'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' Is Done; What Now?
DAVID GREENE, Host:
As of today, "don't ask, don't tell" is no longer the law of the land. That means gay people are now allowed to serve openly in the U.S. armed services. Today, we're going to meet two people whose lives will change now. One is a soldier who was discharged under the ban. She became a public advocate for getting rid of "don't ask, don't tell," and now she plans to rejoin the military. The other, a Marine officer who served two tours in Iraq. He's gay, but has never talked openly about his sexuality until now. Here's NPR's Rachel Martin.
RACHEL MARTIN: Let's start with Stacy Vasquez.
STACY VASQUEZ: I like to say that I'm a government-certified homosexual.
MARTIN: Vasquez was a 30-year-old Army sergeant first class when she was discharged under "don't ask, don't tell." Someone claimed to have seen her kissing a woman at a gay bar, and that was the end of her career.
VASQUEZ: Yeah, it ended right in front of my eyes that day. That was a hard day.
MARTIN: But it was the beginning of her very public role in the movement to repeal "don't ask, don't tell." She became an activist, appearing with Lady Gaga at the Video Music Awards.
LADY GAGA: My friend Stacy here was discharged after 12 years in the Army, that she served her country...
MARTIN: And giving countless speeches calling for an end of "don't ask, don't tell."
VASQUEZ: How many veterans do I have in the audience? Raise your hand. Yeah, raise them proud.
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MARTIN: Now that the ban has been lifted, she's applying to go back into the military - the Army Reserves. But like others discharged under "don't ask, don't tell," there are no guarantees.
VASQUEZ: There is no, like, Monopoly card, go-for-free kind of thing, no. And it depends on how many people they're looking for, what background they're looking for, what skill sets they're looking for. And I have to pass my physical quals. I've gotten a little bit older. I've gained a little weight.
MARTIN: So Vasquez may not get in, and that would be OK with her. She has different expectations now. She's not going to have the Army career she had planned on eight years ago when she was forced out. Her high profile during the "don't ask, don't tell" debate helped her close that door, but it opened others.
VASQUEZ: Because it really helped me move beyond the stages of, you know, I went through sad. I went through angry. I went through cynical. I went through all the stages. I just did it in front of a camera.
MARTIN: Stacy Vasquez made a name for herself being a gay soldier. But many others kept their sexual identity a secret.
MARTIN: My name is Darrel Choat. I am a major in the United States Marine Corps.
MARTIN: This is the first time Major Choat has publicly acknowledged that he's gay. He wrote an essay that'll be published in a book on "don't ask, don't tell" coming out in a few weeks. He read me an excerpt.
CHOAT: (Reading) I'm a patriotic American. I am an officer of the Marines who loves country, Corps and my Marines. I am doing the best to serve proudly and honorably, and I happen to be gay.
MARTIN: I spoke with Darrel Choat at his suburban home. Choat's wearing his Marine fatigues, his hair clipped short. He shows me around.
CHOAT: My partner, who I bought the house with - former partner - he had some nice artwork, and that was here.
MARTIN: Choat joined the Marine Corps 14 years ago, when he was 34. He had to get a waiver for his age, but the Nebraska native was dead-set on being a Marine.
CHOAT: You know, swearing an oath to protect and defend the Constitution and bear true faith and allegiance to the same - I take that very seriously.
MARTIN: When he signed up, Choat knew he was gay, but he also knew that joining the Marines meant keeping quiet about that part of his life.
CHOAT: You know I was a little cavalier. I thought, hey, I'm squared away. I know who I am. This isn't going to be a big deal. And over time, it became a big deal, and it just - it's something that just kind of creeps up on you, the small compromises, the things that you do, how you just, like, have to bisect yourself, have to bisect your life.
MARTIN: He rose through the ranks, did two tours in Iraq in 2005 and 2006 during some of the worst fighting of the war. He had personal relationships, but he kept them quiet. Then last year, everything changed. The Pentagon was reviewing "don't ask, don't tell." Federal courts were weighing in. The commandant of the Marine Corps at the time said the vast majority of Marines would not want to room with someone who's openly gay.
CHOAT: And then when you've got, you know, senior leaders in the Marine Corps saying these things about the Marines they've served beside and served with, you just think: What is going on here? Why are you disrespecting these Marines? Why are you disrespecting your Marines?
MARTIN: At that point a year ago, Major Choat wanted to speak out, but he couldn't. So he found another way to get his message across. As a student at the Marine Corps University, he wrote his thesis on "don't ask, don't tell." He designed a survey to gauge opinions and sent it out to other Marines.
CHOAT: I mean, it was just like this huge, huge lump was in my throat. And oh, my God, what have I done? What have I done?
MARTIN: After all, he was a single, 47-year-old man who didn't talk about women.
CHOAT: If I'm suddenly doing a thesis on "don't ask, don't tell," I just felt, hey, you know, this bright spotlight's going to be shining on me, and people are going to start asking questions: Well, what's up with Choat? You know? And I was afraid of that.
MARTIN: Choat said part of him wanted people to know. He set himself on a collision course knowing people were going to figure out he's gay, and some did, although this is his first time talking publicly about it. He has gay friends in the military who told him not to do it, not to go public, that it'll be the end of his career. And they are choosing to stay quiet.
CHOAT: They don't want people to think less of them. They're afraid of friends turning their backs on them, so they're not going to come out.
MARTIN: Choat says he's not sure what happens next. But he says all that talk about Marines threatening to leave the force over this issue is nonsense.
CHOAT: When they say, well, you know, I couldn't serve alongside a Marine or I couldn't share a fighting position with a Marine that's gay or anything like that, I think, wow. So, gay Marines have that much power that they can totally disarm you and defeat you just by their simple presence? And you call yourself a Marine? Come on, dude. What's your problem? Get over it.
MARTIN: But it has taken him a long time to get to this point. Now, Choat wanted to make clear that he is speaking only for himself, not for the Marine Corps, which shows how controversial this whole subject still is within the military. So, after 18 years and more than 11,000 discharges, those are the stories of just two people affected by "don't ask, don't tell." For Stacy Vasquez, who's been fighting for repeal since she was forced out of the military, today marks the end of a long battle. For Darrel Choat, going to work, even just saying hi to other Marines today marks the beginning.
CHOAT: I expect some of them to, you know, shake my hand and say, hey, don't care. And I also expect others to, you know, not deal with me, and not want to deal with me, to be uncomfortable around me. I know they will. You know, so be it. I'm just an American, I'm a Marine. I haven't done anything but serve my country honorably.
MARTIN: The Marine Corps ball is coming up in November. Major Choat says he is planning to go, as he does every year, but this time, he's bringing a date. Rachel Martin, NPR News, Washington.
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