Church Tries Its Hand at Sex Education
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NPR's Rachel Martin attended one class at a church in Washington state.
RACHEL MARTIN: The afternoon youth group at the United Church of Christ in Federal Way raises its voice in song. But this isn't really your typical Sunday school class.
U: (Singing) Physical, spiritual, sexual bodies. Physical, spiritual, sexual me. God gave me sexuality - healthy, holy sexuality.
MARTIN: Eight middle schoolers are sprawled out on worn couches, multicolored beads hang from the windows, and the room is pulsing with 14-year-old energy. The group gathers here every week for a course on faith and sexuality. Today's lesson, in the form of a Jeopardy quiz game, the nitty-gritty on sexually transmitted diseases.
MARTIN: If a person experiences this sensation while urinating, it can be a symptom of an STD.
MARTIN: Okay, you have five seconds to confer on that.
U: Burning. Burning or stinging.
MARTIN: Ding, ding, ding.
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MARTIN: All right.
U: You didn't say "what is?"
MARTIN: Amy Johnson and her husband Eric are longtime members of the church just south of Seattle, and they started the faith and sexuality classes last year. They teach a curriculum developed by the Unitarian Church and the United Church of Christ about five years ago, called Our Whole Lives. It emphasizes the value and importance of abstaining from sex until marriage, but at the same time, these 14 and 15-year-olds learn about contraception in a very hands-on way. Eric Johnson leads the exercise.
U: Ultra sensitive, lubricated...
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MARTIN: Right. What's the expiration date?
U: I'm looking for it. 2009.
MARTIN: Amy Johnson explains that part of the goal is to demystify sex, while at the same time, revering it as a sacred act.
MARTIN: I think that we've covered it so thoroughly. I would hope that it's not such a forbidden fruit kind of thing, you know, it's like this is a natural part of your life.
MARTIN: These kinds of sex education classes have become increasingly popular in the Unitarian Church and the United Church of Christ. And the program has trained more than a thousand teachers from other Christian denominations and some Jewish synagogues over the past few years.
MARTIN: We have an obligation to help our young people with this most central and spiritual part of their lives. To do anything less is simply immoral.
MARTIN: Deborah Haffner heads up the Religious Institute on Sexual Morality, Justice, and Healing. She's part of a coalition of religious leaders who sent out thousands of letters to clergy and congressmen earlier this year urging them to support what they call comprehensive sex education for youth. She says faith-based sex education classes like the one at the church in Federal Way are in part a response to the abstinence-only programs in many public schools.
MARTIN: The good news about some of those programs is they do talk about things like peer pressure, you know, they do talk about things like body image. What they don't do is give young people information about how to protect themselves if they do have sex.
MARTIN: They need to know the whole truth. God's not against sex. He just says, hey, you know, wait until you're married.
MARTIN: Jay Forsythe is the youth minister at the High Point Community Church, a large Southern Baptist congregation just down the road from Federal Way in nearby Puyallap, Washington. His youth and sexuality course is focused almost exclusively on abstinence and religious values. He uses metaphors like cars and sports to illustrate his lessons, instead of condom obstacle courses or STD quizzes. Forsythe says he addresses contraception, but when he does, he focuses on failure rates.
MARTIN: I tell them if you make the choice to dive into sex or have - excuse me - sexual acts that, you know, you may be protected but then God knows that you did that act and that takes away some of the purity in you.
MARTIN: National leaders in the abstinence movement say that for a school or a church to teach contraception and abstinence is contradictory.
MARTIN: First of all, I think that you're sending a mixed message.
MARTIN: Richard Land is the head of the Southern Baptist Convention's Ethics Commission. He says teaching kids about contraception in schools or in church is like saying, listen, we want you to wait until you're married, but we don't expect you to listen to us, so here's how to use a condom.
MARTIN: We wouldn't do it. I can tell you right now there's not a Southern Baptist Church - there might be one somewhere, but there'll be - I can probably count them on the fingers of two hands - that would talk about contraception to unmarried children.
MARTIN: Fifteen-year-old Kelsey Peterson(ph) says that more information has helped her make better decisions. She's a member of the faith and sexuality class at the Federal Way United Church of Christ.
MARTIN: It's important not to rip the condom when you open the package.
MARTIN: Here she's learned about everything from condoms to chlamydia, but Peterson is the exception here. She's made a personal pledge of abstinence and wears a diamond ring on her slender left hand to symbolize that promise.
MARTIN: Like even when I take it off before bed and stuff, too, it's just always a reminder to me that, you know, of my faith and my promise to myself and to God and to my parents and everyone that I am saving myself until I'm married.
MARTIN: And so how does a class like this fit into that decision?
MARTIN: I guess this just made me realize how much it means to me. Because I've been in compromising situations where I could say, do I really want to take off my ring and go through with this, or do I want to keep my promise. And this class has helped me keep that promise.
MARTIN: Rachel Martin, NPR News.
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