Taking The 'Journey' Through Alzheimer's Together Winston and Pansy Green are doing their best to live a normal life. But they've had to adjust to the loss of what Winston calls "little things" day by day and year by year.
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Taking The 'Journey' Through Alzheimer's Together

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Now we check in on the Greenes. Pansy is one of the 5.7 million Americans with Alzheimer's disease. She and her husband Winston call her illness part of their journey together. We first met the Greenes in 2013 when they talked about having to make adjustments in their daily lives.


WINSTON GREENE: I don't have to say oh, well, baby, I - you just told me that, or I just told you that. You know, and that's what I had to really work on myself.

PANSY GREENE: And I just said, well, just be patient with me. I just forgot. That's all I can do.

SIMON: NPR's Ina Jaffe covers aging. She reports that the Greenes continue to adjust to losses one by one. And day by day, they're doing their best to hang on to what's left of normal.

INA JAFFE, BYLINE: A meal can be so much more than sustenance. It gives structure to the day. It's a way to bond with family and friends. But Pansy Greene doesn't cook anymore. Her husband Winston stands in the kitchen of their suburban home and points to the stove.

W. GREENE: No knobs. We just take off all the knobs because with this disease, Pansy might come in and turn on - gas may be escaping. Anything could happen.

JAFFE: Winston calls this one of the little things they've lost. But the list of little things keeps getting longer. Pansy used to talk more. She's pretty quiet now. Pansy used to pay the bills. Now Winston does. She used to do the laundry. That's also Winston's job now, though Pansy doesn't want to hear it.

W. GREENE: Hey, Pansy, what do you say? OK, so I do the wash. Pansy...

P. GREENE: Since when do you do that?

W. GREENE: ...Well, you do the folding up. You help out, too. We do it together.

JAFFE: The Greenes have been doing everything together for 61 years. In our first interview in 2013, they explained that they met at a party when Pansy was just 16 and Winston was 18.


P. GREENE: He wouldn't let anybody else dance with me (laughter).

W. GREENE: You know, I had just moved here from New York, and I thought I was better than sliced bread.

JAFFE: They married not long after they met, raised three daughters and spent decades working in the aerospace industry - Pansy on the space shuttle, Winston on the B-1 bomber. Now, at the age of 80, his full-time job is making sure that he and Pansy have days that are as full as he can make them, which is why five days a week, they have lunch at the Santa Clarita Valley Senior Center.

W. GREENE: So, Hilda, you remember we said we was bringing someone here?

JAFFE: Winston explains to his lunch companions that the reporter tagging along is just a part of his and Pansy's efforts to raise awareness of Alzheimer's disease, particularly for other African-Americans, who are especially at risk.

W. GREENE: Because there's too many people that have Alzheimer's and everything is hush-hush. And so by being advocates and talking about it, it may help anybody.

JAFFE: Winston could probably make sandwiches at home, but he knows that the social stimulation here is important for Pansy. And she does perk up. She smiles. She gets chatty.

P. GREENE: How you doing?

JAFFE: I'm doing well. How are you doing?

P. GREENE: I'm doing good.

JAFFE: Good.

P. GREENE: Thank you.

JAFFE: Do you like seeing these people every day?

P. GREENE: Now, I do.

JAFFE: You do, yeah?

P. GREENE: I do, but sometimes I get tired. But anyway, I get up to make myself more spiritual to God. So that's the way I try to take it.

JAFFE: Winston notices the difference. You're doing a lot of talking, he tells her.

P. GREENE: I like it.

W. GREENE: I know. I like it, too.


W. GREENE: I've got to think about stuff to talk about so we can talk all day long.

P. GREENE: Well, don't do it too much.

W. GREENE: Not too much? OK.


JAFFE: Winston knows it's also important to keep Pansy physically and mentally active, so in the afternoons they walk and listen to music. Sometimes they attend support groups. Dinnertime is another opportunity to bond over a meal.

SHANE FERRIS: All right, this is for grandma.

JAFFE: Their son-in-law Shane Ferris sets a plate of roast beef, mashed potatoes and veggies in front of Pansy. Five nights a week, she and Winston have dinner at the home of Shane and their daughter Antoinette Ferris, who explains that Shane is the cook in the family.

ANTOINETTE FERRIS: He's actually a chef. He went to culinary school and all that good stuff.

JAFFE: Winston says dinners here are the reason that he and Pansy moved close by.

W. GREENE: Shane said you come out, you'll never have to cook another meal.

S. FERRIS: And I still don't remember saying that. That's the thing.


JAFFE: He's joking, of course.

S. FERRIS: They're a great mom and dad. We got along from Day 1. Plus, you know the old saying - happy wife, happy life.

A. FERRIS: Total suck-up.


JAFFE: There's a full house. Shane and Antoinette's 13-year-old son Aiden and 26-year-old daughter Alexia are at the table. Two dogs and three cats just wish they were. Pansy doesn't join in the conversation much, so Winston checks in with her from time to time.

W. GREENE: Nothing bothering you today?

P. GREENE: No, nothing's bothering me today.

W. GREENE: OK, good.

P. GREENE: Sometimes it's difficult because I'm not sure what I'm doing. But most of the time I get a (unintelligible).

JAFFE: That last little bit wasn't really a word. Antoinette says these lapses in speech are happening more frequently.

A. FERRIS: Getting the words out and speaking in legible sentences is one thing that's just come up over in the last few months, huh? Yeah, so much more than before.

W. GREENE: Absolutely.

JAFFE: Maybe that's another one of what Winston calls the little things. He's focused on what really matters.

W. GREENE: Even though going through this, Pansy and I are still here. We're together. We are a couple.

JAFFE: And that's what makes life normal, even though with Alzheimer's it's a different kind of normal every day. Ina Jaffe, NPR News.

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