Everything Happens Life isn't always bright and shiny, as Kate Bowler knows. Kate is a young mother, writer and professor who, at age 35, was suddenly diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. In, warm, insightful, often funny conversations, Kate talks with people about what they've learned in dark times. Kate teaches at Duke Divinity School and is author of "Everything Happens (And Other Lies I've Loved)."
Everything Happens

Everything Happens

From North Carolina Public Radio

Life isn't always bright and shiny, as Kate Bowler knows. Kate is a young mother, writer and professor who, at age 35, was suddenly diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. In, warm, insightful, often funny conversations, Kate talks with people about what they've learned in dark times. Kate teaches at Duke Divinity School and is author of "Everything Happens (And Other Lies I've Loved)."

Most Recent Episodes

Debunking "Everything Happens for a Reason" with Kelly Corrigan

The Everything Happens team is still on a bit of a summer break, but don't worry! We'll be back in August with all new episodes. We thought it might be fun to surprise you with this bonus episode. Kate spoke with her friend, the brilliant and hilarious bestselling writer Kelly Corrigan on Kelly's Podcast: Kelly Corrigan Wonders. Together, the two debunk conventional wisdom like the notion that "Everything Happens for a Reason." Kate Bowler has trouble nodding along when people say things like "Don't put that into the universe!" and "God doesn't give you more than you can handle." But what she simply CANNOT endure is when someone assures her that "everything happens for a reason." Her point of view is tied to two absurd truths of her life: she's a divinity professor at Duke, and she had Stage 4 cancer. She split her time between studying how religion works and getting surgeries that move her belly button around and then recovering from them with her husband who she's been with since she was in braces and her son, who at six, doesn't really get why sometimes she can't do dance parties with him. This conversation will fill you up. Guaranteed. Listen to more episodes from Kelly Corrigan Wonders. Are you following Kate on social media? Find Kate on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook. Sign up for Kate's weekly email newsletters and receive free printable downloads. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How Far We've Come

In our season six finale, Kate takes us back to the very beginning. In this episode, you'll hear the unlikely beginning of the Everything Happens podcast, the most terrified Kate's ever been (for fun reasons), and how love and beauty can surprise us in some of the most unlikely of spaces. Our team needs a little rest and vitamin D then we'll be back with new episodes in August (don't worry!). In the meantime, listen to some of our all time favorite episodes: with M*A*S*H* actor Alan Alda on the power of empathy with The Fault In Our Stars author John Green on living with chronic illness with palliative care physician Dr. Sunita Puri on living with uncertainty with humorist Samantha Irby on the power of the absurd In the meantime, visit nocurebook.com to learn more about Kate's NEW BOOK coming out at the end of September. Find Kate online @KateCbowler and subscribe to our weekly email newsletter at katebowler.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Julianna Margulies: Getting Unstuck

Chaotic childhoods can leave us feeling stuck. Stuck in the roles and relationships and chaos that once felt familiar. Actress Julianna Margulies (best known for her roles in ER and The Good Wife) found incredible success, but nothing seemed to free her from living into past, traumatic dynamics. In this conversation, Kate and Julianna discuss the roles we get trapped inside (I'm the cheerful one! I'm the dutiful one! I'll keep it together!) and how love can surprise us through unlikely strangers and new relationships. Kate ends with a blessing for a permission to change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Suleika Jaouad: You Are Not The Bad Thing (Part 2)

There is a strange tension when we want so badly for the people we love to support us, but want to shield them from the pain at the same time. This is a beautiful, terrible kind of love. In Part Two of our conversation with bestselling author Suleika Jaouad, Kate and Suleika discuss what it is like to be the one suffering—all the guilt and shame and rage and mercy and grace and how we can create better economies of love around those who need it. Kate ends with a blessing for those who feel like their problem is too much to handle—a blessing if you feel like "the bad thing." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Suleika Jaouad: The Kingdom of the Sick (Part 1)

There are two different worlds people inhabit. In one world, people feel infinite bounce. They can see every silver lining and believe in their bones things will always get better and that any set back is probably temporary. But then, there's the other world. These people know what it feels like to live scan-to-scan and hold their breath when the doctor's number shows up on their phone. Bestselling author of Between Two Kingdoms, Suleika Jaouad knows what it means to carry this dual citizenship between the kingdom of the well and the kingdom of the sick. In this conversation, Kate and Suleika discuss what it was like to have a terrible diagnosis as a young person and how to keep living when you can't go back to the way things were. Kate ends with a blessing for those who have lost too much, too quickly. CW: cancer as a young person, incurable illnesses, fertility treatments Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Adam Grant: Leaning into Uncertainty

Everything is in flux. Nothing is the same anymore. How do we live amid all of this uncertainty? Well, psychologist and bestselling author Adam Grant believes we may have to do some re-thinking. In this episode, Kate and Adam speak about the courage it takes to think again about things that we once felt so certain about, how "imposter syndrome" might be a good instinct, and how we all need friends who challenge us (even if it makes us wildly uncomfortable... thanks a lot, Adam!). Oh! And if you listen through to the end, you'll hear a special announcement. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Heather Havrilesky: Be Where You Are

How do we find "enough" in a life that keeps getting.... harder? Our lives are shrinking. We are shrunk by the pandemic or by illness or by age or by any number of losses. And it can be difficult to feel satisfaction and enjoyment again, especially in the midst of a self-help culture that tries to tell you "EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE." In this episode, Kate speaks with writer and advice columnist Heather Havrilesky about finding contentment in our bodies, in our parenting, in our relationships, while living a life we didn't choose. Sometimes we need a smoking appliance day (...that will make more sense when you listen). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mari Andrew: Beautiful, Terrible, and Everything In-Between

How do we navigate the life in-between? In-between relationships and jobs and friends. In-between independence and dependence. In-between the life we have and the life we've always wanted. In this episode, Kate and artist Mari Andrew discuss these liminal spaces, what to do when we're stuck with the B-side versions of ourselves, and how to make a little more space to explore all the colors of this place in-between. CW: Guillain-Barre Syndrome, loss of a parent Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bessel van der Kolk: Our Bodies Keep Score

When something truly awful happens, we can't forget. That memory isn't just stored in our brains. Our bodies keep the score too. Researcher and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk has spent his life studying the affects of trauma on adults and children. In this eye-opening conversation, Kate and Bessel address the nature of trauma, how helplessness and agency affect our experiences, and ways to get unstuck. CW: trauma, PTSD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jamie Lee: Weddings, Divorces, and Loves That Carry Us

Comedian Jamie Lee is now Netflix's The Wedding Coach where she's on a mission to help couples survive the craziness of planning a wedding. A wedding is an event, but a marriage is not an event. During the filming of the show, Jamie's own relationship began to unravel. In this episode, Kate and Jamie exchange hilarious wedding stories (including what 22-year-old bride Kate did on her wedding day) and discuss the micro-griefs of a divorce, and share ways to show love to people experiencing this particular kind of loss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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