Kindness Can Be Taught. Here's How Most kids value success and achievement more than caring for others, according to Harvard's Making Caring Common project. Who is to blame? We are. We talk to the experts for ideas on how to do better, and why.

Here's what to remember:
- Children are born to be kind — but also unkind.
- Kindness requires courage.
- To build kindness, practice mindfulness.
- Teach real apologies, and frame forgiveness as a gift you give yourself.
- Practice gratitude to "raise the capital" of everyday kindness.
- Kindness is a habit; rituals, chores and service can all help.
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Kindness Can Be Taught. Here's How

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Kindness Can Be Taught. Here's How

Kindness Can Be Taught. Here's How

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Kindness takes courage.
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Most kids value success and achievement more than caring for others, according to Harvard's Making Caring Common project. Who is to blame? We are. We talk to Scarlett Lewis of the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement; Jennifer Kotler Clarke, vice president of content research and evaluation at Sesame Workshop; and Thomas Lickona, author of How To Raise Kind Kids, for some ideas on how to do better, and why.

Here's what to remember:

  • Children are born to be kind — but also unkind.
  • Kindness requires courage.
  • To build kindness, practice mindfulness.
  • Teach real apologies, and frame forgiveness as a gift you give yourself.
  • Practice gratitude to "raise the capital" of everyday kindness.
  • Kindness is a habit; rituals, chores and service can all help.

In this episode, we spoke about the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement, as well as Sesame's Kindness Study and Harvard's Making Caring Common project.

Psychologist Thomas Lickona's book is called How to Raise Kind Kids.