New marriage licenses in California no longer use the words bride and groom. Now, they say Party A and Party B.


But who's who? We sent producer Ki-Min Sung to ask some couples how they decide who's A and who's B.

Unidentified Man #1: She would be Party A.

KI-MIN SUNG: Why is that?

Unidentified Man #1: Why is that, Mary?

Ms. MARY (California Resident): I don't know. Because I'm the woman?

Unidentified Man #1: She wears the pants.

Unidentified Woman #1: Whoever was writing would probably put their name first. I have better handwriting, so I'd probably be the one filling out the form. So my name would go first.

Unidentified Man #2: Yes, that's true.

Unidentified Man #3: I would go first, probably.

Unidentified Woman #2: He would go first.

SUNG: Why would you go first?

Unidentified Man #3: Because we're in a habit of doing that after 40 years.

BRAND: A few couples talking about how they decide who gets to be Party A and who gets to be Party B in their relationships.

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