'I'm Not The Only One': Transgender Youth Battle The Odds National polls show a growing acceptance of gay men and women, but the transgender community often feels left out of the discussion. Young transgender people face discrimination in all aspects of life, and many find themselves on the streets.
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'I'm Not The Only One': Transgender Youth Battle The Odds

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'I'm Not The Only One': Transgender Youth Battle The Odds

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This is WEEKEND EDITION from NPR News. I'm Scott Simon. Coming up, a singular father and son musical collaboration. But now, in the first poll of its kind, the Pew Research Center suggests that people are coming out at younger and younger ages. Despite a number of victories for gay rights, there is a population that often feels excluded from the nation debate.

They are the T in LGBT, transgender men and women who still face many obstacles, including employment discrimination and homelessness. And they confront them at an early age. Gloria Hillard reports.

GLORIA HILLARD, BYLINE: A wrist tattoo peeks out from the cuff of the sweater London Griego is wearing. She's a tall 19-year-old with light makeup, slender fingers and long black hair.

LONDON GRIEGO: I remember April 23 was the last time my hair ever was short. April 23, 2006. I've been growing it ever since.

After aging out of the foster care system a year ago, London has been living at the Covenant House shelter in Hollywood. She's looked for work only to be told she doesn't qualify. London says it's because she's transgender.

Because that's how the person who's interviewing me, who's going to hire me, says, you know, I don't want somebody who's going to scare my customers away.

HILLARD: She shrugs. Says when she gets hormone therapy and maybe some surgery, she'll pursue her real dream of having her own makeup line. Maybe become a model.

GRIEGO: I'm not the only one facing these kind of problems, I'm sure.

JAKE FINNEY: Transgender females tend to get the brunt of the discrimination in the transgender community.

HILLARD: Jake Finney is the anti-violence project manager at the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center. He says a 2011 report titled "Injustice at Every Turn" discovered rampant discrimination against transgender individuals, from employment discrimination to...

FINNEY: Housing discrimination, hate crimes. It's very often a problem in the transgender community.

HILLARD: Finney says a high number of transgender youth have tried to commit suicide and many have been kicked out of their homes, rejected by their families. At the center's youth shelter, nearly half of the residents are transgender.

TITUS SLEE: This is the dining room and this is where everybody comes and eats their meals.

HILLARD: Titus Slee is an 18-year-old transgender male with an easy smile and an Obama T-shirt. How the high school senior came to be living here is a story with a few twists and turns. From his earliest memory, Titus thought of himself as a boy. All his friends were boys.

SLEE: And on the fridge there was a picture of me in a dress and one of my friends was, like, dude why are you wearing a dress?


SLEE: And my mom was, like, well, yeah, that's my daughter. And I guess that's when it hit me that I wasn't male, that I was different from all of my friends.

HILLARD: But life was about to change for Titus. His mom struggled with addiction and at the age of eight he went into foster care. Two years later, a family adopted him.

SLEE: When I was adopted, the parents were completely unaccepting and that would go along with the abuse that I faced. They would call me names and it was just really, really bad.

HILLARD: At 15, Titus was removed from the home and reunited with his mother. They had three good years together. When she died earlier this year, he contacted his estranged father who rejected him. And that's when Titus found himself on the streets and on his bike.

SLEE: I was scared because I'd been told that I look a lot younger than I really am, that people would just see a young kid at night and there are always scary people out at night, so I just thought if I ride fast enough they won't catch me.


HILLARD: Los Angeles' Skid Row. Not that long ago it was home to Kimberly McKenzie. She spent a year navigating its chaotic sidewalks, and surviving.

KIMBERLY MCKENZIE: I remember walking down the street and seeing homeless people. I was one of those homeless people now.

HILLARD: The 29-year-old former New Yorker had worked all her life and by her early 20s had a job at a bank in Manhattan. So what happened in McKenzie's life that took her from that job to homelessness, first on the streets of New York and then Los Angeles?

MCKENZIE: All my life, you know, I struggled with my identity, you know, finding who I really was and being comfortable in expressing myself.

HILLARD: So five years ago at the age of 24, McKenzie made the decision to transition from male to female. She began by wearing light makeup and then started hormone therapy.

MCKENZIE: I finally felt like this is it. This is the beginning. This is the beginning of my life, me being in control of it.

HILLARD: Her life did change.

MCKENZIE: Dramatically. It just went total 360. I lost everything. I lost my job.

GLORIA HILLIARD, BYLINE: Along with many friends. Family members just didn't understand, and society?

MCKENZIE: I was humiliated. I lost, like, my dignity. It's like you're an alien. It's like you're not even real. People stare at you and they don't even realize that they're staring at you. But you take it all in. You take the whole world in.

HILLIARD: Even though she was on the streets, she kept herself together. She started volunteering at Lamp Community, an organization that assists the homeless.


MCKENZIE: So, this is my office.

HILLIARD: Today, McKenzie is the administrative assistant at the non-profit. She's perfect for the job, she says, because she has great organizational skills - and she's been there - walked in the shoes of the people she now helps. And, yes, still encounters the whispers and stares. But every once in a while...

MCKENZIE: People just look at me and just smile.

HILLIARD: And that, she says, gives her hope for the future. For NPR News, I'm Gloria Hillard.

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