night, inspired by pornography and/or the faded memory of a high-school girlfriend, your father inserted his erect penis, or "pee-pee," into your mother's vagina, or "cooch." They then engaged in a once filthy act now rendered dispiritingly functional. When the semen wrangling was over, five hundred million microscopic demi-Q-tips were discharged intra-coochally. What followed was a brutal ordeal, with contestants forced to swim the equivalent of hundreds of miles upstream with no map and no compass ... all while literally flagellating themselves. It was exactly like Fear Factor, only it wasn't hosted by Joe Rogan. So at least it was better than Fear Factor.

The carnage left your mother's birth canal looking like a Civil War battlefield, and as with those battlefields, the scene had probably been reenacted many, many times. But this time was different. This time, one sperm managed to overcome the odds and arrive at his destiny-fair Lady Ovum. Their conversation was the stuff of legend.

SPERM: 'Tsup.

EGG: 'Tsup.

[Awkward pause]

SPERM: So, I guess we should, ummm ...

EGG: Yeah.

[SPERM begins penetration.]

SPERM: Does this feel good?

EGG: Does what feel good?

SPERM: Yikes.

The sperm passed through the ovum's outer protective layers — the corona radiata, the zona pellucida, and the moat — until finally reaching its creamy nougat center, where, after one last bumping of uglies, you were created (see Fig. 2).

Disappointed? Perhaps you'd hoped your entree into life would be more "cherubs playing trumpet fanfares" and less "heaping dollops of human ejaculate." This is a common preconception, pre-conception. But in truth, yours was a noble genesis. It turns out nature has a goo fetish. Life itself started with primeval soup.* Ever since, the rule has been: The more complex the species, the ickier its creation. Well, you are earth's highest life-form, and by the time you're born, you'll be covered in so much gunk you'll look like Gollum in chowder!

A final note: There is a very tiny chance your origin involved neither sperm nor egg, but rather the Word of God breathing flesh into the womb of a Blessed Virgin. If this is the case, man, have we been waiting for You!

A Fetal Examination

PARENTAL DIAGNOSIS: ALLAYING YOUR FEARS

Eyes, hair color, personality: Fetalcy is a time of uncertainty when it comes to many subjects. Most of these prompt little more than fun debate. But there's one question no embryo likes to joke about, one few even want to discuss: "Are my parents idiots?"

Until recently, that question could only be answered at birth. But breakthroughs in the field of parental diagnosis mean it's now possible to find out as early as the middle of the first trimester whether your mommy and daddy have any idea what they're doing. Most embryos and fetuses choose not to avail themselves of this option, preferring to cling as long as possible to the faint hope their parents aren't a few bricks shy of a load. But for those in high-risk categories, the benefits of parental diagnosis outweigh the risks. Good candidates include those unborns whose mom or dad

* is over thirty-five and still has a ponytail

* has been exposed, since your conception, to over ten minutes of The Real Housewives of New York City

* is already resented by previous children

* consider themselves well prepared for parenting because "they have two nieces they're so close with"

* has an infant-sized Che Guevara T-shirt all picked out for you

* is a Cubs fan

Types of Tests

There are now dozens of tests used to help determine if your parents are neither all that nor a bag of chips. These include analyses of TV habits, iPod playlists, ball-scratching frequency, even voting records.* Among the best known are the following:

Quad Screening

What is it? In quad screening, a technician draws a sample of your parents' blood and tests it for the presence of four substances: Schlitz, patchouli, Chef Boyardee's Dinosaurs with Mini Meatballs, and horse tranquilizer.

What does it prove? The presence of one of these increases the risk that your parents are incompetent. The presence of all of them indicates that you are the Antichrist.

Vigorous Chronic Sampling (VCS)

What is it? In the presence of a specially trained obstetrician, Mommy and Daddy toke a fat blunt of da chronic, carefully removed from Snoop Dogg's crib.

What does it prove? If a stranger in a lab coat was able to convince them to smoke some of Snoop Dogg's shit, homeys got shit-ass judgment.

Ultrasuede(r) testing

What is it? Parents are given swatches of Ultrasuede(r) — a remarkable space-age microfiber that feels exactly like suede but is stain- and discoloration-resistant — and asked to rub them with dirt, wine, and tomato sauce. They then clean the stains off with simple soap and water.

What does it prove? The remarkable durability of Ultrasuede(r)!

Fabiocentesis

What is it? In a very invasive procedure, a team of child-welfare agents raid your mother's bookshelves looking for novels with Fabio on the cover.

What does it prove? She has too much free time.

