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Crystal Joyce's son — her youngest child — is in his senior year of high school, headed to college in the fall. Joyce (left) gets advice on the transition to being an empty nester from Ana Machado, whose children have all left home. Courtesy of Stephen Joyce and Wilmar Machado hide caption

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Adjusting To An Empty Nest Brings Grief, But Also Freedom

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Kam Franklin (left) is lead singer of The Suffers, a band from Houston that started touring three years ago. Amber Daniel is lead singer and bassist of Blame the Youth from North Carolina. They're preparing for their first tour. Courtesy of Jay Bee Zay and Allison Slade hide caption

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How To Survive Playing To An Empty Room And Other Advice For A Band's First Tour

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Audrey Degraaf (left) found out this summer that she's pregnant with triplets. Lorie Shelley gave birth to triplets — two boys and a girl — nearly 20 years ago. Courtesy of Audrey Degraaf; Lorie Shelley hide caption

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Color Coding Your Babies And Other Tips For Raising Triplets

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James Carmody has Asperger's syndrome and is a freshman at the State University of New York College of Environmental Science and Forestry. He sat down with Elizabeth Boresow, who graduated from the University of Kansas and also has autism. Courtesy of James Carmody; Allison Marcus hide caption

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Navigating Life On Campus When You're On The Autism Spectrum

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Camille Miller (left) is still trying to adjust to her new life in a retirement community. She gets advice from Morris Gordon, who made a similar move earlier this year. Patti English; Nicole Acevedo hide caption

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Adjusting To Life In A Retirement Home 'Not As Scary As I Thought'

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Before anorexia, Maddy Rich (left) says she never thought she was the kind of person who would struggle with an eating disorder. She gets advice on recovery from Julia Sinn. Image Courtesy of Samantha Hackett; Elizabeth Birnbaum hide caption

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Fighting An Eating Disorder When It's 'Hard To Want To Get Better'

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After 23 years, Cameron Cook (left) is leaving the service. Jarrad Turner (right) left in 2010. Courtesy of Cameron Cook/Courtesy of Jarrad Turner hide caption

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Advice From A Vet On The 'Rude Awakening' Of Transition To Civilian Life

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Carmen Black (left) took over a farm in Iowa last year. Don Bustos has been farming in New Mexico for decades. Maja Black/Courtesy of Carmen Black; Courtesy of Don Bustos hide caption

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What To Expect When You're Expecting To Own A Farm

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K.T. Nicolaides' (left) husband died late last year, two days before their fifth wedding anniversary. Larry Treadwell was widowed in 2011, when his wife Amanda died suddenly. He's now remarried. Courtesy of K.T. Nicolaides/Courtesy of Larry Treadwell hide caption

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After Losing A Spouse, Finding A Different Kind Of Happiness

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Sara Leibold (left) at the northern terminus of the Appalachian Trail in 2011. Rhys Hora is thru-hiking the trail this year. Courtesy of Sara Leibold/Courtesy of Rhys Hora hide caption

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What You Learn Hiking The Whole Appalachian Trail

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Julian Harris (left) tells Tor Des Roches what he can expect as he begins medically transitioning from female to male. Courtesy of Julian Harris; Andrew Jones/Courtesy of Tor Des Roches hide caption

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Is This Going To Make Me A Different Person? Gender Transition Questions Answered

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Charles Johnson (left) is a new city councilman in Baytown, Texas. Ryan Coonerty (right) knows that feeling well; he served in city government in Santa Cruz, Calif., for nearly a decade as a councilman and mayor. Courtesy of Charles Johnson; Crystal Birns/Courtesy of Ryan Coonerty hide caption

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'None Of These Votes Are Easy': Learning The Ropes On City Council

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Stephen Agyei (left) and Roy Wood Jr. talk about what it takes to make it in comedy. Jeffrey Nicholson/Courtesy of Stephen Agyei; Mindy Tucker/Courtesy of Roy Wood Jr. hide caption

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To Make It In Comedy You Have To Bet On Yourself

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Kristen Daniels (left) is considering becoming a Catholic nun. Sister Donna Del Santo faced the same situation when she was 38 and offers some advice for Kristen as she considers entering the discernment process. Courtesy of Kristen Daniels and Sister Donna Del Santo hide caption

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Entering Religious Life Doesn't Mean Leaving The World Behind

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Melissa Smith (left) offers some advice to Sarah Weeldreyer about amicable divorce. Jody Savage/Courtesy of Melissa Smith and Courtesy of Sarah Weeldreyer hide caption

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Finding A New Kind Of Partnership Through Divorce

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Halley Katz (left) is the first person in her family to attend a four-year college. Tyler Lattimore is a first-generation college graduate. Courtesy of Halley Katz and Anh Bao Tran-Le/Courtesy of Tyler Lattimore hide caption

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College Is A 4-Year-Long Balancing Act For First-Generation Students

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Pam Rector (left) with her daughter Grace became a single mother by choice when she was ready to have a child. Liv Aannestad is expecting her first child in March through the same process, and like all expecting parents she has some questions. Courtesy of Pam Rector/Courtesy of Liv Aannestad hide caption

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Single Moms By Choice Don't Need To Do It Alone

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Austin Beggin (left) and Tim Flynn. Both men suffered neck injuries that left them paralyzed. Courtesy of Shelly Beggin; Courtesy of Kerry Sheridan hide caption

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After Paralysis, A Life Of 'A Different 10,000 Things'

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