Underminers in the Midst

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He's a passive-aggressive master, he knows every foolish thing you've done, he's the tactful destroyer of your dreams, and he's your friend. We all know one, but who exactly are these people — and can they be stopped? Mike Albo and Viriginia Heffernan's new book analyzes the "underminer."


Mike Albo, co-author, The Underminer; performs comedic monologues, including an Underminer character

Virginia Heffernan, co-author, The Underminer; writes about TV for The New York Times

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The Underminer

The Best Friend Who Casually Destroys Your Life

by Mike Albo and Virginia Heffernan

Hardcover, 164 pages |


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The Best Friend Who Casually Destroys Your Life
Mike Albo and Virginia Heffernan

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