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Revisiting Iraq: A Sister On The Edge

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OK. It's been 10 years since the United States invaded Iraq, and this week, we're taking a look back, revisiting voices we first heard during the first years of the war. In 2007, we brought you the story of two sisters who had lost their parents. The older sister wore conservative clothes and recited poetry. The younger sister, who was 13 at the time, appeared on the verge of becoming a prostitute.


RAGHAD: (Through translator) They say, look, she's so beautiful. Or, hi, you piece of candy. They tell me they would give me everything if I would only have sex with them. But I walk away without saying a word.

INSKEEP: NPR's Kelly McEvers and Isra' al Rubei'i went looking for the two sisters again and sent us this report.

KELLY MCEVERS, BYLINE: Like so many stories in Iraq - especially sensitive ones involving shame and sex - this story has to be peeled away in layers, like an onion. It starts with the older sister, Shahad. We recently found Shahad in a dingy, two-room house in east Baghdad. Shahad's crippled grandmother lies on her stomach on the floor, smoking and sometimes moaning in pain. Shahad says as bad as the situation is now, it's better than it was before.

SHAHAD: (Through translator) Before, we only had that room. Then there was this charity league who built us this other room.

MCEVERS: Shahad says her mother abandoned the family years ago. The father went to prison for killing a man about a year after the U.S. invaded Iraq. Shahad says her sister, the one who was about to become a prostitute, whose name is Raghad, has now been set on the right path. The family arranged for her to get married. She's now 18, Shahad says, and she has two children.

SHAHAD: (Through translator) I know she was different. She was overactive, and she still is. But now she focuses more on her life, on her children and on how to take care of her husband.

MCEVERS: The longer we stay, though, and the more questions we ask, we realize Raghad hasn't totally changed. Shahad closes the door and lowers her voice. Raghad still wears too much makeup, she says. Her jeans are still too tight. When she comes to visit, she likes to stand at the window and wave at men.

SHAHAD: (Through translator) She might talk to strangers and go out with them, maybe she would let him touch her hand, kiss her.

MCEVERS: This all might sound benign to us, but in Iraq, it's downright dangerous, especially in a poor, conservative neighborhood where not only will neighbors and relatives shun the girls, but Shiite militias sometimes impose religious law with violence. In other words, this could get you killed. Shahad says even after Raghad got married, she still wanted something more.

(Through translator) She was dreaming of falling in love with someone and, you know, living all this passion and feelings, like a romance, like what she saw on TV.

At first, Shahad says her sister just needs to grow up. But eventually, she admits she doesn't even want her to come to the house anymore. It starts to become clear that Shahad isn't telling us everything. All she'll say is perhaps it's the fact that they're poor that made Raghad this way.

SHAHAD: (Through translator) Maybe our situation did affect Raghad in a way that she lacks attention and she was looking for. As an escape from this bitter reality, she will seek attention outside the house.

MCEVERS: We try to contact Raghad for days. Everyone gives us a different story. Her husband won't let her out. She's busy with the kids. We decide to try to find her on our own. We go with Raghad's brother to the house where she lives with her husband's family.

UNIDENTIFIED WOMAN: They say she's not in. They want to tell you her story. Apparently, she has some story.


MCEVERS: The family tells us Raghad has run away. Her brother, Noor, says she took her two-year-old with her, left the baby behind and went north.

NOOR: (Through translator) I called her yesterday and I talked to her and said come back, but she said, no.

MCEVERS: It's clear the brother wants to say more. In a low voice, he admits Raghad has run off to be with their mother.

NOOR: (Through translator) I'll tell you the story that no one knows. My mother was a prostitute.

MCEVERS: A prostitute who lives in the north. Raghad has gone to join her, he says, to work with her. At this point, Noor says he is out of options to get Raghad back home. We drop Noor off back at his job, running the neighborhood generator. The skinny 21-year-old looks like he has the weight of the world on his shoulders.

Aid organizations that work with women in Iraq say the story of what happened to Raghad is all too common. In a society where religion has filled the gaps for social practices that were shattered by war, women simply have fewer options. They're expected to get married very young. Education is less and less of a priority.

For girls like Raghad, aid workers say choosing prostitution might be the only way they think they can be free. Kelly McEvers, NPR News.

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