Sharing Bright Thoughts On Pregnancy : The Baby Project Emily Grace Whebbe shares some thoughts on her relatively painless pregnancy, to counterbalance the horror stories she had heard about what it could be like.
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Sharing Bright Thoughts On Pregnancy
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We're mostly moved! In one week, we've gotten a lot more done than anyone would have guessed, and I'm finally feeling nested and ready to birth this baby. Of course there is always something else to do to the house, but if the baby arrives tonight, we'll be just fine.

My mom has been absolutely wonderful in helping us move, watching the pup while we pack and unpack, and even cooking meals while we didn't have a functioning kitchen. I'm glad she'll be around after the baby is born.

I went to the birth center last week for my checkup, and baby is still doing well. I asked if I should feel unbearably miserable or uncomfortable beyond contentment (because I don't), and the midwife and apprentice midwife laughed, saying not all pregnancies are what the stereotype suggests.

I've waited weeks and weeks to feel "pregnant" and only today I realized that "pregnant" is whatever it is, comfortable or uncomfortable. I feel a little bad admitting that my pregnancy has been so easy, because I know so many women have complications and struggles and complaints. But since NPR has asked me to write and be honest about my experience, I will!

About Emily

Emily Grace Whebbe, 26, from St. Paul, Minn., is a first-time mom who gave birth to her daughter, Revira, on Aug. 4. She delivered naturally with a midwife at a birth center, accompanied by her partner, Kai.

Dare I say, I don't have swelling, aches or pains, constipation, or headaches. I'm still walking the dog a mile or two a day and sleeping through the night just fine. Dare I go further to say I haven't worn maternity clothes all summer? As an added bonus, my random migraines have stopped all together, something I had read so much about getting worse during pregnancy. This baby is already having positive effects on my life.

At first I was so worried that nine months of agony were in front of me, but it has thankfully been smooth sailing. I just hope this continues. Of course I gloss over my first trimester bleeding here and there (which was quite scary), my six weeks of nausea, and my continuously monitored ovarian cyst (which thankfully hasn't been the potential game-changer it could have been). These things, however, seem minuscule now after so many months of being pregnant.

I'm sure writing this is going to seem like I'm bragging, but I write this, if for no other reason, to contrast all the negative effects of pregnancy I've read about, and to give women who are trying to get pregnant or newly pregnant some bright thoughts on what pregnancy can be. I read all the books in the first few weeks and was so tired of society conveying that pregnancy is such a hindrance.

All of that said, however, I am excited for the day when I'm no longer pregnant and have a baby in my arms instead of my uterus. I'm excited to be proportionate again and be able to run and jump and make sudden moves without my stomach muscles feeling like they're tearing apart. I'm excited to bike the baby around and take her on walks. I'm excited to know what labor and delivery is like instead of just thinking about it for so long. All I can do in these waiting hours is focus on positive thoughts for a healthy birth and baby.

The cautious part of me wonders if a pleasant pregnancy means we're in for complications ahead. I'm becoming impatient quickly and just want it to happen so I can know how it all turns out. Any day now baby, please arrive soon!