ROBERT SIEGEL, host: This week, we're hearing how the tough economy is affecting military families. And today, we're going to focus on housing. Unlike many Americans, those in the military often don't get to choose when and where they move.
As NPR's Tamara Keith reports, that means thousands of military families struggling to sell their homes and keep their heads above water.
SARAH BULLARD: Do you want American or cheddar?
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #1: I want...
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #2: Cheddar, please.
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #1: I want American.
TAMARA KEITH: It's lunchtime and Sarah Bullard and her four kids are gathered around the island in the kitchen of their Bristol, Rhode Island home. Her husband, a Navy officer, is out of town.
(SOUNDBITE OF CHILDREN PLAYING)
KEITH: This kitchen is what sold her on the house on a snowy December day.
BULLARD: We walked through and it was a cluttered mess. And we sort of went - looked at each other and walked through into the kitchen and then my husband looked at me and sort of went, uh-oh. And I looked at him and I was like, this is it.
(SOUNDBITE OF LAUGHTER)
BULLARD: It's a beautiful kitchen.
KEITH: Now, Sarah Bullard wishes she had never seen that kitchen. Buying the house turned out to be a huge mistake. Five years ago, it seemed like the right time to buy, after renting for a decade. Thousands of military families did what the rest of the country was doing: They bought a home. It didn't matter that they were moving every few years. Home prices were only going up.
BULLARD: It was seen as an investment. And we had many friends who - in this town in particular - who bought and sold within two years and did so very successfully.
KEITH: My how times have changed. Home values nationwide have fallen more than 30 percent since the height of the market, which means millions of people are underwater on their mortgages - they owe more than their homes are worth. The difference for military families: They can't control when they get orders to move.
Katie Savant is with the National Military Family Association, an advocacy group.
KATIE SAVANT: Especially during this time of year when we are in the peak moving season, military families call us in a panic, talking about how they are not able to sell their homes, they have orders to move, and their house is under water and they just don't know what they're going to do.
KEITH: There aren't solid numbers on exactly how many people have been affected. But for a time, the Department of Defense had a program to help military families having to move in a down housing market. Some 10,000 homeowners applied. So far, it's cost about a billion dollars. The program isn't likely to be renewed, which means for those moving now, there aren't a lot of good choices.
MINDY NICHOLS: I mean, it's to the point that we're about to drown.
KEITH: That's Mindy Nichols. She and her husband are desperately trying to sell the townhouse they bought back in 2005, before he enlisted in the Army.
NICHOLS: We were a young family. We didn't want to live in a two-bedroom apartment, so we ended up buying a fairly humble home.
KEITH: The house is in Pennsylvania. She and her husband and their three daughters live in Fort Campbell, Kentucky. They're actually about to move again. For a couple of years now, they've been paying the mortgage on that empty house. They've just decided to let it go into default, but they're still hoping to sell.
NICHOLS: I don't see us buying a home again anytime soon. You know, we'd just love to just live on post and be tenants...
(SOUNDBITE OF LAUGHTER)
NICHOLS: ...and not have the responsibility of property ownership anymore.
KEITH: For the Nichols family, it's been a no-win situation. And it's the same for other military homeowners facing a move with an underwater mortgage - let the house go into foreclosure, or sell it for a loss. Rent it out, often at a loss, or live apart.
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #1: Jackie, do you want juice in your new cup?
BULLARD: He already had his juice.
(SOUNDBITE OF CHILDREN)
KEITH: That's what the Bullard family has chosen to do. A year ago, Sarah Bullard's husband got orders to work in the Pentagon. That's why the family eats a lot of meals around the island in that nice kitchen without him.
BULLARD: We always said that no matter what, we would keep the family together.
KEITH: But the house meant they couldn't, which Bullard is still trying to explain to her kids.
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #2: Mamma.
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #2: If we sold this house, it's going to cost a lot of money, right?
UNIDENTIFIED CHILD #3: If we sold the house it would cost us a lot of money, yeah.
BULLARD: Wait. It would cost us a lot of money to sell a house?
That's why we're here and daddy is in Washington.
KEITH: Actually, he rents a room in a house in Maryland, and commutes to the Pentagon. And when he can, he flies home on the weekends to see Sarah and their four kids in Rhode Island.
BULLARD: And my three-year-old will tell me, let's just go to the airport and get daddy. He thinks daddy is just at the airport because that's where we go get him from.
KEITH: He'll be flying back and forth for a while longer. His assignment to the Pentagon is scheduled to last another two years.
Tamara Keith, NPR News.