Finding a New Kind of Love, Late in Life

Don Boniface (left) and Ted Kuhar spoke in Burlington, Vt.

Don Boniface (left) and Ted Kuhar conducted their interview in Burlington, Vt. StoryCorps hide caption

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Ten years ago, two men met who would change each other's lives. Don Boniface was single at the time, living with AIDS. Ted Kuhar had only recently told friends and family he was gay, when he was 50.

"I didn't know what this kind of love was," Kuhar says.

Their relationship evolved over time, taking hold after a tentative beginning.

"You were a real challenge for me," Boniface said, "because I knew that you had not been in a romantic relationship, previously."

"I remember so well before you," Kuhar recalls, "I used to say, 'I have so much love in my heart. And I want a person to come along who can have this love in my heart that could burst, there's so much of it.'"

The two had been introduced by a mutual friend, two years after Boniface had lost his partner to AIDS. He had been living with AIDS himself for 11 years, and that only gave Kuhar more to worry about.

"The chances at that time of this going on much longer weren't real great," Kuhar says.

Boniface recalls those days — and one instance when they were sitting in his living room.

"This is when you were still pretty frightened," Boniface recalls. "You looked me right in the eye and said, 'You know, I won't hang around for you if you get sick.'"

"And that hasn't been true at all," Boniface tells Kuhar. "You were there for me, and you would be there for me."

"You're a part of me," Ted says. "Now, and a good time to come."

Produced for 'Morning Edition' by Michael Garofalo. The senior producer for StoryCorps is Sarah Kramer.

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