There Is No Blame; There Is Only Love When Ann Karasinski discovered her daughter was a heroin addict, she struggled to understand how it happened. Instead of answers, Karasinski found a belief that helps her continue to love her daughter.
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There Is No Blame; There Is Only Love

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There Is No Blame; There Is Only Love

There Is No Blame; There Is Only Love

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(SOUNDBITE OF THIS I BELIEVE INTRO)

STEVE INSKEEP, Host:

On Mondays we bring you our series This I Believe, and today a retired school psychologist tells a painful story about love. Here's our series curator Jay Allison.

JAY ALLISON: Here she is with her essay for This I Believe.

ANNE KARASINSKI: When Katie came home from rehab, I approached each day with the zeal of a drill sergeant. I championed the 12-step program and monitored her improvement daily, as though curing heroin addiction was as simple as nursing a cold. I drove her to therapy sessions and AA meetings. I controlled everything and left nothing to chance. But in spite of my efforts, Katie didn't get better. She left my home, lost again to the powerful grip of addiction.

INSKEEP: Katie and I meet for breakfast on Friday mornings now. We drink coffee and talk. I don't try to heal her. I just love her. Sometimes there is pain and sorrow, but there is no blame. I believe there is only love.

ALLISON: For This I Believe, I'm Jay Allison.

INSKEEP: This I Believe continues next Monday on ALL THINGS CONSIDERED with an essay about tradition.

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