RENEE MONTAGNE, HOST:
After U.N. envoy Kofi Annan sat down with Syria's president today in Damascus, Annan pronounced their talks to be positive, though that country still is a long way from peace. For almost 16 months, a protest movement in Syria has challenged Bashar al Assad's rule. Brutal government attempts to suppress the protest have lead to an increasingly bloody war, thousands of Syrians killed and hundreds of thousands to flee their homes. Behind those numbers are people whose lives have been profoundly changed by the uprising. NPR's Deborah Amos profiles one Syrian family.
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DEBORAH AMOS, BYLINE: When Syrians first started openly protesting inside the country, 29-year-old Karam Nachar was working on his Ph.D. at Princeton.
He joined demonstrations outside U.N. headquarters in New York.
KARAM NACHAR: Sometimes we come here just to vent. A lot of - a lot of the time to just chant in Arabic, not even in English, because you want to feel a sense of camaraderie and community.
AMOS: The Arabic chants matched the ones shouted on Syrian streets.
NACHAR: And they all rhyme actually. It's pretty good. (Speaking Arabic)
AMOS: What is that one?
NACHAR: If you go down to the seventh, like, level of hell, we will still come and get you from there.
This activism was new for Syrians. Many feared Syria's security police would target them even in the U.S., or relatives back home. The Nachar family has long been on the radar of the Syrian government. Karam's father is a well-known dissident, a political prisoner for three years for opposing the regime. Karam grew up in Aleppo, Syria, in an intensely political family.
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AMOS: Opposing President Bashar al Assad is Karam Nachar's obsession. His activist role has been much larger than protests on the street. He raised money to buy medical supplies and communication gear smuggled into Syria. He was up before dawn to connect with activists inside the country. He became an opposition voice in the U.S., calling for international intervention to bring down the regime.
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UNIDENTIFIED WOMAN: And via Democracy Now video stream, we're joined by Karam Nachar...
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UNIDENTIFIED MAN: I want to bring Karam Nachar, a Ph.D. candidate at Princeton University, also an activist...
AMOS: Over coffee in a New York café, Karam explained that he couldn't tell his family about how active he'd become. It was too dangerous to talk on the phone. Then in May 2011, he finally arranged a secure call home and discovered that his 67-year-old father, Samir Nachar, had been taking much bigger risks, demonstrating in the suburbs of Damascus.
NACHAR: And that's when my dad told me, I was in Douma, there were 20,000 people there. It was an unbelievable feeling. He was like - he was - he sounded like a little kid.
AMOS: Late last year, his father took another risk as a founding member of the opposition Syrian National Council. Western and Arab governments hoped the SNC would emerge as a potential government in exile. The Nachar family was forced to abandon their home in Syria for the safety of Turkey in October 2011. Karam was still at Princeton when his mother and sister had to quickly pack and go.
NACHAR: There's not a single day that passes by without me feeling very guilty. I feel extremely guilty for being here.
AMOS: Guilt is not uncommon in a revolt that's claimed so many lives. It's made more intense for Karam by the memory of another young Syrian, Bassel Shehadeh, who left his studies in the U.S. to join the revolt. He was killed in Syria in May.
NACHAR: Bassel was someone who came from the exact same background that I come from. It hit me so hard because he's someone who had to actually sacrifice the exact same things that I have right now, and he was like so brave. And I definitely have survivor guilt. I feel that, ultimately, if - I mean, the people who survive this revolution are not the best people because the best people have already died.
AMOS: Not long after Shehadeh's death, Karam finished his studies at Princeton and flew to Turkey.
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AMOS: This June, in a cramped apartment in Istanbul, the Nachar family was resettled and reunited. A flat screen TV was tuned to a live stream broadcast of a demonstration in Aleppo, as the family shared opinions about the revolt.
NACHAR: Be honest, I don't know of any family that we were close in Aleppo that was as obsessed with politics as we are.
AMOS: In this family, everything is open for debate. Over sweet tea and cookies, Samir Nachar listens as his son and his daughter, Zaina, talk about the growing strength of the armed opposition, while his wife, Nouran, bitterly complains that the SNC, the organization her husband helped to create, has failed to unite.
NOURAN NACHAR: I am more disappointed about the Syrian council, the NCE from Samir.
AMOS: So you're unhappy with?
ZAINA NACHAR: We're all very unhappy.
AMOS: Zaina's critique is tougher than her mom's. She's listened in on SNC meetings that begin as talks and end in fights.
NACHAR: And we get to hear their meetings, but after a while we were like, come on, this is what we left for? Like these small, mediocre maneuvers and the playing games. I lost interest. I was like, OK, whatever.
AMOS: Do you think it matters, to the revolution on the ground, what the SNC does?
NACHAR: (Speaking Arabic)
AMOS: Karam translates for his father, but Karam gives the answer.
NACHAR: I don't think so. It's going to continue, nevertheless. Bad or good, it's going to keep going, you know, and the SNC has become really marginal.
AMOS: It's a widely-held view that Syria's opposition group is still too fractured to take over should the Assad regime collapse. Samir Nachar patiently listens to his family's anger. He acknowledges that the rebels have the momentum now. He blames the international community which failed Syria he says. There was no protection from this ruthless regime, he adds. Desperate Syrians started fighting back, taking arms from any source. The violence is likely to get worse.
SAMIR NACHAR: (Speaking Arabic)
NACHAR: He's very fearful for the country. Things are pretty bad, and they're heading to a place where they're completely out of control.
AMOS: Do you also share that worry that what will be left of Syria when this is over?
NACHAR: Yeah. I mean, absolutely. Absolutely.
AMOS: Father and son agree that the armed rebellion is likely to drag on, and they have another concern, the growing strength of the Islamist militias.
NACHAR: It makes us terrified. But at the same time, the only way to deal with this is to engage even more and try to limit the damage as much as possible.
AMOS: The damage to Syria is the family's biggest concern, and reflects a wider conversation in the Syrian opposition. Is there still hope for a political solution? They all agree that the Assad regime must go, but if violence is the only answer, what is the price? Deborah Amos, NPR News.