For Families Of Heroin Addicts, Comfort Comes In Sharing Their Stories Parents who have lost children to addiction and overdose gather at a weekly support group south of Los Angeles. In relating their stories, they hope to cope with a pain that's growing all too common.

For Families Of Heroin Addicts, Comfort Comes In Sharing Their Stories

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ARUN RATH, HOST:

Startling numbers from the CDC this week - deaths from heroin overdose have quadrupled since 2002. Many of the dead are young people, young people whose families suffer alongside them and are left behind after a fatal overdose. We sent Rebecca Hersher and Carla Javier to meet with some of those family members this week. Carla, where did you go?

CARLA JAVIER, BYLINE: We went to a support group in a town south of LA, and they were in this room in a community center. And there were about 50 people there who talked over the course of the night.

UNIDENTIFIED WOMAN #1: Hi. How are you?

REBECCA HERSHER, BYLINE: Arun, it was mostly moms who came, although not all. And most of these people have been through just terrible things. A lot of them have lost children under 30 to heroin, to opioid pills like Vicodin, like Oxycontin. These are gateway drugs for heroine.

RATH: Right.

HERSHER: They were really open with us - moms, dads, siblings. And they told us some really personal stuff.

ALICE: My name's Alice. My son, Joey, died of a heroin overdose April 5, 2012.

PHYLLIS: My name is Phyllis, and I lost my son. He was 25, and he died of a heroin overdose.

CHELSEA: My name's Chelsea. I lost my 26-year-old brother to a accidental heroin overdose. He had been sober for over a year and relapsed and passed away. And, yeah, that's it.

JAVIER: It takes about an hour to go around the table. Almost everybody had a really sad story. Here's a mom named Cindy.

CINDY: I found him. He died on a Saturday, and I found him in my ex-husband's garage on Monday.

JENNY MARALETOS: My name is Jenny.

JAVIER: That's Jenny Maraletos. She came to the support group to talk about her son, Dimitri. He overdosed on heroin at least 10 times.

MARALETOS: He's fought addiction for several years - multiple overdoses, multiple arrests, and...

JAVIER: And she's talking about him and all his troubles, and then she says something that totally shocked me.

MARALETOS: I'm glad to say that he's in recovery today, and he's here. He's over there.

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HERSHER: Her son, Dimitri Zarate, is 37 now. He's sitting next to me, and as a recovering addict, he brings some hope to this support group.

DIMITRI ZARATE: You know, if I have a bad day, all I have to do is - you know what? I have a warm bed and a shower. Because I was homeless, and my life today is just absolutely amazing.

HERSHER: The group is open to anyone who's been affected by addiction, including current addicts. Dimitri takes a moment to give advice to one addicted man who came tonight and is clearly struggling.

ZARATE: To the gentleman over there, just don't lose hope. All I can say is don't lose hope because I know what it's like to be hopeless.

HERSHER: Michael Martin Wage is listening. I see him start to cry. A few minutes later, he has something to share with the group.

MICHAEL MARTIN WAGE: I can tell you right now that there's nothing that you could have done - nothing - to save those kids. And I know because there's nothing that has changed me. It's me. It's my decisions, and it had nothing to do with how I love someone. You guys be strong, and everything will be OK, you know? Your kids love you, too, and they wish they could tell you that right now.

JAVIER: Around the table, people are nodding. The meeting goes on for another hour.

UNIDENTIFIED WOMAN #2: It's getting late, so we're going to wrap it up.

JAVIER: As people are leaving, I talked to Patty Leavitt. She's a cofounder of the support group. Her son, Travis, died of a heroin overdose five years ago. She says she sees a definite trend of heroin use.

PATTY LEAVITT: It's pretty shocking to me when we have one young person after another saying they're addicted to pills - opiate pills, to heroin, heroin, heroin. I was telling her, when drug court participants come, almost 100 percent now it's heroine.

HERSHER: Diana Presta-Selecky has been in and out of drug court with her son, Andrew. Just as we start talking about him...

DIANA PRESTA-SELECKY: Speak of the devil. I've got to take this because I don't get to call back. It's Andrew. I don't get to call him back, so...

HERSHER: Andrew is in jail right now.

PRESTA-SELECKY: Are you clean? You haven't used at all?

HERSHER: Diana has five other children. Andrew's addiction is exhausting and expensive for the family. He has been in and out of rehab for 10 years.

PRESTA-SELECKY: All right. I'll talk to you tomorrow. All right, love you, too. Bye.

Yeah, so, you know, he calls. He was calling every day, but he's in jail. Nothing new is happening in his life. It's like - and I can only come up with - you can have a 45-minute call, but I can only come up with so much conversation, you know?

HERSHER: She said she worries about Andrew when he's behind bars, but in some ways, jail is a godsend for Diana.

PRESTA-SELECKY: To be honest with you, when he's in jail, it's when I get my most sound sleep because I'm not waiting for that phone call of somebody to tell me that he's dead. I'm not waiting for the knock on the door.

RATH: Wow, Becky. That is intense.

HERSHER: Yeah. And as we were leaving, Diana said something that really stuck with me. She said she feels powerless, and you can hear that in her voice. But she also hopes that the CDC report and more awareness will somehow draw attention and hopefully find solutions.

RATH: Wow. That's NPR's Rebecca Hersher. She reported this story with Carla Javier. Carla, Becky, thank you so much.

HERSHER: Thanks.

JAVIER: Thanks.

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