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The cult-favorite advice column is back, this time speaking straight into your ears. The Sugars, Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond, take on all your questions — no matter how deep or dark — and offer radical empathy in return. New episodes are released weekly.More from Dear Sugar Radio »

Most Recent Episodes

Young & Isolated — With Shirley Manson

Feeling like an outsider is one of the hallmarks of adolescence, but in today's episode we hear from two 16-year-olds who have cause to feel especially isolated. One girl is home-schooled and rarely leaves the house. A second girl feels disconnected from her best friend, who has suddenly become popular at school. Both letter writers wonder if they'll ever feel comfortable in their own skin. Shirley Manson, the lead singer of the alternative rock band Garbage, joins the Sugars to discuss her own journey as an outsider. She assures the letter writers that though they may feel like outcasts, they are not alone — most teenagers at some point feel inferior to their peers. For more information on today's episode, including a list of literary recommendations from the Sugars, visit nytimes.com/dearsugars. Today's episode features the song "Beloved Freak" from Garbage's 2012 album "Not Your Kind of People."

Who's Your Daddy? — With Steve Lickteig

With the advent of affordable DNA testing and companies like 23andMe, many people have discovered that the family members they grew up with are not biologically related. For some, these revelations can be a welcome and exciting discovery process. For others, they're shocking and unwanted. In today's episode, Steve Lickteig explains how his family and community kept his true identity from him for 18 years, and the Sugars advise letter writers who are still reeling from their genetic discoveries. For more information on today's episode, including a list of literary recommendations from the Sugars, visit nytimes.com/dearsugars.

Trust Your Body — with Hilary Kinavey & Dana Sturtevant

A letter-writer who calls herself Body Negative was categorized as overweight when she was 5 years old. As an adult, she vacillates between dieting and gorging on cake and ice cream. The sinister cycle of dieting and binge-eating plagues many American women, but recently a counter-movement called Body Positive has sprung up. The movement promotes fat acceptance and attempts to reverse body-shaming, no matter one's size. But Body Negative is skeptical, writing, "I struggle with how to be body positive after years of being told it's wrong to be my size and weight. Is there such a thing as unconditional body acceptance?" Hilary Kinavey, M.S., L.P.C., and Dana Sturtevant, M.S., R.D., the co-owners of Be Nourished, join the Sugars on today's episode to offer new definitions of health and discuss alternatives to the "dieting mind.". For more information on today's episode, including a list of literary recommendations from the Sugars and a link to Cheryl Strayed's photoshopped Vogue image, visit nytimes.com/dearsugars.

Rapid Fire: There's Just One Thing

He's smart, kind, generous and oh-so handsome. You're beginning to imagine starting a family with him. He's everything you've ever wanted in a partner — but there's just this one thing... In today's rapid fire episode, the Sugars read letters from four women who each have one not-so-tiny reservation about the men they're dating. When it comes to religious and racial differences, commitment issues, and health problems, which can be ironed out and which are deal breakers?

Sex & Aging — With Dr. Pepper Schwartz

When two women in their sixties start losing interest in sex, their sex-starved partners become increasingly frustrated. Both women blame old age for their waning libidos. But is their diminished sex drive because of age or something else? The erotic lives of senior citizens are typically made invisible by our culture, which can lead to confusion and misinformation. Dr. Pepper Schwartz, the love and relationship columnist for AARP, joins the Sugars to dispel certain myths about sex and aging For more information on today's episode, including a list of literary recommendations from the Sugars, visit nytimes.com/dearsugars.

Rage is a Red Lesson — With Morgan Jerkins

Shortly after the birth of her first child, a letter-writer who calls herself "Tantrum Daughter" lost her mother to suicide. Now, with a second child on the way, Tantrum Daughter is filled with rage and she's unable to control her angry outbursts. She worries that her anger will drive her husband away and irrevocably harm her children. The Sugars and the writer Morgan Jerkins discuss the connection between trauma and rage, and offer Tantrum Daughter practical ways to address both. For more information on today's episode, including a list of literary recommendations from the Sugars, visit nytimes.com/dearsugars.

Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work (Most) Women Do—With Gemma Hartley

Remembering the grocery list, coordinating with the babysitter, making food for the potluck, scheduling a get-together with the in-laws: These are some of the invisible tasks that (most) women exclusively do in their romantic relationships — and the list goes on and on. In today's episode, the Sugars and Gemma Hartley read letters from wives and girlfriends who are fed up with the imbalance of domestic labor in their romantic relationships. For more information on today's episode, including a list of literary recommendations from the Sugars, visit nytimes.com/dearsugars.

Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work (Most) Women Do—With Gemma Hartley

The Stepchild's Dilemma — With Theo Pauline Nestor

Whether you're 5, 15, or 50 years old, it can be difficult to accept a stepparent into your family unit. In today's episode, the Sugars answer letters from stepchildren who have fraught relationships with their stepparents. What can be done if you don't like the person your parent chooses to marry? And what is a stepparent's responsibility to a stepchild after divorce? The writer Theo Pauline Nestor joins the Sugars to help answer these questions.

I'm In Love With My Abuser — With Esta Soler

For the first time on the podcast, the Sugars answer a voice mail message from the Dear Sugars hotline. The message comes from a woman who reunited with her ex-boyfriend, who once assaulted her. Wracked with shame, she wonders if reconciling with him is acceptable and if it's possible he'll change. Esta Soler, president and founder of Futures Without Violence, joins the Sugars to help answer the question: Is it O.K. to love someone who abused you? If you'd like to leave a voice mail on our hotline, call 929-399-8477.

Buyer's Remorse — With Buzz Bissinger

Buzz Bissinger has a spending addiction, but when he published his confessional in GQ magazine he was labeled a "fancy man," and a "shopaholic." Only when he was admitted into rehab did many people understand that he was struggling with a debilitating behavioral addiction. Spending addictions have the power to destroy lives but they're often minimized or disparaged. Mr. Bissinger joins the Sugars to offer guidance to a single mom whose therapist and family don't take her problem seriously.

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