Woman Who Popularized Gender-Reveal Parties Says Her Views On Gender Have Changed Jenna Karvunidis, an early proponent of gender reveal parties, now has more nuanced thoughts about the popular themed events. That's in part to her own daughter, one of the first gender reveal babies.

Woman Who Popularized Gender-Reveal Parties Says Her Views On Gender Have Changed

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LULU GARCIA-NAVARRO, HOST:

It's the surprise party all over social media. It's been called the gender reveal party.

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UNIDENTIFIED PEOPLE: (Screaming).

UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #1: It's a girl.

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UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #2: (Shouting) It's a boy.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: That was a couple finding a box of pink clothes, another of a man swinging a golf ball leaving a blue trail of powder. There are hundreds of these videos of expectant couples revealing the sex of their baby using the colors pink for girl and blue for a boy. For blogger Jenna Karvunidis, it was through a cake.

JENNA KARVUNIDIS: We had a knife, and we cut into it altogether. We all saw the pink icing at the same time and found out that we were having a girl.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: That was in 2008 before Pinterest or Instagram. So how did Karvunidis get the idea? For one, she loves cake. And...

KARVUNIDIS: I mean, gosh, I just like to throw parties. I just thought it would be really fun for everybody in the whole family to find out.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: Karvunidis' cake idea was written up by a local Chicago magazine. But then...

KARVUNIDIS: I started noticing, myself, more and more of them about a year or two later. And then, of course, you know, I don't know, the last maybe five years, it's just gone totally crazy.

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UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #3: Newly released video shows the moment a gender reveal party went terribly wrong. The blaze quickly spread.

KARVUNIDIS: Now I'm seeing them, and they're burning down forests and exploding cars, bringing alligators into the mix. And it's just become a bit of a nightmare.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: There was something else that made her rethink her party 11 years ago, and she recently wrote about it on Facebook.

KARVUNIDIS: Plot twist - the baby from the original gender reveal party is a girl who wears suits. She says, you know, she and her and all of that, but, you know, she really goes outside, I'd say, gender norms.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: The post went viral. Karvunidis may have been one of the first people to publicly talk about her gender reveal party, but she says her views on sex and gender have changed, especially when talking to her daughter.

KARVUNIDIS: She's telling me, Mom, there are many genders. Mom, there's many different sexualities and, you know, all different types, and I take her lead on that.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: Karvunidis does have some regret.

KARVUNIDIS: I know it's been harmful to some individuals. It's 2019. We don't need to get our joy by giving others pain. I think there's a new way to have these parties.

GARCIA-NAVARRO: And she has another idea.

KARVUNIDIS: Celebrate the baby. There's no way to have a cake to cut into it to see if they're going to like chess. Let's just have a cake.

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GARCIA-NAVARRO: That was Jenna Karvunidis from Pasadena, Calif.

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