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Splitting Up, But In It Together: Divorce In 2020

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Gwyneth Paltrow famously described her divorce with Coldplay frontman Chris Martin as "conscious uncoupling." How has the way we get divorced changed? Vittorio Zunino Celotto/VITTORIO ZUNINO CELOTTO/GETTY IMAGES hide caption

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Gwyneth Paltrow famously described her divorce with Coldplay frontman Chris Martin as "conscious uncoupling." How has the way we get divorced changed?

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Getting a divorce is never easy.

But it's the 21st century – and mediation without court involvement is on the rise. So is the idea that child custody should be split between both parents, and the idea that divorce, as an institution, isn't just not-so-bad – it's actually pretty normal.

The impact of a divorce is long-term and widespread. It affects not just the central couple – but also their children, their friends, and their extended families.

New research shows millennials in particular are starting to recognize that divorce – and marriage – are both serious business. That's led to a divorce rate, and a marriage rate, that are both on the decline.

We talk about this shift with Jacqueline Newman, managing partner of the divorce law firm Berkman, Bottger, Newman & Schein, LLP; Philip N. Cohen, professor of sociology at the University of Maryland, College Park; and Lyz Lenz, editor and columnist at the Cedar Rapids Gazette.

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