'What If We Lived In Two Houses?' Talking Kids Through Divorce Even the most amicable split is world-changing for young children. Here are a few key tips for grown-ups trying to help their kids navigate this big transition.
- Give children as much heads-up as you can — as soon as you've made a definite decision to split up.
- It's a grown-up problem. Don't share details that will confuse your child or hurt your partner.
- Don't fear the big feelings or the "pajama truth-bomb."
- It's good for kids to talk about a separation — even when it may be painful for adults to hear.
- Make sure your kids know that not everything will change.
- Keep routines, and toys, consistent, even if they're traveling from one home to another.
- Look back together on the good memories.
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How to talk about divorce with your children.
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Even the most amicable split is world-changing for young children. Here are a few key tips for grown-ups trying to help their kids navigate this big transition.

  • Give children as much heads-up as you can — as soon as you've made a definite decision to split up.
  • It's a grown-up problem. Don't share details that will confuse your child or hurt your partner.
  • Don't fear the big feelings or the "pajama truth-bomb." It's good for kids to talk about a separation — even when it may be painful for adults to hear.
  • Make sure your kids know that not everything will change. Keep routines, and toys, consistent even if they're traveling from one home to another.
  • Look back together on the good memories.

Resources:

We spoke with Jeanette Betancourt, senior vice president for Social Impact at Sesame Workshop. She led the development of a toolkit for parents called Dealing with Divorce.

The American Psychological Association also offers a range of resources for adults struggling with the realities of divorce and separation.