Worst-Case Scenario

Parental diagnoses quite frequently reveal that Mommy and Daddy are suffering from severe uncertainty, insecurity, and purposeless gnawing dread. This is a good sign. It shows that they've begun developing the contemporary parenting skills they'll need to replace the love, innate common sense, and three-million-year-old stockpile of genetic wisdom they might otherwise have foolishly relied on. But what if the tests reveal more? What if there is patchouli? What if da chronic does blow their mizz-inds? What if dozens of volumes in Mommy's bookcase are adorned by Fabio's shirtless majesty?

It's an intensely personal decision. While terminating your parents is a constitutionally protected right (at least for now), it is still a harrowing and frankly somewhat self-destructive proposition. The truth is only .03 percent of parents are absolutely perfect. The remaining 99.97 percent can pretty much be counted on to act like total dumbasses at some or all parts of your life.

So yes, in all likelihood there is indeed something profoundly wrong with your parents. But is it worth doing something drastic about? Probably not. First off, most kids take great pleasure in discovering how ill equipped Mom and Dad truly are. You may even come to grow fond of them as they cutely flail about, acting like they have the slightest clue about how to raise you. More important, they're not alone. As parenting skills have declined over the last few decades, America has responded with parenting experts, childbirth counselors, lactation consultants, couvade mentors, contraction managers, doulas, midwives, hypnobirthers, prenatal uterine masseuses, Ayurvedic newborn karmographers, baby whisperers, baby yellers, baby sign-language teachers, baby yoga, baby Pilates, baby pole dancing, babyproof toilet locks/door stoppers/drawer catches/outlet plugs/corner cushions/crib tents/nonslipheat-sensitive color-changing bath appliques/twenty-four-hour infrared video monitors with wet-diaper cowbell alarms/twenty-gallon jars of Purell, nipple shields, hooter hiders, flexishield areola stimulators, wind-powered breast pumps, at-home sonograms, wiper warmers, wiper warmer cozies, pregnancy books, pregnancy journals, pregnancy nutrition journals, gay pregnancy nutrition journals, "baby bumps," expectant celebrities whose fetuses outweigh them, American Baby, Fit Pregnancy, Parenting, MILF Parenting, other maternity magazines no one actually subscribes to but that make people feel guilty when they see them in pediatric waiting rooms, message boards, chat rooms, fear blogs, scare spam, scientific studies, unscientific studies, alarming anecdotes about friends of friends, news items about sixty-five-year-old Italian women carrying their granddaughters' quints, and thousands of other components making up what President Eisenhower called "the maternity-industrial complex."

So buck up! You won't be battling your parents' craziness alone. You'll have the world's craziness right alongside you.

Throughout Your Fetalcy

Unborn babies have always worried. (Hence, their "fetal position.") What they worry about, however, has changed considerably over the generations. Hundreds of years ago, your forefetuses worried that a slap on Mommy's belly might leave them with a hand-shaped birthmark, or that her penchant for bananas would turn them into gorillas. The march of science proved these fears wrong and treatable, respectively.

Today's fetus has its own array of concerns. It seems every activity your mother engages in raises questions: Should she be shooting heroin? Is crop dusting really a good idea? How much rugby is too much rugby? And when can I get more of that delicious heroin? Calm down. As discussed in the last chapter, you're not alone in your battle for survival against the woman giving you life. A vast army is working to imbue Mommy with the baseline alarmism she needs to ensure you emerge safe and healthy from her hoo-ha in forty weeks.

What You May Be Concerned She's Not Concerned About

Practitioner, Practitioner, Practitioner

"I really think my mother needs professional help."

And she's going to get it! The days of going through pregnancy and labor with little or no medical supervision are over.* Today's gravida has access to a wide variety of professionals armed with the knowledge, equipment, and vague anecdotal evidence to remove any stress you may be feeling and put it squarely where it belongs — in Mommy's brain.

The first decision Mommy must make (and Daddy must obediently acquiesce to) is what type of practitioner is right for her. Most women select an obstetrician for their care. Despite their snobby reputations for having "degrees from medical school" and "years of rigorous training," obstetricians can actually be quite personable and reassuring; the most skilled pepper their conversations with phrases like "heck," "shucks," and "now, don't this vaginal discharge just beat all?" Ten to twelve percent of women choose a family practitioner (FP). FPs are the decathletes of medicine — pretty good at lots of stuff, but not great at anything in particular. They're a good choice for a woman looking for a doctor to not only help her have a healthy baby but cure her sore throat, set her broken wrist, and write her "friendly" prescriptions for Percocet. A third option is a midwife. Midwives are trained to see Mommy as a person rather than a patient and are more willing to take the time to talk with her about her emotional well-being. They are total wastes of money.

From What to Expect When You're Expected by David Javerbaum, G.E.D. Copyright 2009 by David Javerbaum. Used by permission of Spiegel & Grau, a division of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

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