A Man Learns The Truth About His Adoption In 'Everybody's Son'As a boy, Anton was adopted by a loving, prominent couple. He grows up to be a man of distinction. Then he learns that his adopted dad manipulated his biological mom into giving him up.
A mother leaves her 9-year-old son locked in an airless apartment for a week with no food, water or light. He breaks out through a window, and police find him weak and bleeding; they also find his mother passed out in a nearby crack house.
The boy, Anton, winds up in the hearts and arms of David and Delores Coleman, a prominent political couple who raise him with all the advantages their name, wealth and love can offer. Anton grows up to be a man of character and distinction — and then discovers the truth: that his adopted father manipulated his biological mother into giving him up.
That's the plot of Everybody's Son, a new novel by Thrity Umrigar. Umrigar says the book's title reflects the fact that Anton belongs to both his black biological mother and his white adopted family. "They all have competing claims on him and they all perhaps love him and need him for slightly different reasons," she says. "But if I have done my job right, the reader will understand that there is not one of these characters who would not give their life for this boy."
On Anton's biological mother, Juanita
One of the things that it was very important for me to convey in this novel is that despite the fact of her addiction and despite how harsh the bare bones facts of what happens very early ... in the book, Juanita is actually a very good mom. And the paradox of this whole situation is nobody else seems to know that except for her son himself, who is of course her victim. And yet the court system, you know, the police and certainly David Coleman himself all seem to think of her as a very bad mother, which arguably in some ways she is because, all said and done, she does abandon her son for a week.
On where the Colemans are in their lives when they decide to adopt Anton
They have lost their own biological son several years prior to when the novel opens. And as is often true with couples, they each mourn in their own way. I don't think either one of them has really had an extended conversation about whether they should, you know, permanently adopt another child. But clearly David appears to be edging toward that with an express desire to foster a child. And each seems to think that they are giving the other what they want or what they secretly desire, but of course they never quite have that conversation openly and candidly with one another. ... And then what ends up happening, of course, is that David sees the untapped potential in Anton and convinces himself — in that self-delusionary way that human beings often operate — that he only wants to permanently have custody of Anton because it's in the boy's best interest and sort of conveniently ignores the fact that it is also what his heart desires.
On Anton's struggle for identity, which a college girlfriend distills for him
I think she says something to the effect of, "I can't decide if you're the whitest black man I've ever known or the blackest white man I've ever known." You know, because Anton is grappling throughout the novel with this question of, well, who is he? He clearly looks African-American, even though there are many people who sort of mistake him for being Middle Eastern. He's extremely light skinned, but clearly he is not white. And yet he is raised with all the privileges that the Colemans — who are not just this white family but almost this patrician, aristocratic white family — can bestow and confer upon him. So it is a question of who does Anton become at the end of the novel and how does he reconcile the various strains of his life and all the contributions that each one of his parents makes to build him into becoming who he does.
On writing a novel about white American and African-American characters when she herself is from India
I did not spend a lot of time debating whether I had the moral or even the literary authority to write the book. If I thought about it at all it was from the point of view of, I mean, heck, if people can write about UFOs and space aliens, why the heck can't I write a novel about somebody who happens to be from a different race? ... The thing that mattered to me in the writing of this novel is the thing that matters to me in every book that I've ever written, which is: Am I writing a book that is emotionally honest? ...
Having said all that, I mean, clearly when you're writing about a community that is not yours, a culture that is not yours, you know, it comes with great responsibility. And that's a responsibility that I take seriously. So you can bet that I did my research when I wrote this book. You can bet that I was trying not to indulge in stereotypes of any kind. I didn't want to take any shortcuts in the writing of this book.