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Rosy does dishes — voluntarily. Getting the 2-year-old involved in chores did lead to the kitchen being flooded and dishes being broken. But now she is still eager to help. Michaeleen Doucleff/NPR hide caption

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Gelmy, 9, and sister Alexa, 4, climbing trees in the backyard of their family home in the Yucatan Peninsula. Adriana Zehbrauskas for NPR hide caption

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A Lost Secret: How To Get Kids To Pay Attention

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Kelly Zimmerman holds her son Jaxton Wright at a parenting session at the Children's Health Center in Reading, Pa. The free program provides resources and social support to new parents in recovery from addiction, or who are otherwise vulnerable. Natalie Piserchio for NPR hide caption

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Beyond Opioids: How A Family Came Together To Stay Together

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Stay-At-Home Dads Still Struggle With Diapers, Drool, Stigma And Isolation

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Jean Marie Rukundo and his wife, Theodosie Uwambajimana, with their 2-year-old daughter. They've nicknamed her "Rwamrec," the acronym for a resource center in Rwanda that taught Rukundo how to step up his game as a spouse and father. When he came with his wife to the delivery room for the child, she says that "touched my heart." Amy Yee for NPR hide caption

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The Perils Of Pushing Kids Too Hard, And How Parents Can Learn To Back Off

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Want Your Child To Eat (Almost) Everything? There Is A Way

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How To Get Your Kids To Do Chores (Without Resenting It)

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Why Grandmothers May Hold The Key To Human Evolution

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Sam Oozevaseuk Schimmel, 18, has grown up in both Alaska and Washington state. He is an advocate for Alaska Native youth. Kiliii Yuyan for NPR hide caption

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The Conflicting Educations Of Sam Schimmel

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The "carpenter" parent thinks that a child can be molded, writes Alison Gopnik. The "gardener," on the other hand, is less concerned about who the child will become and instead provides a protected space to explore. Dan Kitwood/Getty Images hide caption

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What Kind Of Parent Are You: Carpenter Or Gardener?

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A poster put out by the U.S. Children's Bureau in 1918. Francis Luis Mora/Library of Congress hide caption

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Parenting Advice From Uncle Sam

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The kids also learned handy visuals, like a remote control for negative thoughts so you can switch channels in your head. Nathalie Dieterle/for NPR hide caption

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To Teach Kids To Handle Tough Emotions, Some Schools Take Time Out For Group Therapy

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Is Sleeping With Your Baby As Dangerous As Doctors Say?

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The Surprising Benefit Of Moving And Grooving With Your Kid

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Want your kid to succeed? Don't try that hard. sturti/Getty Images/Vetta hide caption

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The Carpenter Vs. The Gardener: Two Models Of Modern Parenting

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