How We Fight for Our Lives: A Memoir, by Saeed Jones Patrick Jarenwattananon/NPR hide caption toggle caption Patrick Jarenwattananon/NPR Review Book Reviews 'How We Fight For Our Lives' Is One Life Story That Finds Connection To Others October 14, 2019 Extremely personal, emotionally gritty, and unabashedly honest, Saeed Jones' memoir somehow manages a perfect balance between love and violence, hope and hostility, transformation and resentment.